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Original poster

To really hate the loud, selfish celebrations & fireworks people have outside on NYE?

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:12

I'm laid in bed exhausted and pissed off.

My autistic three year old has been woken three times in the run up to midnight, by endless fireworks exploding outside our house, so loud and close that they terrified him out of a deep sleep. By the third time he was woken he was so distressed he was smashing his head on the floor Sad

In between the hundreds of bangs coming from all angles there are drunk people screaming "happy new year!" and "woohoooooo!" that can be heard in here as clear as day, as though they think it's welcome, or simply don't care.

Not everybody is seeing in the new year by getting drunk, and not all of those who are having a drink feel the need to take their fanfare into the street, giving not one shit about elderly/vulnerable neighbours or people who have to be up for work.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable?

OP posts:
Spermysextowel · 01/01/2021 00:27

It was really noisy here, but for once I don’t mind. I’m hoping it symbolises people having hope for 2021. Though of course it could mean that they’re all having a party.

WorraLiberty · 01/01/2021 00:27

While fireworks are on sale to the public, people will always buy them.

How did your DS cope with Bonfire night, Diwali, Eid and Chinese New year, OP?

Shinyletsbebadguys · 01/01/2021 00:27

Look I empathise with the worry when you see your child distressed . Ds1 is ASD and has and still is shaking under his covers with blankets wrapped around his head and ear defenders on . He is 8 and 5 years ago would have been melting down and hurting himself. It's frustrating.

Hell I even have ds2 hiding as well tonight it's been so loud and frankly my ddog will need therapy.

But it's been a hell of a year and honestly at midnight even I thought "Thank god we made it" because I thought of all the people who didnt. People have been terrified this year and rightly or wrongly they are letting off steam in relief . It's not great for the families of those who didn't, nor for those affected by the noise etc but people have reason to mark this year. It's understandable and yes it probably will be tommorrow as well.

This is one of those many blody things where people have the right to do even if it does cause you havoc (I really do empathise , I can hear the anxiety in your post and I'm facing hours before ds1 sleeps) it's not the other peoples fault,it just is. Let them celebrate.

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hulahooper2 · 01/01/2021 00:28

It’s only one night a year and folk don’t have much else to celebrate , we have an autistic child in our family and ,not meaning to be harsh, but everything can’t revolve around them , I hope you get them settled soon , happy new year

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:28

@BebeStevens

OP they don't understand, hugs for you. Maybe make some plans to manage it next year?
Thank you Bebe, I certainly will.

I did put him to bed wearing his ear defenders but they came off as he moves around alot.

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CakeRequired · 01/01/2021 00:28

It's new years eve, and it's been an extremely shit year. Of course they are celebrating the end of it.

It sucks that your son is distressed, but there's nothing you can do, they are allowed the fireworks and it was obvious it would happen. Can you try putting headphones on him and play some music or a TV show he likes to distract him? Not sure if he will wear them, but some kids will.

2020nymph · 01/01/2021 00:28

With you on the fireworks.. I generally don't like fireworks being sold to the public as I've seen too many drunken idiots let them off but tonight we've heard ones that made such massive bangs (I'm guessing private display ones) I thought bomb, or the military (base nearby). I can only imagine how terrifying that must be for people with PTSD.

I'm ok with the raucous behaviour.

Happy new year everyone!

lockedownloretta · 01/01/2021 00:29

Yabu

MawkishHawk · 01/01/2021 00:29

I think you are being unreasonable, but understandably so given your son. However it’s New Years at midnight, at the turn of a spectacularly shit year, of course there’s going to be fireworks in people’s gardens.

We prescribe sedatives/anxiety meds for dogs that are scared of fireworks - it seems odd to me that we wouldn’t do the same for humans that are not capable of understanding what they are and are scared!

WorraLiberty · 01/01/2021 00:29

My post asked whether people thought i was being unreasonable to be pissed off, I didn't imply or insinuate that they were unreasonable to be setting off fireworks and screeching in the street?

That's literally exactly what you did Confused

Wellthisismorethanabitgrim · 01/01/2021 00:30

It's been ridiculous here, we live on a housing estate and someone decided to put on a display right in the centre of it, its so unbelievably loud and we are a couple of streets away. Once that had finished a group of kids no older than 10 or so decided to parade up and down our street banging cups together and blowing a fucking trumpet.

I get people want to 'celebrate' but tonight has been way worse than previous years.

DimidDavilby · 01/01/2021 00:30

Yanbu. Our student neighbours were competing to shout hny the loudest and longest, outside the room they know my children are asleep in.

Safe to say they are not fucking doing that any more.

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LdnMum94 · 01/01/2021 00:31

@WorraLiberty

While fireworks are on sale to the public, people will always buy them.

How did your DS cope with Bonfire night, Diwali, Eid and Chinese New year, OP?

Fortunately for DS our immediate neighbours didn't have any fireworks at those times.
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MichelleScarn · 01/01/2021 00:32

This has been a fucker of a year, I generally hate fireworks but am not going to begrudge people the approx half hour to get rid of the shittiest year in my memory

WorraLiberty · 01/01/2021 00:32

Once that had finished a group of kids no older than 10 or so decided to parade up and down our street banging cups together and blowing a fucking trumpet.

A dying tradition.

People still do that in our street and have done since the estate was built almost 100 years ago.

OkPedro · 01/01/2021 00:33

I sympathise op but honestly if you live amongst people you can’t expect silence (not saying you are)
There are times I wished I lived in the middle of nowhere. I get irritated by my neighbours on a regular basis but I just have to suck it up

mrsbyers · 01/01/2021 00:33

If only they had invented something that you can put in your ears to muffle the sound - like plugs

Girlyracer · 01/01/2021 00:34

Your child is distressed and harming himself because he has special needs, not because fireworks were let off. Plenty of children are unaffected by them. It's one night.

CarolEffingBaskin · 01/01/2021 00:34

Fireworks shouldn’t be sold to the general public IMO, so YANBU. Absolutely mental that colourful explosives are just in supermarkets for anyone to buy!

Jocasta2018 · 01/01/2021 00:34

They've been going on since 5pm & the cat is not impressed....

WorraLiberty · 01/01/2021 00:35

Fortunately for DS our immediate neighbours didn't have any fireworks at those times.

If you ever move to a more diverse area, they certainly will.

Personally, I think fireworks should be sold for display purposes only but you'll never stop people being loud when celebrating NYE or other celebrations.

c75kp0r · 01/01/2021 00:36

don't the cups break if you smash them together?

DipanKrispanEven · 01/01/2021 00:37

Struggling with the headache, nausea and brain fog of coronavirus, I must say I have difficulty in feeling goodwill to people celebrating noisily. Consideration needs to be given to a ban on noisy fireworks after, say, 11 pm at the latest.

WorraLiberty · 01/01/2021 00:37

@c75kp0r

don't the cups break if you smash them together?
I must admit I've never heard of the cup banging Xmas Grin

It's all pots and pans here in the Eastend