On a diet and husband refused to bring me food

[CoconutTea]

I asked husband to bring me a snack (crackers and cheese) and he stopped in his tracks, refused and said aren't you on a diet anymore. Aibu to be pissed off?

@SquirtleSquad

I sense a big drop feed coming on

Like a broken leg or something...

I'm in the when it comes to snacks, get them yourself camp. Unless they're making something for themselves and ask if you want something.

@BlueGreenDreams

Jesus, there's some right ones on here tonight. Male misogynists or their female apologists aplenty over several threads it seems.

Being on a diet DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO EAT for start. I also fail to see how it's like giving up fucking smoking seeing as if you don't eat, you sodding die. Nobody ever died of not having cigarettes any more.

The knowledge that you are on a diet also does not entitle ANYONE else to dictate what you can and cannot have to eat.

Whether to be on a diet or not and the choice of food is solely down to the person dieting.

Your H is an arsehole, it's not up to him what you are allowed to eat.

Isn't the arsehole the one demanding someone else brings them a snack though?

Sounds like a reasonable question from him.

How’s the weight loss going?

‘Cant get my head around’ snacking?

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Goodness me much of life must be very confusing indeed if having a snack is hard to grasp.

I'd be over the moon if mine did this! I have zero will power so he is my will power!

Hmm, interesting that my reaction to this anecdote is the opposite of everyone else’s, and would be “who made him the food police?”

Well crackers and cheese are a pretty bad diet food!

They can't win, can they.

Either they are arseholes because they enable, hence don't support.
Or they are arseholes because they don't enable (or at least ask) and support.
🤷🏻

@BessMarvin Assuming you're eating meals you don't need snacks to survive either, what's your point?

Surely he is supporting you?

What if you were a smoker and trying to give up and asked him to bring you a fag?

He's maybe trying to look after you and your health.

You sound very touchy, Can't imagine coming to a forum to ask such a question.

Yabu. Your DH is not an arsehole.

I agree with the pp who said that it is going to be really irritating to hear someone who talks about dieting then ask for snacks that contain the same calories as a light meal.

Well, it is only the 7th! If this was a NYR then you are failing this quite badly! Saying this, I would definitely be punching him the face. I only managed to the 2nd of dry January! I think the 1st of dry January was only because of a big hangover and I excused the rest of the month because of f*ing lockdown. And those people thinking that the keto diet involves cheese and biscuits - it only involves cheese! No biscuits, no crackers, nor pickle! Not even a fucking grape!

If it’s a mild vanity diet then he was being unreasonable. If you are properly overweight and need to lose a lot then he’s being supportive.

@BlueGreenDreams

Jesus, there's some right ones on here tonight. Male misogynists or their female apologists aplenty over several threads it seems.

Being on a diet DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO EAT for start. I also fail to see how it's like giving up fucking smoking seeing as if you don't eat, you sodding die. Nobody ever died of not having cigarettes any more.

The knowledge that you are on a diet also does not entitle ANYONE else to dictate what you can and cannot have to eat.

Whether to be on a diet or not and the choice of food is solely down to the person dieting.

Your H is an arsehole, it's not up to him what you are allowed to eat.

You don’t get to dictate who brings you food and get cross when they refuse.

A diet to lose weight is better served without snacks and without processed high calories crackers and cheese.

It’s easier to diet than to stop smoking exactly because you HAVE to eat. You’re just making better choices about what and how much.
You don’t become a “non eater”.

You literally have to become a different person if you give up a non essential habit like alcohol or smoking. One drink or one cigarette and you’re back classified as a drinker or a smoker instead of tee total or non smoker.

Dieting is bloody hard. Best thing to do op is just to get on with it quietly and not tell anyone. It works better and less pressure. My dieting started Monday and ended at 9.00 this morning when I finished off a box of celebrations left over from Christmas. It’s back to the Skinny Sprinkles for me 😟

I see where you’re coming from. I was moaning to dp tonight that he had made (a lovely) dinner with oil instead of fry light. I complained that using the fry light would have saved me a lot of calories he retorted “so would not having seconds” I cried

He was right Iwbu as are you sorry. Time for cheese and crackers

@Seychelles98 I think that's what upsetting, that he wants me to lose the weight as much as I do.

I think a lot depends on whether DH is an Adonis or a doughnut himself, tbh. If he could do with losing weight too but is being arsey about what the OP eats, she INBU.

I'm surprised so many people think this is OK. If he was trying to be supportive, wouldn't he have said something a little more kindly? Maybe, "Are you sure that's what you want or shall I bring you a banana?" "Aren't you supposed to be on a diet?" sounds condescending, snarky and judgemental to me, not supportive.

I'm also surprised by the number of people who think that asking your life partner to do you a favour while you're dealing with your (joint) child is so unreasonable. Do you never do nice things for them, or is it specifically the making a snack that's beyond the bounds of what could possibly be expected from someone who loves you?

I don't know, I'm torn

My DH knows I'm trying to lose weight but likes to bring sweets and wine home. Especially things that sit in the cupboard for days, so it's not like you can have one bad evening then straight back on it, because the temptation is there.

He's too kind really to have the heart to pull me up on my diet, not that it's his job.

Are you sure that's what you want or shall I bring you a banana?
😂😂😂 As if that's better and less condescending than "aren't you on a diet anymore"😂😂😂

Have you not just had your tea? 🤣.
Seriously, I’d get me own as it means I could slather as much butter on said crackers as I wanted.

@CoconutTea Don’t look at it like that. Look at it that he’s supporting you because you want to diet, and he wants you to be happy.

We have no proof that he’s unhappy with your weight, from this action.

@SchrodingersImmigrant I thought that too 😂😂 I would club DH round the head if he spoke to me like that, I’m not 3 😂😂