To really hate the loud, selfish celebrations & fireworks people have outside on NYE?

[LdnMum94]

I'm laid in bed exhausted and pissed off.

My autistic three year old has been woken three times in the run up to midnight, by endless fireworks exploding outside our house, so loud and close that they terrified him out of a deep sleep. By the third time he was woken he was so distressed he was smashing his head on the floor

In between the hundreds of bangs coming from all angles there are drunk people screaming "happy new year!" and "woohoooooo!" that can be heard in here as clear as day, as though they think it's welcome, or simply don't care.

Not everybody is seeing in the new year by getting drunk, and not all of those who are having a drink feel the need to take their fanfare into the street, giving not one shit about elderly/vulnerable neighbours or people who have to be up for work.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable?

And as pp said, today it actually started at 5pm.

I’m sorry your sons going through this, however you should have been more organised, if he’s self harming this should only have happened the once before you put safe measures in place, sound cancelling headphones, soothing music, favourite teddy etc... you can’t blame others for your poor organisation.

I have my additional needs nephew here and he’s currently flat out with his earbuds in none the wiser.

And it's still going on.

Feel for you and your poor child, OP.

They are particularly loud this year. It sounds as though the house is being shelled.

@LdnMum94 how is your son doing? Sensory lights on here too; he seems to be slowly calming. Still under the bed but the screaming is sporadic now. Hope you’re ok.

@JamieLeesCurtains I was being sarcastic but whoosh!

The fireworks that are being described as bombs sound exactly like that.. or gun shots it's not an exaggeration.

People who are confused by the description must not have heard them before. They are bloody awful.

@HaudYerWheeshtBawbag you’re aware not all SN children will tolerate earbuds, yes?

Jeez OP, you're getting a bit of a hammering on here. Really don't think that's fair; you're obviously stressed and tired out.

In my opinion you aren't being unreasonable at all. However, you have to take it on the chin and see it from both sides. I feel so so sorry for you and your poor son (I say this as someone with no children; I can't imagine how difficult it must be not only having a young child but a young child with what I presume is an audio sensitivity?) but sadly people will always put their fun and enjoyment above consideration for other people. I for one do not understand the enjoyment derived from fireworks - it sounds like fucking Beirut here.

I guess you'll just have to comfort your son as much as you can tonight and try to dull the noise as much as possible. Try to console yourself with the fact it is one night - people have had a shitty year and are celebrating harder than ever. By tomorrow hopefully your son will be back to sleeping normally again.

All fireworks stopped in my area 30 mins ago, no rocket bombs & we also don't experience them every day for months.

I feel sorry for your son OP & get your frustration but still think it's acceptable on NYE.

[quote SendHelp30]@LdnMum94 how is your son doing? Sensory lights on here too; he seems to be slowly calming. Still under the bed but the screaming is sporadic now. Hope you’re ok.[/quote]
@SendHelp30 DS is calming a little now too. Thank you for asking.

I'm so sorry your son has had a shit night of it too

I think there is alot of ignorance on this thread where autism is concerned.

You simply cannot prepare such a young child enough for something like this, if fireworks are a trigger then they will be a trigger regardless of what we do.

Happy New year, I hope you and your boy have a more peaceful night tomorrow.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I have PTSD and I can empathise. My noisy neighbours in England drove me to the brink many times. Since moving away I've realised just what a cultish obsession Britain has with them. I lived in China for two years where they set of 6am fireworks for all sorts of random reasons but the fireworks are so quiet you don't even wake up. And now I'm in NI where nobody mysteriously wants to celebrate by making noises that sound like the Good Friday Agreement just got broken.
Britain is utterly bizarre in the way people are expected to just put up with this shite in residential areas or be accused of being a party pooper. There are other ways to express yourself.

@WorraLiberty thank you so much for your advice. I’ll be sure to take that on board. Honestly, don’t know what I’ve of done without those pearls of wisdom!

@lulad

It's NYE, you have to expect some fireworks particularly when everyone has to stay home.

You wouldn't be saying that if you lived where I live. It is like a war zone out there. Midnight was horrendous.

SendHelp and others who get it, thank you.

@LdnMum94 thank you. Same to you. Happy new year.

Of course you're not bu to be pissed off at the commotion upsetting your child, it's not like you're asking people to sign a petition to ban then, you're just venting and asking for comfort. It's nearly silence here so hopefully it is there too.

And I'd love to know where people line where it's one a year. Eid. Diwali. Bonfire night. New Year. That's the BIG FOUR. Then because people can buy them at these times, there's days either side esp when the BIG FOUR aren't on a weekend.

@HaudYerWheeshtBawbag you’re aware not all SN children will tolerate earbuds, yes?

Are you selective in reading? I clearly stated the earbuds were worn by my DN

I wouldn’t have minded them at midnight- but they are only just starting here! Based on what we had a week after bonfire night i imagine they will be every 5 minutes for the next hour or so. Just got the kids settled and the dogs are now going nuts. I wouldn’t have minded at midnight for an hour but starting now I think is too late to just be starting.

@HaudYerWheeshtBawbag yes. Your DN who you said has additional needs. You then blamed the OP for not preparing. How would you suggest those of us whose children with additional needs “prepare” if they won’t tolerate ear buds??

Sorry you’re a little bit ‘fun police’ it’s NYE and it’s been a shit year, fireworks are to be expected tonight (although I don’t personally like them barring organised events) but moaning that you can hear people shouting ‘happy new year’ is a bit much.