To really hate the loud, selfish celebrations & fireworks people have outside on NYE?

[LdnMum94]

I'm laid in bed exhausted and pissed off.

My autistic three year old has been woken three times in the run up to midnight, by endless fireworks exploding outside our house, so loud and close that they terrified him out of a deep sleep. By the third time he was woken he was so distressed he was smashing his head on the floor

In between the hundreds of bangs coming from all angles there are drunk people screaming "happy new year!" and "woohoooooo!" that can be heard in here as clear as day, as though they think it's welcome, or simply don't care.

Not everybody is seeing in the new year by getting drunk, and not all of those who are having a drink feel the need to take their fanfare into the street, giving not one shit about elderly/vulnerable neighbours or people who have to be up for work.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable?

Yanbu.
Fireworks are litter. Those cunts won't be the ones picking it up.

I should go out and noisily litter pick their mess at 8am with my phone speaker blaring .

I'm with you, OP. Pretty fireworks, ok. Flash bangs and rocket bombs for 50 bloody minutes, no.

On my stretch of street we have an NHS nurse (my friend), carers, shift workers, children, old folk, animals.

None of them were letting off bloody massively loud fireworks, funnily enough. Not even out in the street this year. But we had to put up with loud explosions from 11.30pm onwards. Midnight was horrific.

I’m with you OP.
My young son also has autism and is laid under his bed screaming and biting his arms and digging his nails into his cheeks because he got woken up by the loud fuckers screaming and setting fireworks off and it’ll take hours for him to settle now. He is terrified of loud noises.

And yes, I do begrudge my neighbours having parties. If that makes me miserable so bloody be it! It’s an absolute piss take. There’s at least 40 people in my next door but ones garden and they will all be the ones complaining the loudest when they have to look after their own kids because the schools have closed again.

Happy fucking new year.

I don't mind on Bonfire Night and NYE.
I'm sorry your son was woken, though. I don't think YABU to be annoyed at that.

It's NYE, you have to expect some fireworks particularly when everyone has to stay home.

I do understand people wanting to celebrate after a truly shit year and I don't think anybody is unreasonable for wanting to celebrate, the noise is just unbearable for some.

Of course I'm also aware that the world doesn't revolve around my "kid" or my decision to "reproduce" but Jesus, have some empathy for a scared little boy who has been terrified to the point of self harming behaviour.

PP has also raised a good point about those who have been in the army and have PTSD.

Autistic children / people with PTSD / nervous animals don't take priority over folks wanting to celebrate, but those of us who do have to deal with the fallout of the panic response are just as entitled to be pissed off, as the party go-ers are entitled to celebrate.

I can hear bottles smashing now, lovely.

for others who have children who have struggled to cope with the noise.

Happy New Year to all.

@lulad

It's NYE, you have to expect some fireworks particularly when everyone has to stay home.

Yeah, but rocket bombs x100?

@DipanKrispanEven

Struggling with the headache, nausea and brain fog of coronavirus, I must say I have difficulty in feeling goodwill to people celebrating noisily. Consideration needs to be given to a ban on noisy fireworks after, say, 11 pm at the latest.

I'm sorry to hear that, it's a bastarding illness. I hope you feel better soon x

@SendHelp30

I’m with you OP. My young son also has autism and is laid under his bed screaming and biting his arms and digging his nails into his cheeks because he got woken up by the loud fuckers screaming and setting fireworks off and it’ll take hours for him to settle now. He is terrified of loud noises.

And yes, I do begrudge my neighbours having parties. If that makes me miserable so bloody be it! It’s an absolute piss take. There’s at least 40 people in my next door but ones garden and they will all be the ones complaining the loudest when they have to look after their own kids because the schools have closed again.

Happy fucking new year.

And yet you and the OP who also says her DS is (was?) self harming are chatting to strangers on the internet.

Why???

Surely to God that's the last thing any parent in that situation would think of doing, even if the other parent is dealing with it??

Of course it’s not unreasonable. Especially in your situation with your son OP. Hopefully it won’t all be going on too much longer.

People who make a racket are annoying to others. It’s not about begrudging people having fun - if loud noise annoys you, there’s not much you can do to change how you feel about it. It’s a normal thing people get pissed off over.

Yeah, but rocket bombs x100?

Well if people are setting off bombs I'd get off MNs & seek shelter.

Of course I'm also aware that the world doesn't revolve around my "kid" or my decision to "reproduce" but Jesus, have some empathy for a scared little boy who has been terrified to the point of self harming behaviour.

But he settled as soon as you put his ear defenders on again, no? Meaning he was able to sleep through the absolute peak noise at midnight.

Hate the fucking damn things

We have had them going off here since 5pm. I am seriously starting to think my dog may have a heart attack soon. Nearly 8 hours of it. It's not necessary. We are never going to enjoy NYE whilst we have this dog. So, no you are not BU.

OP you stated you were pissed off about what people were doing and asked if you were being unreasonable. I voted YABU and gave reasons.What do you realisticaly expect of others - to behave as it suits you?

It’s inevitable that people will want to celebrate but I can understand your frustration if your child becomes upset.
When mine were young I bought a white noise machine which would block out noises, useful so we didn’t need to tiptoe around the house when they were in bed.
Alexa can play white noise or a fan turned away from them could help on nights it’s likely to be noisy.

My neighbours would normally at least stand on their doorsteps and call out a greeting. Not this year - the level of noise from the type of 'bomb' fireworks going off, the volume and the intensity, and the piercing flashing lights, meant that we all stayed inside.

Where do these fireworks get sold? Never known anything like it.

I'm with you OP. I was just ranting to DH about this. I don't think fireworks should be allowed in private gardens in residential areas (beyond sparklers), I think they should be limited to licensed events and to certain days of the year. I love a good display as much as the next person but when they're in the neighbours' garden they're SO loud and disruptive. A nightmare for people with young children/sleep issues and for pets as well.

I don't care if that makes me a misery. There are (usually) plenty of other ways to celebrate.

Oh come on. One bloody day.

@WorraLiberty please don’t try to understand when you clearly have absolutely no idea. Some children cope with restraint when they’re having a meltdown. Others settle better alone and will be violent to anyone who goes near them. Some parents seek support from friends via message or even online from others experiencing the same while they sit and sob. It’s not that difficult to comprehend

@lulad

Yeah, but rocket bombs x100?

Well if people are setting off bombs I'd get off MNs & seek shelter.

Rocket bombs are a type of 'firework'.

I absolutely hate fireworks! - BAN THEM NOW!!!! You can celebrate without these exploding bombs! -

Some idiot near us is intermittently letting off really loud fireworks still at 10 to 1. Because the bangs are on their own and coming at irregular intervals, they're much more disturbing than the burst of fireworks we had around midnight. I do feel that is really taking the piss.

And yet you and the OP who also says her DS is (was?) self harming are chatting to strangers on the internet. Why??? Surely to God that's the last thing any parent in that situation would think of doing, even if the other parent is dealing with it??

Do you have any experience in autistic meltdowns?

If you, or anybody, were to try and "deal with" it in the traditional way that you would a NT child then the likelihood is all you're going to do is make things 10x worse.

DS does not want to be touched when he's in meltdown. You simply cannot "deal with it" in a hands on way.

He has his sensory lights on, his foam helmet to stop him hurting his head, and I'm sitting metres away from him.

Such a patronising thing to say.

@Tootletum

Oh come on. One bloody day.

It's not though, is it. It's Bonfire night (plus 7 days before and 7 days after), Diwali, NYE, weddings, birthdays and all sorts. Plus at NYE it's at midnight when loads of people are asleep.