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Housemate ate my bday cake

225 replies

Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 01:57

Fuming! I was sent a small birthday cake and had about an 1/8 of it, seeing a friend for a walk tomorrow so was going to share some with them. I offered some to my housemate and went up to bad. They have had half and all the happy birthday writing is missing. It’s not massive but surely you just take a nibble and leave the rest for the birthday girl/boy. So so pissed off. It’s a bit shit being single and having a bday in a pandemic anyway I am annoyed about this. Should I say something/make a joke?

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Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 01:58

For context it was a small tray bake so not a ridiculous sized portion for them but really insensitive

OP posts:
ElfHatOnPicture · 09/01/2021 02:06

You told them to!

waydownwego · 09/01/2021 02:09

@ElfHatOnPicture

You told them to!
This - if you didn't want them to eat your cake, you shouldn't have told them to!
vodkaredbullgirl · 09/01/2021 02:10

Shouldn't have offered, or could have cut a piece off for them.

sararh · 09/01/2021 02:12

having half of seven eights of a small tray bake after being told to have some doesn't sound terribly unreasonable to me, op.

sararh · 09/01/2021 02:12
  • eighths
NoOneOwnsTheRainbow · 09/01/2021 02:12

I think they should have taken your lead from how much you had cut for yourself, because surely that was the amount you expected them to take? Also it would really piss me off if they'd robbed me of the writing! But then, I only get a cake if I bake it myself so I may be over-invested in this scenario haha.

Groovinpeanut · 09/01/2021 02:15

So you offered them cake, then moan because they had some?
If you wanted certain details or size of portion adhered to, you should have cut them a slice 🤨

Seafog · 09/01/2021 02:15

Why would you make a joke if you are upset or angry? That's so passive aggressive.

Leobynature · 09/01/2021 02:15

No! It’s not unreasonable for your housemate to cut of a reasonable portion of cake that you offered them

Summersun2020 · 09/01/2021 02:19

Sorry YABU. You offered. Also it’s a little bit childish to be upset that they are the writing. Please don’t say anything to your housemate, I’d be mortified if I accepted some cake from somebody then they berated me for the size of the slice I ate!

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/01/2021 02:22

You offered, they had some. If you were bothered, you offer what you want them to have.

mantlepiece · 09/01/2021 02:29

Hmm. I find myself constantly shocked by other people’s portion sizes.

Unfortunately some people can’t help themselves when presented with food of any kind never mind cake!
Pity it’s your birthday cake they have overindulged on though.

Tomorrow is a new day, see if you can buy a new cake to share with your friend, enjoy your birthday 🎊🎂🎊

longdarkwinter · 09/01/2021 02:32

You are being a numpty OP, your housemate took a reasonable portion of cake after being invited to.

If you wanted them to have a specific portion size you should have given them the approved size.

Buy yourself another cake if you would like to. Happy birthday 🎂

snowisfallingallaroundus · 09/01/2021 02:34

Was it a cream cake?

Are you Claire?

1forAll74 · 09/01/2021 02:47

I would be pleased if someone ate any cakes that were bought for me, as I don't eat cakes at all.

MutantNinjaCovid · 09/01/2021 02:49

This seems to be a recurring issue on Mumsnet

Rosehip10 · 09/01/2021 02:55

Are you from a middle class background?

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 09/01/2021 02:56

YANBU it was greedy of them to eat half of your birthday cake. You offered them a bit, not half!
A lot of greedy people on MN apparently.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 09/01/2021 02:56

@1forAll74

I would be pleased if someone ate any cakes that were bought for me, as I don't eat cakes at all.
And.... OP clearly does want to eat the cake she was sent. What an odd response.
Pumpkinpied · 09/01/2021 02:56

*Was it a cream cake?

Are you Claire?*
My first thought too.
You are being unreasonable. You offered and they took what even you describe as a reasonable sized portion.

Beautiful3 · 09/01/2021 02:58

I would have cut a piece off and wrapped up my cake.

shelbyrae · 09/01/2021 02:59

I personally would have not taken a lot just in case...but that's just me. (I can also never take the last bit of food on a serving tray, etc!) If I wanted them only to take a small piece or leave the writing I would have said, otherwise how are they to know. Yes they could be like you or me and only take a small piece the size of what's already been had, but equally not their fault because they weren't asked to do that.

So IMO not something you can be upset at them about. They weren't given instructions to take a small piece or leave any writing. Chalk it up to one of those things and next time make sure to give them a piece or tell them what size if you're sharing.

Hatstrategicallydipped · 09/01/2021 03:00

Well you have the rest to eat?

shelbyrae · 09/01/2021 03:02

*rereading seeing it was your cake - I thought it was a cake for the friend you were seeing tomorrow. even less unreasonable of your flatmate - they probably thought you'd already had some and were offering the rest!