Page 9 | On a diet and husband refused to bring me food

CoconutTea · 2021-01-07T19:46:06+00:00

I asked husband to bring me a snack (crackers and cheese) and he stopped in his tracks, refused and said aren't you on a diet anymore. Aibu to be pissed off?

WildfirePonie · 08/01/2021 13:21

It shouldn't be a diet. It should be a way of life.

borntohula · 08/01/2021 13:28

@WildfirePonie

It shouldn't be a diet. It should be a way of life.

This, I do agree with. If people viewed their commitment to eat less as a lifestyle change rather than a diet, I reckon they would find it easier to stick with.

borntohula · 08/01/2021 13:31

But that still doesn't mean depriving themselves of food they enjoy, whether it be celery sticks ('healthy' vegetable) or cheese and crackers (evil).

SchrodingersImmigrant · 08/01/2021 13:35

@WildfirePonie

It shouldn't be a diet. It should be a way of life.

That's why it's ok to have things like cheese😁 Just needs to learn how much of it. Sustainable, balanced, not ultra deprivation.

I bloody hate celery sticks and every time someone here mentions them my stomach turns a little And I am not joking.

BessMarvin · 08/01/2021 13:41

[quote DuzzyFuck]@BessMarvin Assuming you're eating meals you don't need snacks to survive either, what's your point? [/quote]
People need food so it's not unreasonable to want and have food. Giving someone food is not a bad thing. Dieting isn't giving up food.

Giving up smoking is giving up cigarettes. You don't have them at all.

borntohula · 08/01/2021 13:41

@SchrodingersImmigrant they are absolutely disgusting. That aftertaste...

Gwenhwyfar · 08/01/2021 13:43

"This, I do agree with. If people viewed their commitment to eat less as a lifestyle change rather than a diet, I reckon they would find it easier to stick with."

I think most people do start on a 'lifestyle change', they just don't stick to it for a lifetime. And of course, for a diet/lifestyle change to be sustainable, it can't be too punitive and you can't give up cheese and crackers for life!

borntohula · 08/01/2021 13:48

@Gwenhwyfar

"This, I do agree with. If people viewed their commitment to eat less as a lifestyle change rather than a diet, I reckon they would find it easier to stick with."

I think most people do start on a 'lifestyle change', they just don't stick to it for a lifetime. And of course, for a diet/lifestyle change to be sustainable, it can't be too punitive and you can't give up cheese and crackers for life!

I quite agree.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 08/01/2021 13:52

Essentially, you can have anything when you are trying to lose weight. Or even maintain. Just moderate it (unless you are on certain restrictive diets, of course). Cheese? Cool. Chocolate? Why not. Kfc meal? Ok!
Just use the brains god has given, don't have it all the time or too much. And don't skip all day eating to binge on it. That's not helthy at all.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 08/01/2021 13:54

[quote borntohula]@SchrodingersImmigrant they are absolutely disgusting. That aftertaste...[/quote]
They are in way too many recipes but I don't want that... Thing... In my fridge so... Freestyling most recipes😂

Mustbe3ormorecharacters · 08/01/2021 13:58

YABU it can be a nightmare being made responsible for another persons diet and weight loss.

BronwenFrideswide · 08/01/2021 14:41

@borntohula

20g of cheddar and 2 cream crackers isn't even 200 calories. Let's assume that, because OP is dieting, she is counting calories and not eating an entire sleeve of crackers and and a full block of cheese. Below 200 calories is not excessive for a snack and cheese isn't even empty calories! I had a galaxy ripple earlier, now there is NO justification for that.

Hell of a lot of assumptions there, so let's also assume that the OP's DH wouldn't be religiously measuring out 20g of cheddar cheese and counting out two crackers.

Still easier to just not bother with a snack if you have to be that specific about it.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/01/2021 14:43

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Essentially, you can have anything when you are trying to lose weight. Or even maintain. Just moderate it (unless you are on certain restrictive diets, of course). Cheese? Cool. Chocolate? Why not. Kfc meal? Ok! Just use the brains god has given, don't have it all the time or too much. And don't skip all day eating to binge on it. That's not helthy at all.

Yes. There's even a man who documented himself losing weight by having Macdonalds every day. He lowered his calorie intake so he lost weight.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/01/2021 14:44

"Still easier to just not bother with a snack if you have to be that specific about it."

