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AIBU?

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Original poster

To really hate the loud, selfish celebrations & fireworks people have outside on NYE?

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:12

I'm laid in bed exhausted and pissed off.

My autistic three year old has been woken three times in the run up to midnight, by endless fireworks exploding outside our house, so loud and close that they terrified him out of a deep sleep. By the third time he was woken he was so distressed he was smashing his head on the floor Sad

In between the hundreds of bangs coming from all angles there are drunk people screaming "happy new year!" and "woohoooooo!" that can be heard in here as clear as day, as though they think it's welcome, or simply don't care.

Not everybody is seeing in the new year by getting drunk, and not all of those who are having a drink feel the need to take their fanfare into the street, giving not one shit about elderly/vulnerable neighbours or people who have to be up for work.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable?

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Sirzy · 01/01/2021 00:14

I think once a year it’s expected as annoying as it can be, I hate fireworks but while they are still allowed then people will set them off at new year.

Original poster
LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:14

People who have voted YABU, please elaborate.

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Original poster
LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:15

Crossed posts

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WorraLiberty · 01/01/2021 00:16

Did you never do anything like that in your life before you had kids OP?

ZadieZadie · 01/01/2021 00:17

My baby has been woken up twice.

But it's once a year. And right now in particular I'm not going to begrudge anyone some fun.

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 01/01/2021 00:17

It's one night, one night where raucous stuff is expected. You decision to reproduce should not affect others, tolerance works both ways.

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:19

@WorraLiberty

Did you never do anything like that in your life before you had kids OP?
I've never had fireworks myself no.

I've been to a handful of organised displays but they don't tend to be in residential areas.

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LowestEbb · 01/01/2021 00:19

It's once a year and let's face it, a pretty shit one at that. You could make it more exciting for your DS, I had to do that for thunderstorms and he loves them now.

AramintaLee · 01/01/2021 00:20

Yeah I think given the circumstances, I'd rather have people having their own little celebration in their back gardens than meeting up in large groups at a display right now or partying large in town. It's been a miserable year for everyone so I won't begrudge people one night of fun. I have 2 cats who hate fireworks so locked them in nice and early (they're both still hiding under the sofa) and whilst I hate how scared fireworks makes them, it's one evening and it will all be forgotten in an hour.

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:21

@MrsRobinsonsHandprints

It's one night, one night where raucous stuff is expected. You decision to reproduce should not affect others, tolerance works both ways.
I have always been tolerant but I think I can be forgiven for being pissed off when my child is that distressed he's harming himself.
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WorraLiberty · 01/01/2021 00:21

You never shouted Happy New Year in the street or outside a pub?

I'm sorry it's affected your DS in this way on the run up, but I would've thought when you posted at 12 minutes past midnight, all the noise and the fireworks would be at peak volume, so hopefully he went back to sleep before then.

AuntVictoria · 01/01/2021 00:21

I have a 2 year old and a 4 month old and it's very noisy on my street. Of course I don't care! It's NYE, people are allowed to celebrate, it's only one night. It didn't even occur to me to be annoyed, even though I am obviously not joining in this year. I'm glad people are having some fun.

RebeccaCloud9 · 01/01/2021 00:21

I really feel for you with an autistic son in this situation.

However, I've just been stood at my open window, thoroughly loving the fireworks and calls of happy new year. It felt really lovely to hear people calling to each other when we are all apart.

youngestisapsycho · 01/01/2021 00:22

YABU. It’s New Year’s Eve... what did you expect?

MyBossIsATwat · 01/01/2021 00:22

Also laying in bed exhausted and pissed off.

They people doing it are selfish cunts. I thought that before I had a kid too.

Solidarity.

yawnsvillex · 01/01/2021 00:23

Lighten up OP! It's once a year and it's been a shit year. Happy New Year Glitterball

lastqueenofscotland · 01/01/2021 00:23

I hate fireworks so much... so I feel you there. People shouting happy new year I can’t get worked up about

IHaveBrilloHair · 01/01/2021 00:23

Yabu.
It's New year's eve.
Yes, you're allowed to be pissed off, but its just one of those things you have to deal with.

IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0 · 01/01/2021 00:23

You do realise that you are not the only person on this planet ? I bit of understanding for others in different circumstances to your own would help - just because others choose to celebrate differently from you doesn't make them wrong!

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:23

@MyBossIsATwat

Also laying in bed exhausted and pissed off.

They people doing it are selfish cunts. I thought that before I had a kid too.

Solidarity.

Thank you! Smile
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BebeStevens · 01/01/2021 00:24

OP they don't understand, hugs for you. Maybe make some plans to manage it next year?

weetoot · 01/01/2021 00:24

It's not once a year. It's often weekly from October through to January.

userxx · 01/01/2021 00:25

@MyBossIsATwat

Also laying in bed exhausted and pissed off.

They people doing it are selfish cunts. I thought that before I had a kid too.

Solidarity.

You'll always have the selfish cunts and the moaning cunts 🤷‍♂️

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:25

@IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0

You do realise that you are not the only person on this planet ? I bit of understanding for others in different circumstances to your own would help - just because others choose to celebrate differently from you doesn't make them wrong!
My post asked whether people thought i was being unreasonable to be pissed off, I didn't imply or insinuate that they were unreasonable to be setting off fireworks and screeching in the street?

I'm fully aware that I'm not the only person on the planet thank you.

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MadameBlobby · 01/01/2021 00:26

YABU. The world doesn’t revolve around you and your kid. It’s one night at the end of a complete shitter of a year where all other fun and enjoyment has been taken out of it and you grudge people even that. Honestly.