Neighbour upset my wife

[DaddyofMonsters]

We’ve just moved into a new town and are renting a house while we find the right property to buy. We’ve been in three days and the next door neighbour came round while I was out walking the dog and harassed my wife into moving her car so he could park outside his house. It’s on street parking, no allocated spaces. He was aggressive and made my wife leave my 3 year old daughter sat on the wall outside while she moved the car. As I arrived back I just saw her parking up and going back in. I got the full story with tears inside and I was of course furious and ready to storm round and give him a few choice words. However, we’re only going to be here for 6 months while we buy and my wife begged me not to go confront him so AIBU to want to go explain exactly why he should not come and be rude to my wife while she’s alone with the kids?

YANBU. If I was your wife I would have told him where he could stick that idea.

The neighbour is clearly a dick so I think little is to be gained of having a word with him as it’s very likely he will continue to be a dick, or ramp it up even more. It’s only temporary so leave it.

Is she not able to stand up for herself? I think I’d be more concerned she felt unable to say no to him and close the door.

Neighbour is a massive bellend! Hope your wife is ok

How did he make her leave your daughter on a wall?

harassed my wife into moving her car so he could park outside his house.

Well she could have said no.

He was aggressive and made my wife leave my 3 year old daughter sat on the wall outside while she moved the car.

He made her do that?

Don't be ridiculous.

From the sounds of this man, I dont think saying anything would make a difference to his behaviour. Is there enough room that you can avoid parking in front of his house or will it be a nightmare to find parking elsewhere? Id try and ignore and avoid him and get out of there as quickly as possible tbh

Why did she just day no and close the door. Why did she have to leave child on wall, she could have popped them in the car.

By any chance had she took up two spaces with 1 car?

Neighbour is an arse but your wife either needs to blank/ignore him or tell him where to go.

Not being unreasonable at all - stamp out shitty neighbour behaviour from the get go before it becomes habit. 6 months is still plenty time. You don’t need to be aggressive or make things uncomfortable but I certainly wouldn’t be letting that go.

I also don’t understand how he “made her” leave the child on th wall.

Is something missing from this op about your wife?

I always say I cannot hear you, I am partially deaf, which is true.... when in such circumstances, and carry on and ignore.

There is no point in engaging sometimes. Move it once and you are finished. Bully wins, ugh.

Neighbour is out of order but your wife needs to grow a spine and tell him to fuck off. The reason neighbour thinks he can do this is because he has been allowed to bully.

We have one of them in our street but this one leaves notes on cars. Let's just say he doesn't anymore as he picked on the wrong neighbour.

Well that was back in the day when I could drive, cannot anymore due to illness. But you get the drift!

Why did she leave the child on the wall? She doesn't need you to go round and defend her honour, I'm sure unless he was physically threatening to her she could stand up for herself.

I'd worry that your wife will allow herself to be bullied into leaving a three year old on a wall.

Go round and he'll ramp it up. She doesn't have to open the door to him ever again.

Aggressive man comes and demands a woman moves her car, probably having noted that hey partner had left and she was alone with a child, and most posters are blaming the victim for not attending up for herself? Really. I'm assuming OPs wife didn't want an even bigger scene in front of her toddler and was concerned about what this unknown but aggressive person would do if she refused.

Some women are timid, and many women are a little afraid of men they don't know. I'm pretty ballsy and would have stood up for myself, but I know women who cannot cope with confrontation at all (and many of then have bloody good reason). Neighbour was bang out of order. If a woman had confronted another woman, I'd maybe feel different, but it sounds like a full on intimidation by the neighbour and I wouldn't be able to keep silent on the subject. How DARE he?

*standing up for herself

Next time if she doesn't want a fuss, 'my husband has the keys on him' leaves little room for negotiation and shuts the situation down

Aggressive man comes and demands a woman moves her car, probably having noted that hey partner had left and she was alone with a child, and most posters are blaming the victim for not attending up for herself?

Oh get a grip she isn't a victim. What absolute bollocks

Go round and get him told he was out of fucking order.

Well the neighbour sounds like twat. I would just ignore him & encourage your wife to either not answer the door to him or tell him no my car is parked legally and i won't be moving it. If she lets this shit carry on it'll just get worse.

Completely agree with @carexfairex , load of nonsense.

She's managed to stop you going round so nothing to stop her shutting the door.

There's not much would get me to leave my three year old on a wall. If anything. Put her in the car if she must move it.

Just silly.