You don't have to be that specific about it, you just have to have a calorie deficit overall.

luxxlisbon · 08/01/2021 14:47

The comments on this are insane! shouldn't snack while dieting, can't eat cheese and lose weight, no need to snack while around your children

The reaching is UNREAL. How do any of you know how much she ate that day before, how much cheese she would have had, how busy she was up to that point etc?

OP you can eat whatever you want and still lose weight and be healthy as long as you are overall balanced in the day and stay at a calorie deficit.

Either you had already eaten a lot in the day and your husband didn't want to hear you complaining about not losing weight or he couldn't be bothered to grab a snack for you and was putting you off wanting it so he didn't have to.
Ignore all the pearl clutchers on this thread.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 08/01/2021 15:05

Yes. There's even a man who documented himself losing weight by having Macdonalds every day. He lowered his calorie intake so he lost weight.
Absolutely! I wouldn't want to be his organs though😂

Still easier to just not bother with a snack if you have to be that specific about it.
Being that specific is actually a good way to learn amounts. I can now cut cheese within few grams of what I wanted. You need to consider density, wetness, mould, holes😂 It's a science!

Being that specific leads to good portion control long term, eventually without scales(which is a big issue and how many got fat). So no. It's not "easier just not to bother" if anything it's important to bother.

Also all this "omg you can't snack/eat cheese/whatever when you are on diet" is just not helpful overal. It leads to people thinking they did something wrong when they eat that whatever and feelings of guilt. I hate seeing people saying "I feel so guilty, I had chocolate. I ruined it.". No one should feel guilty for having a bit of anything once in a while.

wildraisins · 08/01/2021 15:08

I guess he's trying to be supportive, but he should respect your decisions. If you've decided you want a snack then he should assume you have thought it through and know what you want. I don't think it's very respectful.

HOS8595 · 08/01/2021 15:11

@borntohula

20g of cheddar and 2 cream crackers isn't even 200 calories. Let's assume that, because OP is dieting, she is counting calories and not eating an entire sleeve of crackers and and a full block of cheese. Below 200 calories is not excessive for a snack and cheese isn't even empty calories! I had a galaxy ripple earlier, now there is NO justification for that.

It’s galaxy.... there is always justification for a ripple!

SchrodingersImmigrant · 08/01/2021 15:16

All that said, I am with the DH btw.

BronwenFrideswide · 08/01/2021 15:29

I agree with some of what you are saying SchrodingersImmigrant, but still think it is far easier not to snack than to be that regimented and obsessive about measuring out exactly 20g of cheese and two crackers and expecting someone else to do it for you to keep you on track, assuming of course that the OP is religiously calorie counting, weighing and measuring all food that passes her lips in order to lose weight, is a faff too far.

CityCommuter · 08/01/2021 16:25

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 08/01/2021 16:28

@BronwenFrideswide

I agree with some of what you are saying SchrodingersImmigrant, but still think it is far easier not to snack than to be that regimented and obsessive about measuring out exactly 20g of cheese and two crackers and expecting someone else to do it for you to keep you on track, assuming of course that the OP is religiously calorie counting, weighing and measuring all food that passes her lips in order to lose weight, is a faff too far.

It doesn't have to be "obsessive". It's basically learning right portions. Again with the negative terms. There are levels when it becomes obsessive, but measuring up your snack ain't that.

I agree with that someone else doing it part! That's why I am with the DH.

Thewinterofdiscontent · 08/01/2021 20:18

@Gwenhwyfar

My point was to the poster who says they were a size 8 and happily ate a carton of ice cream. Their point was no food was bad.

Whilst I agree to an extent, the main point of contention is that those of us over say a 14 are overweight because we have the carton of ice cream but then will still eat a big dinner and a snack. And a nibble of something . And the cheese and biscuits.

If the Op ate and exercised like the size 8 person on here, they’d be an 8 too. Regardless of cheese, McDonalds or salad. In my experience thin people like control on food - asking DP to just bring biscuits and cheese would be all sorts of wrong.

Scarlettpixie · 08/01/2021 20:50

I think yabu. You have told him you are on a diet so he is supporting you by reminding you.

Brefugee · 08/01/2021 22:51

What about 'pickies?' Seen this on a menu to describe food that can be eaten without cutlery. So, Snacks and Nibbles rather than a Meal iyswim?

nuke it from orbit, it's the only way to be sure