DH golf weekend at the same time as my Covid vaccine

[Bakinggiraffe]

Well, I found out today that DH booked a golf weekend for beginning of July this week. I am due to have my 2nd Covid vaccine (AZ) on that Saturday. I suffered some side effects after the first doze and am shocked that he thought it was ok to go away and leave me to look after two children (10 and 13yrs) on my own. He said that I was overreacting and suggested that I changed the date of my vaccine. He was not very happy when I suggested he changed the date of his golf trip.
What would you do in my place? Am I overreacting?

Have some microwave meals in for the kids so it’s a minimum effort weekend. If you really are too ill to even function at all then have you a grandparent/friend who might help? It seems unlikely you would be that bad though- and DH would just have to cut his trip short and come home if you really cannot cope.

Fuck me, can your 13 year old really not look after themselves?! I know I had to with a single parent upbringing!!

You're being a drama queen.

Thanks for your comments so far. Ok, it seems that I am being unreasonable. I love this forum, Mumsnetters tell you straight

I will let her know @OwlBeThere

She will also supply blankets, pillows and chocolates.

The only downside is that the dog does come first so if he needs something you can whistle!

I'm having mine tomorrow and leaving work for 2 hours to go there and back to work, along with collecting my DD from school in the afternoon. As a single parent its how it is and not worried about it at all

Massively UR
10 and 13! I thought u were gonna say u had toddlers, I'm sure between them they could cook and get themselves showered etc. Tidy up after themselves. They don't need care as such.

I'm struggling to take this seriously for all the reasons given already.

YANBU to want someone to look after you but YABU to not think that the dc can do this if needed. I would start teaching the 10yr old how to make teas and cup a soup and the 13yr old how to cook pasta/ heat up microwave meal. Make sure you have some easy meals in the fridge and some films to stream. Clubs might need to be skipped.

Having said that virtually everyone seems to react badly to first AZ and then fine for second one so your dh could sit around all weekend moaning that he could be playing golf. Is the vaccine centre nearby?

I was ill after my first jab, might have been slower than normal and not got as much done as I may normally have done but I certainly didn't expect anyone to look after me. Your kids will definitely cope for 12/24hrs with snacks or takeaway

Jesus Christ, what a drama llama.

See it as an opportunity to have a relaxing weekend with the children. Tell them you'll be feeling rough, you want to chill and watch films with them and get a takeaway. Make blanket nest on sofa for you all, eat sweets, etc. Theyll love it.

@Changemusthappen Good question. He has had his 2nd doze already, so sadly I can’t book it on the same day

Ffs. You're a grown woman.

I had four days of headache, fatigue & chills, and managed to work and manage at home alone.

Your kids are certainly old enough to help if you feel ill.

What do you expect your DH to do for your kids they won't be able to do themselves?

@Theweedonkeeey

Have some microwave meals in for the kids so it’s a minimum effort weekend. If you really are too ill to even function at all then have you a grandparent/friend who might help? It seems unlikely you would be that bad though- and DH would just have to cut his trip short and come home if you really cannot cope.

At their ages I could cook normal meals. High time they learn. Or at least to cook eggs & toast or a grilled cheese sandwich.

Awaits either massive drip feed or silence from OP. I suspect the 2nd is more likely.

10 and 13? I thought you were going to say they were babies.

They can look after themselves if you are feeling rough. Make sure you have some easy food in the house they can help themselves to, and fetch for you.

You may find you are ok.

Show a bit of fortitude, woman. If you don't want him to go on the golf trip just say so, but don't go all silly about a vaccination that really only makes you feel a bit hungover.

Jeez if your kids can't cope with this you really need to work on developing their independence. Even if you spend the whole weekend in bed they should be looking after themselves and brining you toast etc.

Honestly I’d hope this wasn’t real because this is an over reaction in the extreme. Your kids are ten and thirteen, nothings going to happen to you you can have your vaccine and he can do his golf trip.

I sometimes wonder how some people get through their lives. Just get on with it like everyone else. I hope he enjoys his quiet weekend away!

Reactions are less common after the 2nd.
I had very flu-like shivers and shakes after my 1st - nothing after the 2nd.

I think as it's probably easy to move the shot, then you should do that.

But I actually don't think it's unreasonable to expect your DH to be around when you do have it just in case you do have a bad reaction. I was really bad after my 2nd.

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER

Reactions are less common after the 2nd. I had very flu-like shivers and shakes after my 1st - nothing after the 2nd.

Actually, if you have the Moderna (and you haven't already had Covid) it is quite common to get a worse reaction after the 2nd dose. And weird reactions like the Covid arm which can appear 5 days after the shot too.

I really disagree with everyone here.

I was told if you had an specifically allergic reaction to the first the second is likely to be more pronounced.

The headache from the second vaccine was fine.DC could cope through that However I discretely dropped them with relatives when I realised actually I would need to be checked over medically. I'm a single parent so I had no choice. If I have a choice I wouldn't have been the sole adult in the house.

If I said I wanted back up that weekend, I'd expect that to come first over golf. On the other hand I dont know anyone whose injection was exactly 3 months after so you may find there is some flexibility anyway