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CoconutTea · 2021-01-07T19:46:06+00:00

I asked husband to bring me a snack (crackers and cheese) and he stopped in his tracks, refused and said aren't you on a diet anymore. Aibu to be pissed off?

eattolose · 08/01/2021 08:23

Get your own! Or don't bang on about being on a diet

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2021 08:24

OP it is totally normal in a healthy relationship to be able to ask your partner to bring you something

I guess I’ve never been so desperate for a snack that I could not wait till I was finished what I was doing to get it.

If my husband is getting something for himself, or me for me, we would offer if the other wanted something, but I certainly wouldn’t ask my husband to randomly go get me cheese and biscuits. I’d wait till I was finished what I was doing and go get them myself.

I suspect the ops pissed because she is supposed to be on a diet, and he called her out on it.

Brefugee · 08/01/2021 09:03

OP it is totally normal in a healthy relationship to be able to ask your partner to bring you something

but it's also normal to support them with dieting (even if OP may perfectly well have calculated that a snack of cheese and biscuits was ok for her)

It's also perfectly normal to say "can you take over doing the finger painting with DC here while i get something to eat"

It's also perfectly normal for your partner to be in the middle of doing something else and say "sorry, no" because they're busy.

So the various scenarios are unanswerable. Has OP been going on about wanting to lose weight? is her DP supporting her because he wants her to lose weight for his benefit? Is DP supportive because he wants to help OP succeed at something she wants? Does he normally do these mysterious things with the DCs as well or is DC work all down to OP? Was he in the middle of something at the time? (maybe WFH or something) Is it normal behaviour in OPs household for DP to say "pls bring me a snack" and OP springs into action? Or do they fetch snacks for each other on occasions? Does he always say "no"?

Inquiring minds want to know.

BUt mostly this one wants to know what the DC activity was

Backbee · 08/01/2021 09:21

OP it is totally normal in a healthy relationship to be able to ask your partner to bring you something

It's also normal to be able to say can't be arsed if someone asks you, if OP had asked for some fruit he probably would have chucked something over. Depending what I was doing, there's a high chance I really couldn't be bothered to make cheese and crackers on demand.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/01/2021 11:24

"Bloody hell....If someone bought me cheese and crackers as a pudding, I'd be fuming!"

I have to agree there. Pudding should be sweet.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/01/2021 11:31

"Surely you know that cheese and crackers (saturated fat + refined carbs) is not the sort of food one would eat while trying to lose weight. Fine as a snack if eaten in sensible amounts when maintaining weight, but not on a weight loss diet."

To lose weight you need to reduce your calorie intake. This might mean giving up cheese and crackers or it might not. Plenty of people lose weight successfully while eating cheese!

eattolose · 08/01/2021 11:32

@Gwenhwyfar

"Surely you know that cheese and crackers (saturated fat + refined carbs) is not the sort of food one would eat while trying to lose weight. Fine as a snack if eaten in sensible amounts when maintaining weight, but not on a weight loss diet."

To lose weight you need to reduce your calorie intake. This might mean giving up cheese and crackers or it might not. Plenty of people lose weight successfully while eating cheese!

Cheese is very healthy when eaten in moderation.

Xenia · 08/01/2021 11:34

Do we know the poster's weight yet?

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2021 11:36

@Gwenhwyfar

"Surely you know that cheese and crackers (saturated fat + refined carbs) is not the sort of food one would eat while trying to lose weight. Fine as a snack if eaten in sensible amounts when maintaining weight, but not on a weight loss diet."

To lose weight you need to reduce your calorie intake. This might mean giving up cheese and crackers or it might not. Plenty of people lose weight successfully while eating cheese!

Yeah but it needs to be closely monitored in terms of portion size. Unless he knew exactly how much she’d eaten that day or has a set portion, let’s be honest, this likely wasn’t part of the diet plan.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/01/2021 11:42

[quote Thewinterofdiscontent]**@roarfeckingroarr

Well you’re a size 8, so then yes probably losing a tub of ice cream a week might be enough.
If you’re a size 16 you need to lose the tub of ice cream, the snacks, the second dollop of mash and the little something before bed, to get to a size 12.

I agree cheese is fine.[/quote]
I don't think this is true. If a size 16 person with no health issues wanted to be a size 8, she could eat what the size 8 poster eats and she would lose weight. She'd have to be eating fewer calories than now. She might find cutting out snacks helpful or she might not. She might prefer to have small meals and snacks, whatever works for her.

borntohula · 08/01/2021 11:44

@user1493494961

I hate the word snack.

Yes but is it as bad as 'meal' or 'a bite to eat?'

borntohula · 08/01/2021 11:47

As for cheese, I know people on the 'keto' diet and I can tell you that you can eat an unlimited amount of cheese (preferably with a lot of meat) every day and as long as you don't eat fruit, you will lose weight. No noticeable difference yet but no such thing as a quick fix...

