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DH golf weekend at the same time as my Covid vaccine

222 replies

Bakinggiraffe · 03/05/2021 20:43

Well, I found out today that DH booked a golf weekend for beginning of July this week. I am due to have my 2nd Covid vaccine (AZ) on that Saturday. I suffered some side effects after the first doze and am shocked that he thought it was ok to go away and leave me to look after two children (10 and 13yrs) on my own. He said that I was overreacting and suggested that I changed the date of my vaccine. He was not very happy when I suggested he changed the date of his golf trip.
What would you do in my place? Am I overreacting?

OP posts:
user648482729 · 03/05/2021 20:53

How ill were you after your first?
I had my 1 year old and 4 year old after having my vaccine. I did feel rubbish but not so bad that I needed DH to be at home to look after the kids. At age 10 and 13 surely they can entertain themselves if you aren’t feeling great?

Nataliafalka · 03/05/2021 20:54

You’re being completely ridiculous,

ifyougetthechancedoit · 03/05/2021 20:54

It depends. If you told him the date and you told him you wanted him at home then he was very unreasonable. If you didn't tell him the date or didn't tell him you wanted him at home then you are being unreasonable and you need to change your appointment.

Acappuchinoplease · 03/05/2021 20:54

Overreaction I think. I was really poorly after my first and still managed to care for the kids. I had side effects after the second dose but not as bad, I was alone for both jabs as dh had to work

sleepylittlebunnies · 03/05/2021 20:55

You probably shouldn’t have “found out” that he’d booked this break, I’d expect some discussion rather than an announcement but with regards to the vaccine I think you’ll be fine. I wouldn’t reschedule the vaccine appointment or the golf weekend.

Ugzbugz · 03/05/2021 20:55

I am a single parent like thousands of others and will look after DC alone for both just like like have when I've been puking and very unwell before. You can always get a takeaway if you feel rough or prep sarnies etc for dinner so you can go to bed.

StrawBeretMoose · 03/05/2021 20:55

YABU unless you're going to do a massive drip feed about the side effects meaning you were hospitalised.
You're children are of an age where they can look after themselves and you.

If the potential side effects are an issue for driving arrange a lift or a taxi.

shouldistop · 03/05/2021 20:55

If you told him the date and you told him you wanted him at home then he was very unreasonable

No, she'd still be unreasonable. The kids are 10&13 and op is getting a vaccination not major surgery.

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/05/2021 20:55

My 10 yo would love this. I would get constant cups of tea an scrambled eggs. She loves a good ministering to. Grin

And I'm normally #TeamNoGolf

custardbear · 03/05/2021 20:56

Sorry, another 'woman up' from me - change it or suck it up

ValleyClouds · 03/05/2021 20:56

Sorry but you are being a bit ridiculous.

Assuming you are ordinarily fit and healthy you are being dramatic for attention.

I'm severely disabled and CEV and having my second dose this week.

Am I getting on with it like a grown woman and not really giving it a second thought other than time and place?

Yes.

user1490814754 · 03/05/2021 20:58

if your feeling anxious then I don't think it's unreasonable to have him around to support you but perhaps push vaccine back a few days?

Hyppogriff · 03/05/2021 20:58

Errrrrrrrm are you joking ?!! See no more posts from the OP!

OwlBeThere · 03/05/2021 20:58

I was rough as an old dog after my first jab...but I had to take my child for chemo regardless. Then go home and care for her. It is what it is.
At least you have time to prepare with food in the freezer they can manage to cook if you’re a bit under the weather.

Changemusthappen · 03/05/2021 20:58

Not ideal OP but not a biggie either. When is your weekend away?

Allthereindeersaregirls · 03/05/2021 20:59

You generally only get a reaction from 1 of the 2. If you got it after the first it's unlikely you'll have it after the second.

OwlBeThere · 03/05/2021 20:59

@MrsTerryPratchett can I borrow your kid to feed me scrambled eggs? Sounds fantastic lol

Teabaghag · 03/05/2021 21:00

At 10 and 13 they can make their own sandwiches for a day or two, but really it sounds like reactions to the 2nd jab are tiny and rarer.

gurglebelly · 03/05/2021 21:00

Massively overreacting, you may not have side effects at all this time and even if you do your children aren't young, they should be able to occupy themselves while you don the dressing gown of doom

emilyfrost · 03/05/2021 21:02

YABVU. Your children are old enough to look after themselves.

TeeBee · 03/05/2021 21:02

Eh??? How hard is it to look after a 10 and 13 year-old?!? Just get on with it OP. You're being very precious.

lanthanum · 03/05/2021 21:02

10 and 13 should be fine coping if you're unwell, especially as there's a bit of forewarning that it's a possibility, so you can make sure you've got something they can cook.

I'm a bit baffled by a household where someone books a weekend away without running it past the other person first, but I guess all households run differently.

Honeybobbin · 03/05/2021 21:02

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Babymamaroon · 03/05/2021 21:03

Ha do you seriously need to worry about a 10 and 13 year old??

Surely they could look after you for the weekend? If the answer to that is no, you really need to re-think your strategy as a parent.

Utterly ridiculous. YABVU.

reluctantbrit · 03/05/2021 21:03

I wouldn’t be pleased. But then, medical appointments do take precedence over leisure appointments in our house.

DD is 13 and would definitely be able to sort herself out for a day with all things like food prepared or arranged so it wouldn’t be a disaster. And I had a full day of flu like symptoms with being in bed for 36 hours,

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