Neighbours dog weeing on fence

[binkyblinky]

Hi all! Who is BU, me or my husband!

We moved into our new home in October.

Brick wall on right and end of the garden, shared wooden fence with concrete posts with neighbours.

The garden was newly turfed but I noticed a dead patch next to the fence. The developers came round for another issue, I mentioned the dead grass, and he showed me a stain on the fence where he said there's an animal weeing - it must be next door's dog.

I didn't like the turf right up against the fence anyway, so the developers dug in a small border for us.

I sent a picture to next door, who are a really lovely young couple in their 20s, and asked could they try to keep the dog from weeing on the fence, I said we'd had a border put in as he'd killed the grass, but that it wasn't a massive issue. They were really apologetic and said they'd try to stop him'

The dog is still peeing there, worse than ever. I won't be able to plant anything along that border!

My hubby is getting really cross about it, I don't want to fall out with my neighbours as it's a new estate and community so important! Hubby is telling me to go and speak to them or he will, and he won't be as nice about it as I am 🥺

How do I deal with this

Having read your updates, the problem seems to be your DH. Why is the dog pee dripping into your garden? Is the neighbours garden elevated? All I can think of is that you go to the neighbours yourself and explain how unreasonable and agitated your DH is about this dog pee and that it smells etc but that it is running into your garden and can anything be done to prevent it.....
It comes across as though you have worse problems with your DH than the dog wee....

Really sorry that your husband is so unreasonable, I hadn't fully appreciated that from your first post. That must be an incredibly stressful position to be in, with him getting agitated at you, and you having to go and speak to them and keep things nice. Really feel for you.

@CandyLeBonBon

The thread made me look it up (slow Sunday morning 😀

You know it's Saturday, right? 😂😁

Oh yes. That is what bank holiday Fridays do to me. 😂

Sorry but if my dog was peeing in my garden against my fence I'd tell you to sod off. Do you expect them to go out with their dog and monitor where it lees every single time it goes out? 2am in November etc?? Maybe it's me who is being unreasonable but it would be a no chance from me if I lived beside you!

Ps tell your husband if it bothers him to deal with it you're not there to fight his (ridiculous) battles

It comes across as though you have worse problems with your DH than the dog wee....

This. But you both seem to have had an out of proportion response to something you can easily take steps to minimise too (lots of good suggestions upthread).

Most of all, I feel incredibly sorry for your neighbours.

Christ, dogs are so disgusting. Why would anyone be OK with having their garden covered in piss? Would the dog be deterred if you were to put something like Jeyes fluid on the concrete fence base?

Plant rhubarb your side, blooming thrives on it if ours is anything to go by...

Haha same @Aprilx - I spent all of yesterday thinking it was Saturday - and don't get me started on the fuckup my days have been because of the clocks going forward - I'm still an hour out of sync even now!!!

@VodkaSlimline

Christ, dogs are so disgusting. Why would anyone be OK with having their garden covered in piss? Would the dog be deterred if you were to put something like Jeyes fluid on the concrete fence base?

Lots of animals are 'disgusting' by that premise. It's not just dogs who piss outside, (just saying)

Try sinking some plastic lawn edging (like this ) into the soil along side the fence. Might prevent some run off.

@binkyblinky how are things this morning? Do you have someone in RL to help you out?

Ha ha!😀 this is a joke thread for Easter!
No way would any normal person tell their neighbours what their dog could do in their own garden.
Not unless they were completely nuts of course.
And the dog is doing it even more now since you spoke to his owner??do you think the dog overheard and decided to get revenge for upsetting her by forcing every bit of wee out in that spot?
I expect this story,if it had been real,has probably gone all around the new estate by now anyway.
Ah,well op,you've cheered everyone up.😀

@binkyblinky

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I know my neighbour treats his garden due to dog urine and his garden is always immaculate! I don't know the brand of what he uses but it seems to work! Maybe just check out the reviews of this type of thing

@VodkaSlimline

Christ, dogs are so disgusting. Why would anyone be OK with having their garden covered in piss? Would the dog be deterred if you were to put something like Jeyes fluid on the concrete fence base?

I trained mine to knock on the neighbours door and ask to use the toilet

I think people are being a bit rude for some reason

If a bird shat on your car every day you would definitely get annoyed about it!

They are only asking that the owners stop their dog weeing into their garden! They could easily put something on the other side of the fence to stop this happening but the op needs solutions not people taking the piss

@Greenrubber

I think people are being a bit rude for some reason

If a bird shat on your car every day you would definitely get annoyed about it!

They are only asking that the owners stop their dog weeing into their garden! They could easily put something on the other side of the fence to stop this happening but the op needs solutions not people taking the piss

Good luck having a word with that bird about it's appalling shit habits!

@candyLeBonBon

I'm just stating whether you can't help something or not you can still get annoyed about it! As I'm sure most people in this thread would except they decide to be rude and tell the OP she's rediculous

@Greenrubber Thanks for that tip, my ndn lost her old lab and has another who's ruining the grass. The other dog's pee didn't

Whoever suggested putting the plastic edging against the ndn's fence has the right idea. While some of you think OP's dh is being a pib (pain in the butt) I can understand his point of view particularly if you don't want the smell of dog urine. What's so unreasonable about someone not wanting their expensive plants ruined by dog pee?

So I would ask the ndn's how they're going to ensure their dog's urine doesn't go through the fence and also ask them to replace the spoilt fence. My ndn's dog pees in my garden when he's with me but as it's over 200' long it doesn't really matter

I can’t remember who said it but yes definitely my last straw. Currently sitting in car with my three children having told him I’m done with his bullying aggressive ways. Not quite sure where we will go but I’m absolutely broken now. He can deal with the neighbours perhaps they will be the next people he thinks he can bully.

@Felifox

Apparently female dogs urine can damage grass and male dogs isn't as bad I've heard

I'm so sorry to hear that op. Is there anyone in rl that can help you or somewhere you can go?

I would suggest that you contact women's aid, but they will be really busy so keep trying.

Keep posting if it will help, most people on here are nice ( despite what's on this thread!) and are willing to support you.

Good luck

@Greenrubber Both female in this case

@Binkyblinky Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry that what I thought was a reasonable thing to be irritated about has made your dh behave so badly to you. Do you have family or friends nearby to help or access to money?

Wow. Some of the comments! I feel I need a photo as I struggle to understand why so much wee is coming through if the fence is installed correctly. It should just run down their own side? Is there a way to direct it to do so?
Having said that- other comments are right in that it'll stink possibly in summer if it's soaked in pee. They can surely put a pot or something their side? Really isn't hard. If you paid for the fence then they shouldn't be letting the dog damage it, but if you didn't then it's a hard one. I think just not planting something there is the way forward but its still not ideal the fence will stink (unless it's not really near your house/ where you sit). I have a dog and if someone nicely asked me if I could try and limit him weeing in one spot, I wouldn't mind. But then I wouldn't be letting him do that anyway! None of mine have ever gone up the garden fence.
Your husband sounds somewhat unreasonable though, if he's having a go at you over it. And that's clearly an issue. I hope you manage to resolve it.