Housemate ate my bday cake

[Urghfuming]

Fuming! I was sent a small birthday cake and had about an 1/8 of it, seeing a friend for a walk tomorrow so was going to share some with them. I offered some to my housemate and went up to bad. They have had half and all the happy birthday writing is missing. It’s not massive but surely you just take a nibble and leave the rest for the birthday girl/boy. So so pissed off. It’s a bit shit being single and having a bday in a pandemic anyway I am annoyed about this. Should I say something/make a joke?

It was rude of them, but how big/small was the cake exactly?

If you thought 1/8 was a reasonable sized portion then you'll be fine tomorrow seeing as you have 3/8 left.

1. I would really need a dimensioned diagram in order to make a considered decision.

1. Could you write 'Happy Birthday' on the cake with a felt tip pen? (you should be able to adjust the size of your writing to fit the remaining piece of cake quite easily)

Op, I think you were being unreasonable for offering any of your cake in the first instance.

When it is my birthday I buy a lovely Waitrose vanilla and jam birthday cake, iced and of a moderate size. I do not share this cake.

I also go to Aldi’s and buy whatever cake is on offer...this is the one that birthday guests receive.

Now you know for the future.

Makes a change from the usual greedy husband stories we get on here I suppose.

Hmm. I find myself constantly shocked by other people’s portion sizes.

If you are ~"constantly shocked*, you must know it is your own issue to present as thin.

If it wasn’t a ridiculous portion and you told them to have some then I don’t think they have been unreasonable, sorry.

Um I don’t think a small tray bake, which has happy birthday written on one half could equal two portions. It’s not possible unless the happy birthday was tiny. It sounds to me that your flat mate was greedy. They should have taken the cue from the amount you took and ate more than double if that was a minuscule piece.

@snowisfallingallaroundus

I read this and just thought 'Good grief' - if that's the most you have to worry about you're doing pretty good right now.

You offered them cake, they took some. Half a small tray bake that already had some missing isn't really that much.

If it was half of a normal sized birthday cake I would understand your position more.

Hmm. I find myself constantly shocked by other people’s portion sizes.

How exhausting for you. Perhaps you should have a lie down.

So they had roughly 3/7ths of a small cake when you invited them to have some. Sounds as though -
Not a big portion in itself.
They took roughly half of what was left leaving you the other half. Knowing you had already had a piece in your birthday.

Assuming you hadn’t told them of your plans to share with friend next day then they’ve done absolutely nothing wrong IMO.

Given it’s a small cake you really should have shaved off a sliver () rather than just offered them some ?

Happy birthday btw!
See your friend and give them what’s left and you can take along some biscuits or something ?
Careful though - will this count as a picnic (recent news story)

Regardless of the size of the slice I took, it would not occur to me to leave the writing if I'd been offered some cake. Maybe if it belonged to a 4 year old but I can't even imagine most children caring about that!

Sounds like one to shrug off OP; maybe a note to self for the future. I’d probably have taken a generous portion of a cake that had been freely offered- not everyone is the ‘just a nibble’ type! It’s not as if she stole your food.

In a world where some are full of shite, it is nice to see one full of cake.

Unless the piece they took was an unreasonable portion for a normal adult then YABU not your housemate and YWBVU to mention anything even jokingly.

Im guessing they were totally unaware of you walk/sharing plans for the cake so probably assumed you’d had a little piece, didn’t want it to go to waste, weren’t gonna be sharing with anyone else given covid, so were offering them some to use it up. That’s what I would have thought.

Has your housemate got an eating disorder? I say this because I remember a girl at university eating my friend’s ENTIRE birthday cake, and then crying when she was told off, because of aforementioned issue. So it went from bad to worse, really. Argh. Sorry about your cake... happy birthday!

You can’t have your cake and eat it OP.

One might expect a five year old to be upset at someone else "eating the writing". This lockdown is really warping some people's perspective! Go and get some fresh air.

Jesus wept.

You sound like my 6 year old..."it's MY birthday and I am having the writing"

you offered - if they are your only housemate, maybe they assumed half because they didn't realise you were socialising outside of the house.

How old are you?! Go and buy a carrot cake for your walk with your friend if it helps you recover from the horror of your housemate doing what you invited him/her to.

Hmm. I find myself constantly shocked by other people’s portion sizes.

You sound like my Aunt. Two of her children had eating disorders.

According to the news 2 women just for fined £200 each for taking a Starbucks drink on a ‘exercise walk’ police classed it as a picnic

I wouldn’t be taking cake anywhere OP!