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Housemate ate my bday cake

225 replies

Urghfuming · 09/01/2021 01:57

Fuming! I was sent a small birthday cake and had about an 1/8 of it, seeing a friend for a walk tomorrow so was going to share some with them. I offered some to my housemate and went up to bad. They have had half and all the happy birthday writing is missing. It’s not massive but surely you just take a nibble and leave the rest for the birthday girl/boy. So so pissed off. It’s a bit shit being single and having a bday in a pandemic anyway I am annoyed about this. Should I say something/make a joke?

OP posts:
pictish · 09/01/2021 06:59

It’s a traybake fgs...and you told her to have some so she did. Despite the writing it’s not a ‘birthday cake’ is it?
You’re being daft. Sorry. X

Thedarknightsaredrawingin · 09/01/2021 07:06

If this is your biggest problem you are doing well in life!

GammyLeg · 09/01/2021 07:08

@1forAll74

I would be pleased if someone ate any cakes that were bought for me, as I don't eat cakes at all.
I can't get over this reply Grin. Only on MN.

I'd be annoyed too, OP. Surely most people, when offered cake, would take their cue from the first slice, not help themselves to half of it!

SnuggyBuggy · 09/01/2021 07:08

Did they assume you'd had a bit of cake, weren't that keen on it and offered them the rest? Otherwise I'd expect to be cut a slice and the rest left in your room.

PleasantVille · 09/01/2021 07:08

There are so many night time unauthorised cake eating threads that they really need their own topic

You'd be surprised OP at what a common probem this is, or maybe not Smile

VettiyaIruken · 09/01/2021 07:17

So basically you're annoyed with your roommate for taking you up on your offer to have some of this tray bake and for not being able to read your mind about how much and which part to take?

To avoid this in future, cut a piece and offer the piece.

MysweetAudrina · 09/01/2021 07:20

You do realise you can't have your cake and offer your housemate to eat it?

SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 09/01/2021 07:21

Let them eat cake.

They did.

Fume.

A beginning. A middle. And an end.

Well done.

SnuggyBuggy · 09/01/2021 07:25

I'm really craving birthday cake now.

Thingybobbyboo · 09/01/2021 07:28

Happy birthday. Pandemic birthdays when you’re single are crap. I don’t think YABU to wish you had a better birthday.

But you did tell your housemate to eat some cake. It you didn’t specifically say ‘don’t take too much’ or ‘not the writing’ then I do not think they were wrong.

peak2021 · 09/01/2021 07:28

If it was the late Freddie Starr, he'd have eaten it all, and any pet hamster if you had one!

redfernsydney · 09/01/2021 07:32

Is this really about cake?

Movedtothedge · 09/01/2021 07:35

You should have cut a slice if you were particular about how much they were able to have.

Years ago when I was in a flatshare I made two large Christmas cakes from scratch and the ingredients cost a fortune (for a cake). I gave one cake to a family member and the other was for myself to eat over the next few months. Flatmate admired the cake and I said have a slice or two - but I came home the next day to find he’d eaten the whole cake except for the equivalent of about 2-3 slices. It was a large cake. I was furious but didn’t say anything and never offered again. Lesson learned - when it comes to cake people have no restraint or manners. Or are just greedy and thoughtless.

ScreamingBeans · 09/01/2021 07:40

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

1. I would really need a dimensioned diagram in order to make a considered decision.
  1. Could you write 'Happy Birthday' on the cake with a felt tip pen? (you should be able to adjust the size of your writing to fit the remaining piece of cake quite easily)
Veterinari · 09/01/2021 07:41

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

YANBU it was greedy of them to eat half of your birthday cake. You offered them a bit, not half! A lot of greedy people on MN apparently.
How can you say they were greedy when you have no idea how big the cake was except 'small' or how many housemates there were?

OP don't offer people cake if you don't want them to eat it

WizardOfAus · 09/01/2021 07:46

Yawn

Herja · 09/01/2021 07:49

You had has one small slice from a cake that was a gift. Someone else eat half the rest after being offered some.

To my mind, half is not some. If I were offered 'some' of someone's chocolate bar for instance, I would take a square or so, not snap off half of it, regardless that my normal portion size of chocolate is more that 2 squares. It is obviously greedy to take half, rather than the same portion the OP had already taken.

I would be pissed off if someone ate half my cake.

takingwhatineed · 09/01/2021 07:51

Just buy another one.

SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 09/01/2021 07:53

Will no one think of the mice? 🐁

justanotherneighinparadise · 09/01/2021 07:53

If it mattered that much you should have cut them a slice and put the cake away.

Shoxfordian · 09/01/2021 07:55

I think you’re both unreasonable op, you should have cut them a bit and offered it but then they shouldn’t have had half of it

pilates · 09/01/2021 07:58

You offered and they took a slice. How were they know what size piece to cut off.

MessAllOver · 09/01/2021 08:00

Given it was a small cake and presumably there are two of you living in the house (?), it doesn't seem unreasonable for your housemate to take half and leave the other half for you. Unless she can read minds, how was she to know that you had plans for the remainder and therefore a more appropriate size would have been a (small) quarter? She probably thought you were struggling with it/didn't want to sabotage your Jan diet and so were happy for it not to go to waste.

chickenninja · 09/01/2021 08:04

Would it possible to post a picture of the cake so we could get an idea of the size portion she had.
And place a biro next to the cake for scale, or a ruler?

Al1langdownthecleghole · 09/01/2021 08:04

I’m in the minority, but I don’t think you are unreasonable OP.

Your housemate should have taken a similar sized portion to the one that was missing.

Probably best to let it go.

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