Neighbours dog weeing on fence

[binkyblinky]

Hi all! Who is BU, me or my husband!

We moved into our new home in October.

Brick wall on right and end of the garden, shared wooden fence with concrete posts with neighbours.

The garden was newly turfed but I noticed a dead patch next to the fence. The developers came round for another issue, I mentioned the dead grass, and he showed me a stain on the fence where he said there's an animal weeing - it must be next door's dog.

I didn't like the turf right up against the fence anyway, so the developers dug in a small border for us.

I sent a picture to next door, who are a really lovely young couple in their 20s, and asked could they try to keep the dog from weeing on the fence, I said we'd had a border put in as he'd killed the grass, but that it wasn't a massive issue. They were really apologetic and said they'd try to stop him'

The dog is still peeing there, worse than ever. I won't be able to plant anything along that border!

My hubby is getting really cross about it, I don't want to fall out with my neighbours as it's a new estate and community so important! Hubby is telling me to go and speak to them or he will, and he won't be as nice about it as I am 🥺

How do I deal with this

Gosh, this escalated fast.

Op people were responding to what you wrote, they do not know you and cannot gues as to your other problems. You gave no indication of them till the end.

I’m sorry you’re in an abusive relationship, you can try women’s aid to speak to, have you no money, friends or family to speak to?

Spiky plant

Owner of old male dog here. Too old to cock his leg. Does big long wee on grass. Grass is fine.
Lost female dog last year, she burnt patches on grass when she did a wee

@Laggartha I was responding to the initial problem, not everyone reads every comment before responding.

Thanks to those who were supportive, yes huge problems under the surface. I’ve been staying with family a couple of hours from where I live. I’ve told him that he needs to move out while I sort out what to do. Worst time of my life, the poor kids. It’s been horrendous

My dog 🐶 is no longer a puppy so I don’t go out the garden with him to toilet. I guess your neighbors don’t with theirs either. He potters about and sometimes he does a wee (mostly he behaves like the dick head he is and digs up my flowers). He tends to choose the same spot but not exclusively and him sniffing in his spot doesn’t always mean he will see. He’s out the garden 10 times a day. I could possibly reduce him peeing in one spot by spending half my day standing in the garden and diverting his attention when he sniffs in his spot but apart from physically stopping and moving him I’d not get a 100% success rate. To be honest I wouldn’t do that, I just don’t have time. I’d suggest you put a bit gravel and a flower pot in front of the offending patch of fence.

@binkyblinky I'm sorry, must be hell for you at the moment - wishing you all a much happier future x

Keep strong binky. It'll be the best thing for you and your children once he's left.

@binkyblinky I’m glad you’re somewhere safe and I hope your husband is out of the house ASAP.

@binkyblinky

Thanks to those who were supportive, yes huge problems under the surface. I’ve been staying with family a couple of hours from where I live. I’ve told him that he needs to move out while I sort out what to do. Worst time of my life, the poor kids. It’s been horrendous

Brave of you to update Binky. Keep strong, you're doing the right thing, it might be hard now but you and your children deserve better than to be living in the shadow of a horrible bully. Good luck, things will get better

@binkyblinky, I’m sorry this is happening to you.

@notdaddycool given what has happened on this thread and countless others do you think people should read the discussion before commenting? Or at least the OP’s?

@Laggartha no, some are very long. If the comment answers the original question that’s not worth a trip on the outrage bus.

I think it's worth questioning the grandiosity of someone who thinks they have something so important or original to add to a discussion of over 200 posts that they don't even need to check how it's going.

Oh OP,

You poor woman.
You are so brave.
Well done for packing up and getting out.

I hope you get him out.
Keep posting.
Stay strong.

[quote notdaddycool]@Laggartha I was responding to the initial problem, not everyone reads every comment before responding.[/quote]
Rude!