SomewhereInbetween1 · 08/01/2021 12:01

Honestly, this would probably be my reaction because I'm a lazy bugger and cheese on crackers takes more effort to make than chucking DP a bag of crisps 😂

BronwenFrideswide · 08/01/2021 12:10

@borntohula 'Constantly justify?' It's having a snack, not licking someone's face.

Odd thing to say.

Losing weight is easier and quicker if you stop snacking.

borntohula · 08/01/2021 12:15

[quote BronwenFrideswide]**@borntohula* 'Constantly justify?' It's having a snack, not licking someone's face*.

Odd thing to say.

Losing weight is easier and quicker if you stop snacking.[/quote]
No one needs to 'justify' a fucking snack 😂 and you're talking bollocks as well. I lost weight easily after gaining during pregnancy and I was 'snacking.' Losing weight is as simple as creating a calorie deficit. If OP's cheese and crackers plus whatever else she ate that day all adds up to 1200 calories (for example) she will probably lose weight...

SchrodingersImmigrant · 08/01/2021 12:23

I think all these sncking no snacking arguments come from the fact everyone has different definition of "snacking". Someone has 2 small snacks a day like piece of a cheese and a cracker and yogurt later, for other it's more grazing.

Either way @borntohula is right🤷🏻

Brefugee · 08/01/2021 12:47

I hate the word snack.

Yes but is it as bad as 'meal' or 'a bite to eat?'

yeah well neither of those is as bad as nibbles so ...well, so nothing. Just mentioning it.

And thanks to this thread have just had - 2nd day in a row - cream cracker and cheddar sandwiches for lunch with lots of butter and they were yummy.

I had to make them myself though.

LilMidge01 · 08/01/2021 12:50

I don;t understand what there is to be pissed at... he didn't refuse. He just thought that you were on a diet and this wasn't part of it and so is asking to clarify....you can say back "yeah but this isn't too much of a stretch" or "yeah but I really fancy a little snack to keep me going right now"... or whatever the damn reason is

BronwenFrideswide · 08/01/2021 12:54

@borntohula Good for you, and it's a big if that the OP's snack was included in her calorie counting.

People on here constantly justify snacking - breakfast, mid-morning snack, lunch, mid-afternoon snack, dinner, pre bedtime snack - with the wail that they are hungry and can't possibly allow their stomachs more than a couple of hours without food in it.

It's far easier to create a calorie deficit if you are not constantly snacking between meals.

Qwpoeriu · 08/01/2021 12:55

Probably already been said. You don't need a snack whilst playing with your child. Cheese and crackers is not good for loosing weight. He was reminding you that you are on a diet.
Diets are hard mentally. You'll get through this. Keep going!

Bangable · 08/01/2021 12:59

@SchrodingersImmigrant

I think all these sncking no snacking arguments come from the fact everyone has different definition of "snacking". Someone has 2 small snacks a day like piece of a cheese and a cracker and yogurt later, for other it's more grazing.

Either way @borntohula is right🤷🏻

Either way @borntohula is right

How?

A lot of people don't just have 'a piece of cheese and a cracker' though, they eat C+C mindlessly as a 'snack'. As a combination, cheese and crackers and very moorish and often highly calorific. There is a huge difference between say a crispbread and a Ritz cracker and a piece of stilton or mozzarella, there would be no 'calorie deficit' if someone 'snacked' on quarter of a packet of Ritz and a lump of stilton

SchrodingersImmigrant · 08/01/2021 13:01

Did you read that post?
How is it not right to say that you will lose weight if you snack if it's within calorie deficit ...

borntohula · 08/01/2021 13:12

20g of cheddar and 2 cream crackers isn't even 200 calories. Let's assume that, because OP is dieting, she is counting calories and not eating an entire sleeve of crackers and and a full block of cheese. Below 200 calories is not excessive for a snack and cheese isn't even empty calories! I had a galaxy ripple earlier, now there is NO justification for that.

waydownwego · 08/01/2021 13:13

What @Bluntness100 said. ^

You can eat anything and lose weight, as long as you're eating at a deficit. However, to do so, you need to measure and weigh everything and calculate how many calories you have left. Just bringing someone a random quantity of cheese and crackers is unlikely to be diet-friendly.

borntohula · 08/01/2021 13:16

@Brefugee

I hate the word snack.

Yes but is it as bad as 'meal' or 'a bite to eat?'

yeah well neither of those is as bad as nibbles so ...well, so nothing. Just mentioning it.

And thanks to this thread have just had - 2nd day in a row - cream cracker and cheddar sandwiches for lunch with lots of butter and they were yummy.

I had to make them myself though.

What about 'pickies?' Seen this on a menu to describe food that can be eaten without cutlery. So, Snacks and Nibbles rather than a Meal iyswim? 😁