12 year dd being called babe by 12 yr old boy and I ain’t happy

[Rosita101]

Ok, I’m just trying to get a different perspective here... checked my daughters phone and there it was.. messages from a boy in her class calling her baby. I am tempted to block him on her phone but obviously I prefer to keep the communication open with my daughter. There was lots heart emojis and promises of holding hands/hugs when lockdown is over but no kisses involved.. phew. She’s turning 13 soon and I’m worried it will turn into a proper relationship, which obviously I’m not supportive of, as I think it far too young. I’ve met the boy a few times at the school gate ( as her friend , I didn’t know they had feelings for each other), She then told me they like each other but I always say for me he’s just her “ like interest” , not a boyfriend. I’m so uncomfortable with the fact he calls her baby /my baby girl . It does not sit well with me.
Am I totally over reacting? Please be brutally honest!!

You are overreacting.

Massively overreacting

You're overreacting. This is normal

You are completely overreacting

Over reacting and best of luck for the years ahead 😉

You are overreacting
Don’t make him the forbidden fruit- blocking him will only make them more determined.
Just be there when the inevitable happens...

OMG!!! Send her to her a nunnery at once!!!

Really OP, pick your battles, if you are going to over react to something this small, she won't come to you for bigger things when she really needs you!!

You’re overreacting. A lot. Like, just so much that I can’t even take in all the overreacting you’re doing. Crikey.

Oh god 😂

Yes you are overreacting, it is normal.

Hahahah this isn't real surely?

Oh dear! You are in for a serious amount of stress going forward if this worries you.

YABU and overreacting

She's nearly 13 and you don't want her having a boyfriend who wants to hold her hand and hug her? How on earth are you going to cope in a few years time when she has a 'proper' boyfriend and might be having sex with him? Or were you planning on shipping her off to a convent until her 30s?

Massive overreaction, normal at that age.

Cutesy names and heart emojis?

Far too much at 12.

Ask him to tone it down and use the thumbs up emoji instead. The heart emoji will still be there when they are grown up.

Yes, I'm afraid you are overreacting. But understandingly so. No one likes to see their babies grow up. But babies do grow up.

All you can do is make sure the lines of communication stay open by not appearing to be too controlling of her. Easier said than done but it's what you must do so that you don't push her away.

You’re being ridiculous, it’s a playground romance let her be. The difference is that these days you’re able to see these messages where when I was at school they would have been passed back and forth on a piece of paper!

Op, you're in for a hard time the next couple of years if you think this is bad. My friends who's parents were like this ended up being extra sneaky and secretive and ended up not having a great relationship with their parents. My DM was more open and would let them come over for tea and watch films. There were boundaries in place ...not allowed in my room etc ..but I look back in fondness at the time now. My DM even says now 'aww remember your little boyfriend when you were 12'.

Yeah you're massively over reacting. To that boy, your DD is a babe! He's crushing on her big time. Ok he's maybe a bit forward (by text at least) but they are kids discovering their feelings and they fancy each other.

She then told me they like each other but I always say for me he’s just her “ like interest” , not a boyfriend.

What does that bit mean, OP?

Oh you’re in for a tough few years I think OP 😂

Maybe his own parents call him it and it's just something his picked up on and uses without thinking maybe?

Poor girl, get over yourself, you sound crazy! And be careful sexually repressed parents can produce sexually promiscuous or offensive offspring.

I went to a convent school, I know what I'm talking about.

Without going into detail I've found much much worse on my kid's phone who is the same age as yours. I think it's worth keeping check on your daughter's phone in case this is the start of something but on it's own, " babe" is not very concerning.