To expect a child of three with ASD to sit nicely at the table?

[Damnrightwrong]

Is it unreasonable and/or unrealistic to expect an an autistic three year old to sit nicely at the table at dinner time?

YABU - expecting too much of the child
YANBU - they should be able to sit nicely, regardless of a disability

I think it might be too much to expect of any 3yo.

Oh sorry, clicked YANBU by mistake.

Is this a reverse? YABVVU

I usually don't comment on posts where you've had to explain the YABU/YANBU options like we are idiots, but...

YA massively BU. Do you understand anything about ASD? A child with ASD is not misbehaving on purpose, they often cannot handle rules that are standard to others. I don't know many 3 year old children who would sit nicely at a table for any length of time, let alone one with ASD.

Reverse

YABU. My NT three year old struggles with sitting sensibly at the dinner table. It's a work in progress.

I hope this is a reverse.

If not then

Utterly unrealistic. I have enough trouble with my NT crowd and they're all at school.

All I can say is 'Hahaha'.

Not every autistic child is the same, but I assume the autism presentation is not subtle since they are diagnosed at age 3. Very few typical 3 year olds sit nicely for a meal. So YABU both ways.

To clarify I'm very firmly in the "It's unreasonable" camp, it's not me with the expectations.

What the fuck?

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No such thing

What does “sitting nicely” actually mean and for how long?

Children with autism aren’t all the same.

This is a reverse, right?

I think it depends on the child, everyone with ASD is different.
Not all NT children can sit nicely at a table either.

Mistake wrong post 🙄

So you ask if you're being unreasonable to expect them to sit, and then say you're not expecting them to. Right

My severely autistic ten year old won't sit nicely

@Damnrightwrong

To clarify I'm very firmly in the "It's unreasonable" camp, it's not me with the expectations.

So who is it and what exactly do they expect?

See above, it's not me with the expectations. I think it's wholly unreasonable and realistic.

Sitting nicely translates to not messing about at the table, not getting up to wander off.

Who has the expectation?

@AdditionalCharacter

So you ask if you're being unreasonable to expect them to sit, and then say you're not expecting them to. Right

Because somebody else has a problem with him not sitting nicely at the table.

I wanted to see whether other people think it's reasonable or not.

God knows where the sarcasm and cutting tones are coming from. Christ.

My NT 4 year old will not always sit nicely at the table. My friends autistic 5 year old cannot, and of course no one expects him to