Housemate ate my bday cake

[Urghfuming]

Fuming! I was sent a small birthday cake and had about an 1/8 of it, seeing a friend for a walk tomorrow so was going to share some with them. I offered some to my housemate and went up to bad. They have had half and all the happy birthday writing is missing. It’s not massive but surely you just take a nibble and leave the rest for the birthday girl/boy. So so pissed off. It’s a bit shit being single and having a bday in a pandemic anyway I am annoyed about this. Should I say something/make a joke?

That is completely unacceptable to scoff half a birthday cake that isn’t even yours! LTB housemate.

Can’t believe the voting on here - she ate half your cake! Just like that! Super greedy and Not Nice.

Who cares how small it was - the smaller it is the less relatively she should have taken!
How much of a martyr are you expected to be?!

God help us. You have problems.

Haven't RTFT so apologies if I repeat what others have said.

I would be bothered about the writing - you told her to help herself and didn't say 'leave the writing'.

I would be a bit miffed that they ate half the cake, especially when you had clearly only eaten a small percentage. OK it wasn't a big cake but if it had been and someone ate half you would think they were way out of order, and greedy buggers too! So the same rules should apply.

Nothing you can do now though - no comments or jokes. Be clearer next time.

Sorry OP. I feel you. I would’ve cried. Happy birthday 🎈

To offer some is nice. For them to half the damn thing is rude.

YANBU, but only because they took the bits with the writing. "Have some" is something of an open invitation with housemate in general. Next time, try, "Let me cut you a slice, I'm sharing the rest with friends tomorrow."

You should have cut a slice for them. Taking half is cheeky, I admit, but you did offer.

Oh OP I think I’m definitely in the greedy camp with your flat mate - I’m sure her first slice was small!

Taking the writing is of course completely unacceptable,

By your own admission they had a reasonable sized portion of a cake you offered! And they ate the writing? Grow up!

@Pinkfluff76

Sorry OP. I feel you. I would’ve cried. Happy birthday 🎈

Really? Cried? Have I slipped onto kidsnet?

I love cake 🎂 what’s the problem? No one is asking you to cry. At least some of us have sympathy!

There are clearly some very rude and greedy people on this thread who think this is okay!

I invented a new rule during the pandemic: When you're feeling a bit sad it's okay to decide to have a birthday and buy yourself a cake. As many times a year (or, in fact, a month) as you need.

Buy yourself a new one and pig ALL of it.

I've never seen a shop bought traybake cake with writing on it before. Aren't those the ones with the smattering of dolly mixtures or sprinkles on top?

She ate the writing, lol. Didn't know writing was particularly sacred.

I am making either a banana loaf or a carrot cake this afternoon. In honour of this thread and the memories it has triggered I am going to do my name in top in some kind of icing/drizzle.
I am then going to relish it all the more !
Will leave some for elderly neighbour (all Covid clean). I will NOT give her my name.
(Maybe I should actually do her name as a treat for her ! Bloody hell this is becoming complex.).

Day 1: "Here eat some of my cake"
Day 2: "that bitch ate some of my cake, can you believe it?"

I think you know yabu. I hope

You did offer it to them OP.

It was a little careless on their part. However, some people are like that. If you cared about the amount then you should probably have been more specific or even better, just cut a piece for them.

@WishingHopingThinkingPraying

She ate the writing, lol. Didn't know writing was particularly sacred.

Writing is always sacred.

See what I mean, OP. Some people just don't get it!

Kill the bitch

YANBU. Had I been your housemate, OP, I would have taken only a tiny sliver of the cake. That's the way I was brought up to behave. There's no way I would even have contemplated taking half of it! That's just plain greedy and rude, imo.

I am equally amused and perturbed by the strong opinion outlined on this thread - cake is clearly (and rightly) a very divisive issue

In an effort to clear up some misinformation:

1. Not a shop bought traybake but rather a gifted artisanal cake with writing expressing personalised bday wishes;
2. Writing is sacred (that’s the law);
3. RIP small cake, you were delicious.

I would also like to add this is definitely light hearted and I don’t really care about the nibbling of the cake. Well maybe I did for about 5 mins on Friday night after a terrible first week back but now It’s just funny!

It’s ok to feel upset as you wanted to share the cake with others not just your housemate. Some people might be more cautious and think of others and check with you or just be polite and take a taster sized portion but others will think it’s just for them. Maybe err on the side of possible misunderstanding on this occasion. However going forward you can make sure any other offers of goodies are apportioned by you. At least there’s some left and it’s not all gone.

i hoover up cake where ever it is, so i think you should of cut her a piece off.