On a diet and husband refused to bring me food

[CoconutTea]

I asked husband to bring me a snack (crackers and cheese) and he stopped in his tracks, refused and said aren't you on a diet anymore. Aibu to be pissed off?

Can’t you get your own snacks

I was doing something with our child.

Depends if you've torn a strip off him in the past for not being supportive of you dieting by bringing you food... Are you cross with him or are you hangry?

I dunno, depends on his tone, if you’ve been telling him you’re on a diet and trying not to snack perhaps he was reminding you of it.

This isn't a hill I'd want to die on but you do you.

no, if you’ve said you’re on a diet and you mean it then he is being supportive and helpful. Either don’t snack or have planned snacks, in which case get them yourself. Doing something with “our child” doesn’t mean he has to wait on you with food if you’ve said you’re in a diet.

Just eat him instead

Well if you said your on a diet isn,t he therefore supporting your decision? Think it may be a case of dammed either way.

yabu

@SmidgenofaPigeon

Can’t you get your own snacks

I wonder how some partnerships work when I read shit like this. Of course she can ask her DH for a snack or a cup of tea as he can ask her. Both can refuse if they want but your thinking is just weird.

Get your own food. You can then have control over your calorie intake.

YABU

I’d be cross too but it’s for your own good op. He is supporting the diet in a weak moment. Do not kill him over crackers.

Definitely one where you had to be there, and need the backstory.
This incident ranges all the way from supportive to arsehole 🤷🏻‍♀️

If there have been past experiences of you breaking diets then regretting and moaning about it, or you've been going on about how you need to diet etc, I don't blame him, he didn't want the blame for you breaking your plans. Cheese and crackers is hardly a diet snack

If you've told him you're on a diet then surely he's just being supportive?? When my DP was trying to stop smoking I wouldn't have bought him cigarettes had he asked me to, I'd have reminded him that he was trying to quit

Your husband isn’t an enabler. Good on him! I’m sure you’d be pissed at him in a months time if he kept being complicit.

I'm on a diet at the mo so I know it's hard, but I can see where he's coming from.

If he's being supportive and you've been moaning about your weight (apologies if you haven't) then he can't win, can he?

Now I am eating crackers (made by myself) - why am I so open to suggestion 🥺

I don't blame him tbh.

Have you ever said to him in the past to not bring you snacks if you crack and ask for them? Just wondering if he's following previous orders.

Yabu. He's literally done nothing wrong.

Sounds like there is a back story here.

Hmmm. I wouldn't be too pleased if my OH made snarky remarks about food or my choices to me generally, but even more so in front of the kids. There's other ways of being helpful re diets- eg 'shall I get you an apple rather than a Snickers?'.

Difficult to say either way, but losing weight is a hell of a lot quicker and easier if you don't snack. (I personally can't get my head round all the snacking people seem to do and constantly justify).