To wonder how couples can never argue?

[Pikachupoops]

I have seen a few times on mumsnet, people saying that they have never argued with their other half. Maybe I'm being unreasonable but how is that even possible? How is that neither party gets upset about anything, etc? I have never know anyone that doesn't have a disagreement every now and then

It depends what you mean by argue? DH and I have never shouted at each other and raised voices. That doesn't mean we've never disagreed with each other or snapped at each other.

Dh and I argue, as in have a silly disagreement about once or twice a week and forget about it quickly, then maybe a bigger argument every 3-6 months when there's a stress point.

Been together 9 years this November. Have honestly never argued.

I just find it inconceivable that people claim to have never disagreed about even the silliest thing...

My husband and I bicker. We have never had an actual raised voices argument though.

@fitgirl26 but HOW is this possible?

We disagree, but we don't argue. He does something i don't like, i tell him, he apologises or explains, i accept or counter, we discuss, it's resolved. Same vice versa. He's never done anything that would actually make me angry, and neither have I. Annoyed maybe, or hurt, but then in those situations we talk about it, which always makes it better not worse.

It's down to apathy in our house. Nobody gives enough of a shit to argue. It's a shame.

I just find it inconceivable that people claim to have never disagreed about even the silliest thing...

I don't think I've ever seen anyone claim that. Most people think 'argue' means shouting at each other. You can have a disagreement without shouting.

We disagree from time to time but haven’t even argued. We don’t swear or raise our voices. We respect and love each other. I don’t swear or shout at anyone and certainly wouldn’t do it to the man I choose to share my life and home with. It’s perfectly possible to work through differences of opinion in a civilised respectful manner.

We disagree on stuff from time to time, or one of us gets a bit exasperated at the other, but we’ve never raised our voices to each other, called each other names, got visibly angry at the other person.

Because you just see things the same way..or choose not to sweat the small stuff..or bite your tongue ..or just never do anything significantly enough to annoy each other..loads of reasons really

If there are problems in your relationship you’ll find it more helpful to discuss the specifics and seek support than assume people in happy marriages are lying...

@Pikachupoops I think you need to define what you mean by arguing. It means very different things to different people

I must admit that I'm always a bit when someone says that they never argue with their other half. About 20 years ago,I had a friend who said that she and her husband 'never argued' and I heard him the say the same. So imagine my surprise when she ran off with a friend of her husband's.

Why would you stay in a relationship with someone you routinely argued with?

Arguing isn't compulsory you know. Some people just love drama and think everyone else does too. Plenty of us have peaceful, happy lives with our partners.

@Pikachupoops - I'm not entirely sure! We've both been divorced twice (me from the same man who I married twice). I also have a broken engagement. All my previous relationships have featured plenty of rows - I have a bit of a temper and once chased my ex husband's car up the road shouting "I fucking hate you" while trying to kick the wheels. My husband also had a volatile relationship with his ex wife.
We just seem to muddle along quite happily - he's very laid back and seems to calm down my drama queen tendencies.

How are you define arguing?

DH and I have been together four years and have probably had 2 arguments in that time, but we bicker and disagree fairly regularly. I don't count the latter as arguments, though.

It's true that I don't think you can live/be in a relationship with someone for years and never disagree, but a disagreement isn't necessarily an argument.

Hmm, does it not just mean that someone always just automatically gives in? Because that doesn't sound great to me...

We "get upset" of a sort, and disagree certainly, but we don't argue. There's no need. Similarly i don't argue a6 work when i disagree with colleagues, or with friends... i don't see how this is so common in relationships.

@grumpytoddler1 that's exactly it. If I felt I could never disagree/argue with DH, I would be building up an awful lot of resentment.

we disagree and discuss, but have never shouted at each other or called each other names.

We haven't got much to argue about to be honest.