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Original poster

Housemate ate my bday cake

225 replies

Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 01:57

Fuming! I was sent a small birthday cake and had about an 1/8 of it, seeing a friend for a walk tomorrow so was going to share some with them. I offered some to my housemate and went up to bad. They have had half and all the happy birthday writing is missing. It’s not massive but surely you just take a nibble and leave the rest for the birthday girl/boy. So so pissed off. It’s a bit shit being single and having a bday in a pandemic anyway I am annoyed about this. Should I say something/make a joke?

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Lookslikerainted · 09/01/2021 12:20

You told them to have some, and they took “not a ridiculous sized portion”.

You sound metal. I particularly liked where you said they ate the happy birthday writing- as if that means anything? Grow up Op.

Happy 10th birthday

Nomoresleeps · 09/01/2021 12:22

I wouldn’t personally take as much as your diagram shows, but I think a lot of people would if you offered it!

SnuggyBuggy · 09/01/2021 12:24

I think 5 x 18 cm would have been reasonable.

GingerNorthernLass · 09/01/2021 12:24

No, I wouldn't say anything because people have very different ideas as to what is okay and some people are greedy pigs.

I do believe in damage limitation though so wouldn't be offering cake ever again (unless I had cut them a piece and hidden the rest). Sounds like they can't be trusted not to trough the lot.

Original poster
Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 12:25

@Lookslikerainted you ok hun? I’m not mental it was a slight joke... Read my updates x

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Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 12:26

@GingerNorthernLass @Nomoresleeps @Carolofthebellies points noted and damage limitation strategies in place!

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AnnaSW1 · 09/01/2021 12:27

They've done nothing tong. You offered a piece and they took it.

chickenninja · 09/01/2021 12:31

Great thread OP and beautiful diagram.

Enjoy your walk and your tiny piece of remaining cake Smile

PixiKitKat · 09/01/2021 12:31

After seeing the diagram I think they are a greedy pig! I'd have taken the same slice as you. I wouldn't dream of taking half of someone's birthday cake when they'd only had a small.slice themselves! Just because you offered it didn't mean they needed to be greedy. Next time, maybe divide the cake up yourself before you offer it so they can only take a pre cut piece?

YouBeYou · 09/01/2021 12:34

Having seen and fully considered the excellent diagram I think your housemate is a greedy piggie but only 70% unreasonable.

MessAllOver · 09/01/2021 12:35

I would have made sure to leave at least as much as I took.

GoldieHelen · 09/01/2021 12:35

I cannot believe that people actually think this is ok! Shock

It is unbelievably rude. On what planet does offering a slice of cake make it ok to scoff an entire half?

OP showed good manners to her flatmate by sharing her cake. The flatmate clearly has no manners by taking half. Greedy greedy greedy.

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Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 12:37

@MessAllOver that is the unspoken (birthday tray bake) law isn’t it!

Thanks all, this thread has given me almost as much enjoyment as that missing slice of birthday traybake... it does indeed seem that many of MN would flout societal standards in order to get maximum cake enjoyment which intrigues me - every day a school day hey!

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AliceinBunniland · 09/01/2021 12:40

I don't think YABU

You offered some cake but I'm wondering whther you meant you would cut a piece there and then

They shouldn't have taken more than half of what was there. It was inconsiderate and greedy.

burnoutbabe · 09/01/2021 12:40

Yes piggy. You take the sane as what the other had maximum (unless told you take half)

Only time that size it would be okay is probably your partner where they know they get half (I mean me and boyfriend work share any cake 50/50) and want all theirs in One go than over a period of time.

Circumlocutious · 09/01/2021 12:40

YABU to say you had 1/8 of the cake. Your own diagram suggests you ate almost 1/4 of it,

ParisJeTAime · 09/01/2021 12:43

I would flout those damn societal expectations so fucking hard. I am a greedy pig. Never offer me cake Angry.

In seriousness, I'd probably refuse cake if it was someone else's treat, as I know I'm a piglet.

Reiningitin · 09/01/2021 12:43

This has really cheered me up. Some cracking replies.

ParisJeTAime · 09/01/2021 12:45

That was meant to be a Blush not a Angry

billy1966 · 09/01/2021 12:45

So rude.
Happy birthday.

The person is a greedy rude pig, so NO surprise.

Learn from this and assert yourself.

Flowers
Original poster
Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 12:45

My favourite reply was the space hopper digestion one. I have glimpsed housemate today and can see digesting slice of cake from afar. I hope it makes them mildly uncomfortable.

Am I the new cake troll?

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CSIblonde · 09/01/2021 12:52

You told them to! This happened in a houseshare I had years back. We were told to have some of an average size choc cake baked by new sharer (houseshare of 4, we all had a slice) then berated for doing so! We avoided her after that .

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Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 12:57

Oh come on @CSIblonde this is one person who has consumed the vast majority of the cake. Also have you seen my excellent diagram

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WaltzesWithSnobs · 09/01/2021 12:59

Yanbu imo. But I have a plan!

Next time you're sitting at the breakfast table together, offer her a cup of tea. Put the almost-made cup of tea in front of her and ask if she wants some milk. When she says yes, pour 6/8ths of the carton of milk into her tea (and all over the table and onto the floor as well probably) Stare at her whilst doing this. Don't forget to video the whole thing coz I wanna see it Grin

Happy birthday 🎉

Circumlocutious · 09/01/2021 13:00

@Urghfuming

Oh come on *@CSIblonde* this is one person who has consumed the vast majority of the cake. Also have you seen my excellent diagram
But your diagram clearly indicates that you ate roughly 1/4, then they ate 1/2, therefore leaving you 1/4. You can say it’s still greedy, but in their mind you ate 1/2 and they ate 1/2. Not ‘the vast majority’.