If a man says to you..

[Runforyourlifeitsagherkin]

When you text back and forth with a friend from work and explain you are Upset and had a bad day and his response is:

“In another life, I would be down to give you a hug and make you feel better”

You are female, single. And he is married.

What does this mean to you? In what circumstance would you expect that response?

For the sake of voting
YABU= nothing in it
YANBU= he’s after something

Does he mean a non-covid life? If so I'd think he was really sweet.

If I was his wife I wouldn’t like that message from him; I think it’s odd

Sounds flirtatious to me - like he's nudging the door open /trying to scope out your feelings.

what did he say when you asked him?

It means what it says. If he was not married he would be with you.

So not appropriate.

He wants to fuck you.

I honestly can’t imagine something like that not being a come on.

“Does he mean a non-covid life? If so I'd think he was really sweet.”

I don’t think so, I’m thinking “if I wasnt married”
Also, sweet if he’s married?!

I didn’t vote as I don’t think it’s quite either of the options

He’s not ‘after something’ but is (possibly quite unawares) pushing you against boundaries, or is trying to be sympathetic but has chosen a really cack handed way of doing it

Recommend you don’t share emotions with him in future.

Basically, if he wasn't with his wife...

He's being a slimeball

BTW, I would not read love in this. Just opportunity.

No, no its not sweet

Agree with @WishingOnACarrot, it's a scoping out kind of flirt, so that if you reacted wrong he could just claim "oh no I didn't mean that, I meant if I lived closer/if I was a woman/if covid wasn't a thing" blah blah blah.

“He wants to fuck you”

Why would he say that though? What response was he expecting?

You can't tell people how to vote.

Yeah he's seeing if the door is open... "in another life" means, if he wasn't married. Tread carefully, I'd put some delay/distance on your messages for a while tbh

He was probably expecting you to say something like, 'Aww I wish you could give me a hug/make me feel better in this life' 🤢

“You can't tell people how to vote”

I didn’t think YABU/YANBU vote would make any sense without a “reason” for choosing them in this instance.

farandfew exactly! To the pp not sweet at all.

He is sounding you out as a potential shag. Sleazy bastard.

I vote creepy slime bag

He's hoping you will flirt back. Sleazy as fuck.

He's testing the waters, to see if you're up for something. if my husband sent that to another woman I'd be very pissed off.

I see no problem with it. Hugging is not sex. You can hug friends of opposite sex even if married. Second, can’t hug anyway because of Covid. So it’s not a sinister message.

Notapheasantplucker agree completely with the response he wants to get.

Have you responded OP?