On a diet and husband refused to bring me food

[CoconutTea]

I asked husband to bring me a snack (crackers and cheese) and he stopped in his tracks, refused and said aren't you on a diet anymore. Aibu to be pissed off?

Obviously you are being unreasonable

It was only a snack. It’s not like you needed the food. Not really.
So I agree with the prior poster who said not a hill to die on.

@Travis1

Just eat him instead

Hahahaha

@Harrykanesrightsock

Not weird at all thanks! If DH was in the kitchen and said, I’m making some toast do you want some and vice verse that’s different but I can’t imagine a scenario where I’m like ‘hey, get me some cheese and biscuits!’ out of the clear blue sky, because I’m a grown up and I can get snacks for myself.

@BronwenFrideswide

Difficult to say either way, but losing weight is a hell of a lot quicker and easier if you don't snack. (I personally can't get my head round all the snacking people seem to do and constantly justify).

'Constantly justify?' It's having a snack, not licking someone's face.

Cheese and crackers..... you are on a diet

He just sounds like he couldn't be bothered.

OK, I REALLY want some cheese and crackers now.

Still got some left over from Christmas, AND some cheese. Ooooooh and some wine too.

Looks like MY diet starts next week. Also, we have 2 inches of snow that has fallen in the past 4 hours, so it feels like it's still Christmas. So YOLO!

It can be beneficial having someone else bring your food if you're the sort of person who will make yourself a larger portion than needed, or can't resist picking at the leftovers in the fridge when you get the cheese out.

Where oh where can I find a guy like him. My partners in the past if I’ve told them I’m on a diet that would let me break it all the time. Maybe he didn’t want you to snap at him later that you’d broken your diet

If my dp asked me to bring him snacks I'd draw him a map to the kitchen and tell him to sort himself out.

YABU - like other PP have said, just get your own snack.

[quote SmidgenofaPigeon]@Harrykanesrightsock

Not weird at all thanks! If DH was in the kitchen and said, I’m making some toast do you want some and vice verse that’s different but I can’t imagine a scenario where I’m like ‘hey, get me some cheese and biscuits!’ out of the clear blue sky, because I’m a grown up and I can get snacks for myself.[/quote]
Yeah I don't do that either really... Nor does DH. At the most it will be 'put the kettle on love!' (If one of us is in the kitchen.) Or 'grab us a bag of chicken crisps on your way back in from the kitchen... ta!'

OR if he was in the kitchen making himself some toast, I may ask 'could you bring me a couple of crackers with some butter on please?'

So hmmmm, maybe I do do it occasionally, and so does he. But if he was just popping in to get a mint or something, I wouldn't expect him to do me cheese and crackers then. Only if he was doing something similar for himself IYSWIM.

Why would you need a snack if you were doing something with your child anyway?

It sounds more like he was being supportive of your diet. After all who would have cheese as a snack on a diet?

@SeasonFinale of course you can have cheese as a snack on a diet! I’m low carb and cheese is life.

I sense a big drop feed coming on

YABU unless you are on the 'cheese n' crackers' diet in which case, he should be more supportive.

Jesus, there's some right ones on here tonight. Male misogynists or their female apologists aplenty over several threads it seems.

Being on a diet DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO EAT for start. I also fail to see how it's like giving up fucking smoking seeing as if you don't eat, you sodding die. Nobody ever died of not having cigarettes any more.

The knowledge that you are on a diet also does not entitle ANYONE else to dictate what you can and cannot have to eat.

Whether to be on a diet or not and the choice of food is solely down to the person dieting.

Your H is an arsehole, it's not up to him what you are allowed to eat.

@Cocomarine
This incident ranges all the way from supportive to arsehole 🤷🏻‍♀️

I can understand the supportive bit but the arsehole?
Its a simple question and if she is on a diet a reasonable one to ask.

YABU he was being supportive!

@SomewhatBored

It can be beneficial having someone else bring your food if you're the sort of person who will make yourself a larger portion than needed, or can't resist picking at the leftovers in the fridge when you get the cheese out.

Nope, they can take personal responsibility and develop self-control rather than putting the onus on someone else. Imagine having to send your partner to the fridge 5 times a day because you can't exercise restraint.

@DuzzyFuck

If you've told him you're on a diet then surely he's just being supportive?? When my DP was trying to stop smoking I wouldn't have bought him cigarettes had he asked me to, I'd have reminded him that he was trying to quit

You don't need a certain amount of cigarettes a day in order to not die though, unlike food.

If you talk about being on a diet a lot he probably thinks he's helping, it's pretty teedious listening to someone constantly going on about food, if they then ask for a snack they can't be arsed to get themselves it would be irritating.

@SeasonFinale

It sounds more like he was being supportive of your diet. After all who would have cheese as a snack on a diet?

I have a cheese as a snack on a calorie counting diet. It's healthy😁 It usually comes with apple.

Yeah, yabu op. You obviously talked about being on a diet