Step daughter in almost naked pictures

[FirstTimeMum54321]

My DSD has just celebrated her 15th birthday. Like a lot of girls her age, she could easily pass for 18. She is very good with makeup and looks beautiful. She has a public instagram account that anyone could see, and poses very 'sexy' pictures which leave very little to the imagination. I know I'll get hammered for this, but she is making herself look really cheap. There are pictures of her breasts with hearts over the nipples. Naked bum shots with just a tiny thong I'm not exaggerating. I would kill to look like her but the pictures make me cringe. I'm not her mum and I've spoken to her dad about it but he's not interested in doing anything about it. I have a terrible relationship with her mum so can't speak to her about it. I don't know if her mum knows about it as I don't think she uses instagram. I've tried reporting this to instagram but they don't give a flying fig.

I'm worried that some old paedo is looking at her pictures or worse still she'll be groomed.
Should I just stay out of it?

Prob best to stay out if it when her parents are ok with it but you are right to be concerned. I think she will live to regret these photos.

I'd be tempted to "report" the photos to Instagram because she is underage... just always deny that it was you.

I have reported them loads of times but nothing happens.
Her parents being ok with it is not ok though is it?

You would ‘kill to look like her’?! That’s so weird, she’s a child, your step daughter! Stop being jealous and let your dp know that her shots are fairly revealing.

It's not weird at all!!! I'm just saying she looks really nice.

I'm not jealous of her and I've told my husband!!! can you not read?

Why is it reported?
Why are you being so horrible?

Ignoring some of the dubious wording in your OP, report to her school anonymously as a child safeguarding issue - particularly with a public profile. Anyone could be accessing and sharing.

Does she have any identifying information on there such as location, photographs in school uniform or places she regularly visits?

It's so wrong that her dad doesn't care. Great parenting on his part - not!

There are some pictures of her in her school uniform so anyone from the area would recognise the school.
The school is obviously closed at the moment!

What dubious wording? Honestly people??

You may have a bad relationship with her mum but it is really important information that you need to pass on. Put bad vibes to the side for now and pass this on so that she doesn't get groomed.

Yes her father is a Disney dad! That doesn't help me with what to do.

I agree with poster above.
Screenshot the images and the ones of her in uniform and email to the school with your concerns about safeguarding.

Make an anonymous email if you wish.
I reported something to my nieces school regarding Instagram and they took it extremely seriously.
It is wrong but if your husband doesn't have an issue with it and you can't go to the mum, then definitely go to the school with it.

I would be worried that my husband thinks this is acceptable, she is a child.

Tell you oh to stop been an arse and tell his daughter its not right.

Well you either talk to your step-daughter....or you do nothing.
THOSE are your choices.

You definitely need to report to school then - not only can they follow it up, you never know if a weirdo will find her with identifying information like, particularly if she has her location up.

And yes, get in touch with her mother with screen shots too.

I don't think he thinks it's acceptable he just doesn't want to deal with it. He doesn't like the pictures. Neither do I for the record but it looks like people are thinking I'm some sort of weirdo!!! I was only trying to say she's an attractive young girl - I'm not jealous of her she's only 15 for gods sake.

I will email the school but I don't think there's anybody there to open the emails.

Schools are still doing safeguarding work despite being physically closed to most students. Definitely report it to them.
Horrifying that her dad doesn't care. I hope you don't have and are not planning on having children with him.

What kind of father “just doesn’t want to deal with it “?

Does he think he only has to do the fun bits of parenting ?

Is he this lazy and useless about everything or just his child?

The admin staff have access at home. Even if nobody will see your email right away they will see it.

This is your only option now, dad is sweeping it under the rug, you can't go to mum but you are rightly concerned.

Schools are doing online learning: of course they are reading emails! You don't need to be in the physical building for that.

Get in touch with the school - their child protection/safeguarding/pastoral people should still be working, even if remotely - ours certainly are and if there were pics like that on public social media adjacent to ones that identified the school they'd be on it immediately.

It's potentially incredibly dangerous.

Report the photos to Insta if you feel they could be in breach of child porn regulations.

Hi to the OP. Ignore the horribles on here. I understand what you are saying.

Sorry, no advice really. If you can't get through to your partner, her mother or her, then it is really her mistake to own at some point. Fair play to you though for caring about her online presence and trying to help.

Can I just point out that her mum obviously doesn't care either? I know if it was my children I'd make a point of knowing about their Instagram accounts! Pathetic parenting from both if you ask me.