Neighbours dog weeing on fence

[binkyblinky]

Hi all! Who is BU, me or my husband!

We moved into our new home in October.

Brick wall on right and end of the garden, shared wooden fence with concrete posts with neighbours.

The garden was newly turfed but I noticed a dead patch next to the fence. The developers came round for another issue, I mentioned the dead grass, and he showed me a stain on the fence where he said there's an animal weeing - it must be next door's dog.

I didn't like the turf right up against the fence anyway, so the developers dug in a small border for us.

I sent a picture to next door, who are a really lovely young couple in their 20s, and asked could they try to keep the dog from weeing on the fence, I said we'd had a border put in as he'd killed the grass, but that it wasn't a massive issue. They were really apologetic and said they'd try to stop him'

The dog is still peeing there, worse than ever. I won't be able to plant anything along that border!

My hubby is getting really cross about it, I don't want to fall out with my neighbours as it's a new estate and community so important! Hubby is telling me to go and speak to them or he will, and he won't be as nice about it as I am 🥺

How do I deal with this

OP sorry to read your last post. I know this thread has been a bit of a shock for you but mumsnet is an absolutely amazing place for help and advice dealing with bullying husbands. There are so many kind and knowledgeable women who can help and give you loads of support. Good luck

@binkyblinky I’m sorry that this situation with the neighbours dog has caused upset but if it has brought things to a head to be dealt with that a good thing.

I hope you have someone nearby who can help you and that you are safe. Remember you can stay at someone’s house despite Covid restrictions given your circumstances. 💐

wow, from neighbour dog wee to I am LTB in 16 hours. That was fast.

I was gonna say stick a planter on the dead lawn patch & forget about it. But don't think that's really gonna be enough of a sticking plaster on this situation.

[quote Greenrubber]@candyLeBonBon

I'm just stating whether you can't help something or not you can still get annoyed about it! As I'm sure most people in this thread would except they decide to be rude and tell the OP she's rediculous[/quote]
I was being lighthearted. No offence was intended

@yeOldeTrout

wow, from neighbour dog wee to I am LTB in 16 hours. That was fast.

I was gonna say stick a planter on the dead lawn patch & forget about it. But don't think that's really gonna be enough of a sticking plaster on this situation.

When you said 'stick a planter' did you really mean 'stick a plaster'?

You are totally in the right OP. I'm a dog lover, but if I knew that my dog was causing damage, I'd take steps to stop the dog peeing there. Id have planted some shrubs to stop the fence getting wet. Also the smell on a hot day would be very unpleasant. Your husband needs to calm down. Falling out with neighbours is awful. It blights your life. You can plant all sorts of pretty shrubs which will look a lot better than grass anyway.

Hubby is telling me to go and speak to them or he will, and he won't be as nice about it as I am 🥺**

If it were us and he came round aggressive and entitled because we didn't do as he asked he would be getting told where to go. I've never understood these people who think that intimidating people is how to get their own way.

OP, I agree with you, best to leave it alone. As others have said, the dog is weeing in its own garden. It's unlikely to kill plants, it's not the same as the grass so I'd go ahead and plant them on your side.
If your husband isn't happy with that leave him to it with the neighbours but I can't see them changing anything, rather just phoning the police if he continually goes round intimidating them

Neither of your really, this is a bigger problem than you might think, but no easy solution. You would think they would take the dog out, so it does such things whilst off the property, sadly many have dogs and don't exercise them and they do their business there. Trouble being it soaks in and stinks during warm weather. Hard to solve really without a little resentment on both sides. Like telling someone about halitosis, no easy way to approach. no guarantee they do anything about it either.

@Ismellphantoms

You are totally in the right OP. I'm a dog lover, but if I knew that my dog was causing damage, I'd take steps to stop the dog peeing there. Id have planted some shrubs to stop the fence getting wet. Also the smell on a hot day would be very unpleasant. Your husband needs to calm down. Falling out with neighbours is awful. It blights your life. You can plant all sorts of pretty shrubs which will look a lot better than grass anyway.

Op has updated!

@emilyfrost

YANBU but all the dog lovers will flame you.

It’s just unacceptable, antisocial behaviour. Your choice of animal shouldn’t inconvenience anyone else, and in this case, that mutt is a problem for you. They should sort it out.

Get a grip

@VodkaSlimline

Christ, dogs are so disgusting. Why would anyone be OK with having their garden covered in piss? Would the dog be deterred if you were to put something like Jeyes fluid on the concrete fence base?

Dogs are disgusting for peeing? Get a hold of yourself

You do know that foxes, badgers, birds, cats, etc etc pee, and poo, in your garden don’t you

Pepper, dog will smell it should move on.

The fence smells like a giant toilet you have to kill the ammonia smell.

Other alternative is keep spraying fence with biological washing powder. Kills smell of ammonia, I got that advice from behavioural therapist when dog was toilet training

Sorry things are so tough OP
Would he leave if you asked him to or us that a silly question?

@mackleless

Do you not find the word "shit" a bit repulsive to be used repeatedly & casually in a paragraph? Swearing I can cope with and do it myself but not repeatedly. I despise this growing trend of using shit as a normal word. Would you allow your young child to say it?

are you for real?! No, in the same way I wouldn’t allow my young child to say ‘fuck’ or ‘asshole’: because those are words that only grown ups can use. You’re barking up the wrong tree trying to police posters on MN using the word shit

Asking a question is not policing?

@Sjdmcfeet

I say shit at least once a day , my favourite word is cunt lol

Yes so do I in exasperation, as a swear word!

I think people have misunderstood me. My issue is how people are replacing the word poo with shit when casually mentioning poo (as you do!)

For example, I was watching GPs Behind Closed Doors the other day, and a Dad came in with his new baby. When answering questions about the baby's bowel movements, the Dad said to the GP "Well she shits about X times per day but the shit is X consistency etc etc" You could see the Doctor raising his eyebrows slightly. It's not good manners at all.

Fine when chatting to your husband/wife or whoever close to you, but the casual use of it to strangers is not right in my personal opinion

What are you going to do @binkyblinky?

@MNWorldisCrazy I wasn't talking to my GP about how many shits I have a day. I don't see it as "repulsive" to say I pick up my neighbours cat's shit out of my garden. Also, my post wasn't actually directed to you but to the OP on how to help with the dog pissing on her fence (not sure if pissing is okay or whether I should say weeing) . But maybe I'm being a dick.

OP, I'm so sorry to read about what happened today. I really do hope you're okay!

I hope you’re okay OP. It sounds as though your husband has been treating you badly for some time so if this incident turned out to be the catalyst for you to leave then ultimately it’s a good thing.

@binkyblinky I'm so sorry to read your update. I'd consider starting a new thread in Relationships, although I could understand why you wouldn't.

I can see why it is annoying.buts it's one of those things you can't do much about.

How about buying them a couple of pots, put some lavender in it and place them where the pee is coming in. Then put flowers round the pots. Make a feature of it. Pots in borders look nice.
Or give the pots to your neighbours for them to put in front of there fence post but the dog may move to the next post up .

From dog piss to divorce..

You either need some pee safe plants or a spray that puts dogs off. It may be worth washing the area with jeyes fluid before you spray to get rid of the smell which should discourage the dog further. Failing that a paving slab at the back of the flowerbed, hidden by a plant will redirect it. Many ways to solve this without making fools of yourselves.

Your OH sounds like a complete idiot how exactly does he expect them to stop the dog weeing in its own garden? Is he going to install a dog toilet and offer training? Batshit...

@Dancingsmile do you not think the OP has other priorities?

Same question to @notdaddycool.