Housemate ate my bday cake

[Urghfuming]

Fuming! I was sent a small birthday cake and had about an 1/8 of it, seeing a friend for a walk tomorrow so was going to share some with them. I offered some to my housemate and went up to bad. They have had half and all the happy birthday writing is missing. It’s not massive but surely you just take a nibble and leave the rest for the birthday girl/boy. So so pissed off. It’s a bit shit being single and having a bday in a pandemic anyway I am annoyed about this. Should I say something/make a joke?

I think as you offered them cake and the portion size wasn't unreasonable then YABU.

YAABU to complain they ate the letters.

If you wanted them to have a set size portion you should have cut them a piece yourself. Note to self for future ref and let it go.

@Herja

You had has one small slice from a cake that was a gift. Someone else eat half the rest after being offered some.

To my mind, half is not some. If I were offered 'some' of someone's chocolate bar for instance, I would take a square or so, not snap off half of it, regardless that my normal portion size of chocolate is more that 2 squares. It is obviously greedy to take half, rather than the same portion the OP had already taken.

I would be pissed off if someone ate half my cake.

I completely agree. As a PP said I would take my cue from size of slice the birthday person had already had and have similar.

This is why you cut the slice you are willing to offer for them.

Only a professional cf would then cut more than the preset slice that is being offered to them.

Agree we could do with a diagram. To scale.
I’d want it to show writing before and the. Also a clear idea of which/how many letters were left by housemate.

Eg
Happy
Urgh
Would be a subtle message. Either snarky or genuine etc. And good advice to follow.

Or if it was sliced the other way -
Birthday
Fuming
Again a subtle message perhaps - and closer to your feelings

You offered it. She ate.

A grown adult upset that the “happy birthday” writing was gone, is just ridiculous.

@MessAllOver

Given it was a small cake and presumably there are two of you living in the house (?), it doesn't seem unreasonable for your housemate to take half and leave the other half for you. Unless she can read minds, how was she to know that you had plans for the remainder and therefore a more appropriate size would have been a (small) quarter? She probably thought you were struggling with it/didn't want to sabotage your Jan diet and so were happy for it not to go to waste.

Surely if you were offering someone half the cake you would say please have half the cake, rather than have "some"?

Nothing to add except I that am still cross with my older sister for eating the face off my Colin the caterpillar cake...26 years later.

You offered. Should have said have a third as I'm taking some to share with my friend tomorrow. But saying 'have some' without saying how much, or better still cutting the slice, means she was in her rights to take as much of it as she wanted.

Personally I wouldn't eat someone's birthday cake if they weren't there - even if they said I could! So I think it's a bit rude... but you did say have some so you can't complain when they take more than you thought they would!

I agree with you OP! I think it's rude that they ate so much of your traybake birthday cake and the fucking writing too!

In future just cut them a portion yourself if you're still friends this time next year.

It's wise to have a lawyer draw up a contract in these situations.

Crumbs!

Ok thanks all clearly I’m not thinking with the most reasonable of minds right now.i won’t say anything and will forgive the heinous act of eating my bday cake writing (#sob)

I am already looking at getting a contract drawn up for next year 😉

For those who want a diagram - see attached! Writing is an artistic interpretation of actual writing. Small traybake dimensions are 25cm x 18cm and my slice was approx a third the size of my housemates.

Enjoy and yes IABVU

@Urghfuming

Ok thanks all clearly I’m not thinking with the most reasonable of minds right now.i won’t say anything and will forgive the heinous act of eating my bday cake writing (#sob)

I am already looking at getting a contract drawn up for next year 😉

For those who want a diagram - see attached! Writing is an artistic interpretation of actual writing. Small traybake dimensions are 25cm x 18cm and my slice was approx a third the size of my housemates.

Enjoy and yes IABVU

I don't think you're unreasonable. If I was offered a bit of cake I wouldn't leave less than I'd chunked off for myself. If they've taken a slice for themselves that's twice the size of the piece they've left then it's poor form.

Well you can’t fault her, she had a lovely big piece of cake...probably thoroughly enjoyed it too! And the writing = extra icing/frosting and extra goodness. I personally love the bits with writing or decorations on for this very reason.

Only one option really, buy yourself another cake.

Call 101.

Haha, like the picture of it.

I think you probably are being unreasonable but I wouldn't have eaten a large slice of someone else's birthday cake!

Maybe buy some cupcakes to enjoy and give to the friend you're seeing for a walk.

Hmm, the updated information does suggest she's been a bit of a piggy.

You offered. She took. I don't get the issue - anyone who has ever shared a flat knows this is the risk you run if you offer someone food.

Having a birthday during a pandemic is rubbish BUT most of the population have had this issue over the last year. Being single is sad, yes, but again lots of people have this issue. It's hardly the end of the world.

I think this might be a joke post because I can't believe an adult would be upset enough to make a passive aggressive joke about cake...

If I'd been offered some cake I think I'd take a modest slice knowing next day other people would have the cake as well or I'd simply ask to cut it for me.

DH would be different. He'd eat a good portion of he likes it.

In your case it's your fault that you didn't cut the slice yourself.

As for the Happy Birthday writing that's a bit silly. At least the cake didn't have a photo of your face. I wouldn't know where to cut.

He'd eat a good portion of the cake if he likes it.

@JorisBonson

Call 101.

Ha ha. File a report.

But seriously, yeah ok...wee bit greedy but you offered. Nom nom.

There is a lesson to be learned here and that is to be more selfish with cake. Good luck going forward.

Oh @unbotheredbutbewildered lack of empathy much?!

Are you single? Yes lots of us are in this boat, but I’m sure you can Forgive the fact that in a very shitty situation small pleasures become big ones and small things become very big ones!

This was meant to be slightly lighthearted and I’m not actually “fuming” but yes am a little flummoxed a bday cake gifted to me has now gone straight down my housemates gullet. In ordinary times I wouldn’t give two shits but just felt a tad annoyed. Thanks.

Will defo be more selfish with cake. At the risk of drop feeding housemate is greedy especially with treat food they haven’t bought. I still haven’t learnt my lesson, more fool me! Thanks all and goodnight

I've just seen the diagram. She is a piggy, yes! That cake must have been really good.