Neighbours dog weeing on fence

[binkyblinky]

Hi all! Who is BU, me or my husband!

We moved into our new home in October.

Brick wall on right and end of the garden, shared wooden fence with concrete posts with neighbours.

The garden was newly turfed but I noticed a dead patch next to the fence. The developers came round for another issue, I mentioned the dead grass, and he showed me a stain on the fence where he said there's an animal weeing - it must be next door's dog.

I didn't like the turf right up against the fence anyway, so the developers dug in a small border for us.

I sent a picture to next door, who are a really lovely young couple in their 20s, and asked could they try to keep the dog from weeing on the fence, I said we'd had a border put in as he'd killed the grass, but that it wasn't a massive issue. They were really apologetic and said they'd try to stop him'

The dog is still peeing there, worse than ever. I won't be able to plant anything along that border!

My hubby is getting really cross about it, I don't want to fall out with my neighbours as it's a new estate and community so important! Hubby is telling me to go and speak to them or he will, and he won't be as nice about it as I am 🥺

How do I deal with this

[CandyLeBonBon]

[quote notdaddycool]@Laggartha I was responding to the initial problem, not everyone reads every comment before responding.[/quote]
Rude!

[billy1966]

Oh OP,

You poor woman.
You are so brave.
Well done for packing up and getting out.

I hope you get him out.
Keep posting.
Stay strong.

[Laggartha]

I think it's worth questioning the grandiosity of someone who thinks they have something so important or original to add to a discussion of over 200 posts that they don't even need to check how it's going.

[notdaddycool]

@Laggartha no, some are very long. If the comment answers the original question that’s not worth a trip on the outrage bus.

[Laggartha]

@notdaddycool given what has happened on this thread and countless others do you think people should read the discussion before commenting? Or at least the OP’s?

[Laggartha]

@binkyblinky, I’m sorry this is happening to you.

[InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream]

@binkyblinky

Thanks to those who were supportive, yes huge problems under the surface. I’ve been staying with family a couple of hours from where I live. I’ve told him that he needs to move out while I sort out what to do. Worst time of my life, the poor kids. It’s been horrendous

Brave of you to update Binky. Keep strong, you're doing the right thing, it might be hard now but you and your children deserve better than to be living in the shadow of a horrible bully. Good luck, things will get better

[Orchidflower1]

@binkyblinky I’m glad you’re somewhere safe and I hope your husband is out of the house ASAP.

[Dancingsmile]

Keep strong binky. It'll be the best thing for you and your children once he's left.

[DoubleTweenQueen]

@binkyblinky I'm sorry, must be hell for you at the moment - wishing you all a much happier future x

[Peace43]

My dog 🐶 is no longer a puppy so I don’t go out the garden with him to toilet. I guess your neighbors don’t with theirs either. He potters about and sometimes he does a wee (mostly he behaves like the dick head he is and digs up my flowers). He tends to choose the same spot but not exclusively and him sniffing in his spot doesn’t always mean he will see. He’s out the garden 10 times a day. I could possibly reduce him peeing in one spot by spending half my day standing in the garden and diverting his attention when he sniffs in his spot but apart from physically stopping and moving him I’d not get a 100% success rate. To be honest I wouldn’t do that, I just don’t have time. I’d suggest you put a bit gravel and a flower pot in front of the offending patch of fence.

[binkyblinky]

Thanks to those who were supportive, yes huge problems under the surface. I’ve been staying with family a couple of hours from where I live. I’ve told him that he needs to move out while I sort out what to do. Worst time of my life, the poor kids. It’s been horrendous

[notdaddycool]

@Laggartha I was responding to the initial problem, not everyone reads every comment before responding.

[Newkitchen123]

Owner of old male dog here. Too old to cock his leg. Does big long wee on grass. Grass is fine.
Lost female dog last year, she burnt patches on grass when she did a wee

[Feetupteashot]

Spiky plant

[Bluntness100]

Gosh, this escalated fast.

Op people were responding to what you wrote, they do not know you and cannot gues as to your other problems. You gave no indication of them till the end.

I’m sorry you’re in an abusive relationship, you can try women’s aid to speak to, have you no money, friends or family to speak to?

[Laggartha]

Same question to @notdaddycool.

[Laggartha]

@Dancingsmile do you not think the OP has other priorities?

[icedgem85]

Your OH sounds like a complete idiot how exactly does he expect them to stop the dog weeing in its own garden? Is he going to install a dog toilet and offer training? Batshit...

[notdaddycool]

You either need some pee safe plants or a spray that puts dogs off. It may be worth washing the area with jeyes fluid before you spray to get rid of the smell which should discourage the dog further. Failing that a paving slab at the back of the flowerbed, hidden by a plant will redirect it. Many ways to solve this without making fools of yourselves.

[Scandicc]

From dog piss to divorce..

[Dancingsmile]

I can see why it is annoying.buts it's one of those things you can't do much about.

How about buying them a couple of pots, put some lavender in it and place them where the pee is coming in. Then put flowers round the pots. Make a feature of it. Pots in borders look nice.
Or give the pots to your neighbours for them to put in front of there fence post but the dog may move to the next post up .

[Laggartha]

@binkyblinky I'm so sorry to read your update. I'd consider starting a new thread in Relationships, although I could understand why you wouldn't.

[4Mongrels]

I hope you’re okay OP. It sounds as though your husband has been treating you badly for some time so if this incident turned out to be the catalyst for you to leave then ultimately it’s a good thing.

[Jumpers268]

@MNWorldisCrazy I wasn't talking to my GP about how many shits I have a day. I don't see it as "repulsive" to say I pick up my neighbours cat's shit out of my garden. Also, my post wasn't actually directed to you but to the OP on how to help with the dog pissing on her fence (not sure if pissing is okay or whether I should say weeing) . But maybe I'm being a dick.

OP, I'm so sorry to read about what happened today. I really do hope you're okay!