Page 9 | DH golf weekend at the same time as my Covid vaccine

Bakinggiraffe · 2021-05-03T19:43:33+00:00

Well, I found out today that DH booked a golf weekend for beginning of July this week. I am due to have my 2nd Covid vaccine (AZ) on that Saturday. I suffered some side effects after the first doze and am shocked that he thought it was ok to go away and leave me to look after two children (10 and 13yrs) on my own. He said that I was overreacting and suggested that I changed the date of my vaccine. He was not very happy when I suggested he changed the date of his golf trip. What would you do in my place? Am I overreacting?

caramelsalted · 04/05/2021 09:54

Yes YABU

10&13 they can look after you

It's a 10min appointment

Get a grip

ddl1 · 04/05/2021 09:59

Unless there's something we don't know, either about your health or your children, I think you are over-reacting.The children are 10 and 13, not 1 and 4, and presumably can look after themselves much of the time even if you feel unwell. If it's the meals that worry you, you could perhaps get takeaways and/or order a delivery in advance - or perhaps the children at their age could prepare a meal for themselves; even if it's just sandwiches and not a very balanced meal, it doesn't really matter as a one-off.

ineedaholidaynow · 04/05/2021 10:00

@caramelsalted I don't think it's the 10 minute appointment that the OP is concerned about. Some people have had some awful side effects from the vaccination. My MIL has spent the last few days in bed, this is probably only the second time I have known her do that in the 20+ years I have known her. She normally battles on no matter how ill she is.

I read on another thread that someone's husband had horrendous hallucinations among other symptoms.

Themadcatparade · 04/05/2021 11:26

I would change the vaccine date if you are worried. It’s not as though you are having major surgery Op honestly.

We have just come out of being housebound for a year and he will be looking forward to, and much deserving of a golf break.

poppycat10 · 04/05/2021 11:28

Change the appointment if you are that worried.

But do 10 and 13 year olds actually need looking after? They can live on beans on toast for the weekend if needsbe, the sky won't fall in.

Quartz2208 · 04/05/2021 11:30

Changing an appointment on the online system is not an easy thing to do and runs a very high risk of losing an appointment. Around my area unless more supply comes in second dose appointments are running around mid August now and the system hates it being more that 11 or 12 weeks.

Put simply changing a vaccine appointment if booked via the online system is not that viable an option

saraclara · 04/05/2021 11:46

@Quartz2208

Changing an appointment on the online system is not an easy thing to do and runs a very high risk of losing an appointment. Around my area unless more supply comes in second dose appointments are running around mid August now and the system hates it being more that 11 or 12 weeks.

Put simply changing a vaccine appointment if booked via the online system is not that viable an option

The second doses are saying August now, on the assumption that people are registering for their first vaccination now.

If you put in your details and you had your first vaccination 11 weeks ago, it will give you appointments in the next week. I know because I changed mine the other day, and have just been for my second this morning. It was really easy.

KarmaStar · 04/05/2021 12:05

Is this a reverse?😀
It's a vaccine for goodness sake,you'll be fine!
You're going to feel very silly when you have no reaction whatsoever .let him go.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 04/05/2021 12:17

My single parent friend had COVID really badly, but not badly enough to be hospitalised. No friends or family nearby and her children similar age to yours looked after her with neighbours dropping off shopping.
Even the worst side effects will subside in a couple of days and at least you can plan for the possibility of being ill for a day or two eg make some food that your DCs can heat in the microwave.
I would be mightily pissed off of my DH asked me to cancel a weekend away for him to have his vaccine.

Anoisagusaris · 04/05/2021 12:28

Even if you have to spend the whole weekend in bed, your kids are old enough to look after themselves and you

AryaStarkWolf · 04/05/2021 12:39

Bloody hell your kids are 10 and 13 not toddlers, you are way over reacting

Silvercatowner · 04/05/2021 15:26

You are fucking ridiculous

Fucksake why - just why. Mumsnet really pisses me off sometimes.

Glitteryone · 04/05/2021 15:56

Jeeez OP, I’m a single parent and ended up in bed for 2 days after my first vaccine.

My kids are similar ages to yours and we managed fine.

I think YABVVVVU!!!

Lovemusic33 · 04/05/2021 16:03

OP, I had my 2nd vaccine this morning and feel perfectly fine. With the first I had a head ache within 2 hours of having it, this time I feel great (so far), have been outside gardening 😁. The nurse that did it said if you had a reaction to the first it’s unlikely the 2nd will cause the same reaction, you might get mild side effects of none at all.

KevinTheGoat · 04/05/2021 20:08

They'll be fine. Just give them something they can heat up if you're worried about not being able to cook.

KevinTheGoat · 04/05/2021 20:11

@RedcurrantPuff

Jesus some people really have no bloody resilience. Take a couple of paracetamol and get on with it. Surely you’ve had to look after your kids when you’ve felt unwell before? It’s not ideal but it’s just life.

Bingo!

KevinTheGoat · 04/05/2021 20:16

@GCAcademic

YABVVU for accepting early on in the thread that you were being unreasonable. Don’t you know that everyone on here likes to administer a good kicking? You’ve ruined the only pleasure they get in life. Never mind, they’ll ignore your posts and carry on anyway.

Exactly. That comment about suicide, fucking hell. Some people on here are unbelievable. I don't think husband is going to kill himself because OP is complaining on MN.

Quartz2208 · 04/05/2021 20:42

This thread has a very different viewpoint on AZ side effects to some of the threads in the Coronavirus topic!

saraclara · 04/05/2021 22:15

I had a horrible reaction to my first vaccination. Had my second first thing this morning and no effects at all. I'd be really embarrassed if I'd made someone change their plans to look after me.

mathanxiety · 05/05/2021 07:00

I could easily and happily book a full weekend at a spa with my girlfriends and have with out telling my husband or asking him first then only telling him after it’s been booked , I’m not sure who your dating or who you friends are dating but I’d suggested dumping them I’m a grown ass woman and I don’t answer to my husband nor him with me ! Just like this man shouldn’t have to answer to her

Generally speaking, being considerate and respectful is a far better foundation for a relationship than the 'fuck you mate' approach you seem to be advocating, and which the OP's husband has signaled loud and clear.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 05/05/2021 07:44

I could easily and happily book a full weekend at a spa with my girlfriends and have with out telling my husband or asking him first then only telling him after it’s been booked , I’m not sure who your dating or who you friends are dating but I’d suggested dumping them I’m a grown ass woman and I don’t answer to my husband nor him with me ! Just like this man shouldn’t have to answer to her

Wow, that is up there with expecting your husband to stay home when you've had a vaccination as examples of relationships I wouldn't want to be in. PP hit nail on the head, it's about respect - not control.

soditall56 · 05/05/2021 11:29

Yes I would say you are.

Giving that people have not been allowed to meet up and do fun stuff, I think I'd be pleased my DH had something nice planned

Your kids aren't babies who need constant attention although if your worried you wouldn't cope id change your appointment