To wonder how couples can never argue?

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I have seen a few times on mumsnet, people saying that they have never argued with their other half. Maybe I'm being unreasonable but how is that even possible? How is that neither party gets upset about anything, etc? I have never know anyone that doesn't have a disagreement every now and then

It depends, doesn't it? I never argued with my ex - not even a disagreement. But it was an unhealthy relationship and we were scared to disagree with one another. The ex after that, we argued loads - it was...fiery. But it was how we communicated and when the relationship came to a natural close I knew it was over because we stopped arguing - we stopped caring enough to disagree, or be passionate about things. My partner now we're a mix - we have never argued once about anything big. Every big decision or hurdle in life is faced together, we listen to each other's POV and communicate well (and there have been a lot of BIG, relationship stressing things happen over the years). But if it's the right or wrong way to put things in the fridge? Well sometimes it can result in an argument and an hour or two of silent glowering on both halves before we admit maybe we were being ridiculous and get over it. And I've never been happier or more sure of our relationship.

An argument is generally heated/angry, potentially involves raised voices or shouting, lost tempers etc.
Being upset doesn't cause an argument, neither does a disagreement. You can have a discussion without an actual argument.

@GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou PP said ALL of the couples she knows who don't argue, one of them is whipped. Then said her and dh don't argue Just thought it was quite funny.

But if it's the right or wrong way to put things in the fridge? eh? Who the heck has the time or energy to waste fighting about petty things like that? Unless the fridge was wide open overnight who gives a damn? Even then there wouldn't be an argument.

I have decided DH and I are both whipped, MyHair. :o

We bicker more than outright argue. It’s more like low level sniping but doesn’t really mean anything and we apologise/clear the air afterwards.

11 years and no arguments here. We work together too! I never believe it myself though...

You can disagree without arguing.

Hmm, does it not just mean that someone always just automatically gives in? Because that doesn't sound great to me

No, it means you don't disagree, so there is no need for anyone to give in.

I have honestly never argued with dp. We both come from broken marriages and have seen/ had our fair share of terrible relationships so its not like we are perfect but we communicate really well.
We leave nothing to fester, We'd rather mention something that was bothering us when it is tiny and no big deal than leave it.
Also we are very much on the same page with how to raise our children, house work, finances ect. We have been through a lot of highly stressful situations that can often rip couples apart but we understand when one of us is feeling vulnerable or sad and snaps that they don't mean it and what they need is extra love and support at that moment.
It comes naturally to us but we take nothing for granted in our relationship.
Hope that helps op

My DH and I don't argue , he is very laid back and I put it down to that. Things other couples may argue about just goes over his head. His mum and dad were married 35 years he says he never heard them argue once.

I’ve never had a proper argument with DH. Married 14 years. He’s also 19 years older than me which according to mumsnet, means he’s controlling me. Nope, we get on, like a couple should.

My husband and I don’t argue. We have been together a long time. We respect each other and whilst we don’t always agree, we don’t need to argue at all. Just because you can’t imagine a relationship like this, doesn’t mean it isn’t feasible.

We have disagreements which we discuss and resolve and then move on from.

To me, arguing is getting angry, shouting, knitted brows, gesticulating, stomping around. I have never done that with my partner. We have shared values and enough interpersonal skills to never need to resort to that.

On the subject of putting things in the fridge correctly etc. I have a life to lead and dont notice things like that. There have been a few occasions when I've asked him to change a domestic habit for my benefit - he changed the habit - we never talked about it again. Same if he has asked me to change something... Arguing doesnt come into it.

I only know of one couple where they don't ever seem to argue. She is lovely but quite an insipid character and her husband basically has decided everything - where they live, what car they drive, the stuff they have in the house. The only thing I can think if that she got her own way with was getting a dog.

He's not an arsehole so those decisions aren't bad ones that have negatively affected her but I genuinely don't know whether she is just happy for someone else to take control or whether she doesn't argue for an easy life.

We don't argue. DH refuses to argue back and I can't argue by myself.

We’ve been together 25 years. We do have the odd argument maybe twice A year.

My parents never argued, my dad just agreed with my domineering mother. He could have done so much more with his life if he’d just disagreed with her. Not arguing is not necessarily good.

You can disagree and have a discussion without arguing. Just like you would in the workplace etc.

I’d have not married DH if he thought arguing was acceptable within a relationship.

Having lived through many as a child, it still brings back memories now when I hear people raise their voice. Not something I want mine to go through.

I was in a long term relationship where we never argued and it eventually became stale with no sex life, we were engaged and broke up. I argue almost daily with my current bf and we are stronger.

We’ve been married 35 years. Yes we’ve argued- about 5 times in the 40 years we’ve been together. We’ve sniped and I’ve told him to”F off” behind the sofa, in the kitchen, behind his back, etc during this time. But really would I want to hurt someone I love and he me? So we just bite our tongues and move on. Works for us

If couples don't argue someone's giving in

DH and I disagree a lot, but we only argue a couple times a year....we generally come to a compromise....he’s not a fighter, v laid back which is probably the best thing!

We have honestly never had an argument, once in a blue moon one of us might be a bit snappy, but other than that we just don't irritate or upset each other for it to be an issue.

Also DH spends all day yelling and splitting up fights, so I'm sure he doesn't want me going off on one at him, and I was in a very abusive relationship before we got together. I asked him not to shout at me, but if I had upset him, that he let me know and we could talk rather than scream at each other.

Aurguing and shouting is just not something we do.

I wouldn’t say my partner and I argue but we do bicker on occasion.