To be annoyed DH hugged his dad.

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We've spent months being careful, we have a 5 month old baby and I'm vulnerable having mild asthma.

Last week DH Gran passed away suddenly.

Today DH called to see his Dad and told me they hugged as they were both really upset.

Now I completely sympathise with this, really I do, but bare in mind DH grandma spent 3 days in hospital before passing.

DH dad was there every day and the hospital announced yesterday there had been an outbreak on one of their wards affecting 4 staff and 3 patients(although it didn't state which ward so we don't know if was the one DH grandma was on)

I suffer with anxiety already and I'm petrified DD could end up ill or be left without parents.

I really do feel so annoyed with him. AIBU?!

YABU.

Completely unreasonable

You are that is - not him.

YABU. Medication for anxiety transformed my life.

Yes, YABVU. Get over it.

Is this for real?!

YABVU

YABU

My mother in law died recently. I hugged her daughters because they were upset.

I can’t imagine not hugging a parent who has been bereaved.

Anyone would have given someone they love a hug under those circumstances.

Please don't let him know you're annoyed.

Yabu

Your fil has lost his mum and your dh has lost his gran! If your mum was crying over the death of her mum would you not hug her?

You are beinh very unreasonable. Seek help for the anxiety.

YAB utterly unreasonable.

Yabvu reverse?!

I have asthma too, unfortunately some people seem to wear their health condition as a badge of honour!

I’ve hugged both my parents and MiL.

YABU , have you seen a GP about your anxiety?

Very unreasonable.

Sorry OP YABU. This is a completely different set of circumstances and you should let it go and give your husband a hug. Sounds like he needs it.

Of course I haven't told him how I feel.
That's why I'm posting here!!

Definitely unreasonable.

So so unreasonable on your part. Don't tell you're annoyed.

If you had posted this back in April or May everybody would have agreed with you and called your DH a murderer.

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You are being ridiculous. Honestly, that’s really really unreasonable. And unkind. This is one of those situations where he hasn’t put you at risk and actually, right now, it’s not about you.

@FluffyKittensinabasket

If you had posted this back in April or May everybody would have agreed with you and called your DH a murderer.

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Nope, I'd have said YABU then and I'm still saying now.

@PotteringAlong

You are being ridiculous. Honestly, that’s really really unreasonable. And unkind. This is one of those situations where he hasn’t put you at risk and actually, right now, it’s not about you.

Sorry but you don't know that he hasn't put me or DD at risk.