To really wish the woman in the pharmacy had not done this

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I had to make a trip to fetch medication for my DH who is undergoing treatment for cancer. I was feeling very stressed due to seeing him so very ill and managing his pain, not eating that I burst out crying whilst speaking to the women serving me. I think with self isolation and dealing with this I don’t often say the words aloud about his condition and it floored me.
She kindly showed me to a chair where I could sit - all good.

Then she sits down next to me and gives me a hug! Saying don’t worry I don’t have the virus, I just need to give you a hug.

I have avoided all unnecessary contact for so many weeks and although I appreciate the sentiment and know she was reaching out to me, I am annoyed that she breached the rules of contact knowing I have a very vulnerable person at home.

I know she was being kind but I think you need to make a complaint. It’s unacceptable to do that “don’t worry I don’t have the virus” is she joking?! I’m sorry about your husband and the worry you’re going through now.

Wow. She works were there are many sick people coming in for meds, you have a vulnerable person you are caring for and she gives you a hug??? Forget the virus (how does she know she doesn't have it?) you don't want tone possibly picking up anything! Out of order.

I think this is really difficult. On a practical level of course she shouldn’t have done that, particularly knowing your husband is poorly.

However, on a human level, I think it was probably a completely natural thing for her to do and she didn’t even think about it until afterwards when she said she didn’t have the virus.

I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all this though

No she shouldn't have done it, but her natural reaction overrode the new rules that we are living under.

I'm so sorry, that is extremely stressful. I agree that you should make a complaint.

Oh bless her! Don't complain about her, she's probably spent all day kicking herself! Yes, it wasn't the best idea but she was trying to comfort you. These are strange times and she was trying to be helpful.

I'm sorry you're going through this though op. Sounds really shit.

"I need to give you a hug" - literally putting her needs first.

her natural reaction overrode the new rules that we are living under.

I agree Ponoka7.

So sorry for your situation OP, these must be very stressful times for you.

Whilst she shouldn't have given you a hug, please don't make a complaint. For 20/30/40 years she has hugged friends and family to comfort them, for just FIVE WEEKS this hasn't been okay. Her instincts took over, it was an unfortunate mistake and no malice was intended. She could be disciplined or even lose her job. I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time though OP

I think she was wrong to do that but I don't think you should complain.

If you make a complaint she could lose her job, however, if you don’t complain she could do it again and lose her life.

Rather selfish and terribly ignorant of her.

I'm so sorry, that is extremely stressful. I agree that you should make a complaint.

Kin el some people would have made fantastic nazis. No it wasn't the "right" thing to do but there's no need to report someone for trying to be kind.

Please dont put a complaint in. She was trying to comfort you. She heart ruled her head for a moment. Yes she shouldn't have done it. But to complain and get her into trouble ?

She was in just as much in danger of catching something as the OP was, so can't see it as 'selfish'.

You don't need to make a complaint, raise it as a concern and ask for refresher training for her around COVID-19 and customer care.

She probably regrets it. Spur or the moment I imagine because she clearly has a lot of empathy. I would speak to her directly rather than snitching, haha a bit harsh when she was just overcome with emotion for you

She probably regrets it. Spur or the moment I imagine because she clearly has a lot of empathy. I would speak to her directly rather than snitching, THATS a bit harsh when she was just overcome with emotion for you

Don't complain. The chances are she is perfectly healthy but there is a good chance she will face a disciplinary for they.

We are all under more stress at the moment and I'm sure things are even more so for you OP,

BUT,
others might have complained if you were sat there bawling your eyes out, and the women just stood afar saying- there, there! Seeing someone in distress and giving them a hug is a natural reaction ingrained in many people!

You won't get any considered views on here about Covid-19. She's literally a murderer and you're within your rights to shoot her. At the very least get her sacked so all her kids starve.

She shouldn't have done it, and it would worry me a bit if it happened to me.

However, I really couldn't find it in me to complain about someone who was trying to be kind. I know it must make you feel conflicted though.

Some pharmacies deliver meds too (I had Boots deliver last week), would that be an option rather than going into a shop for the meds?

She should not have done it but I would not complain

Do not complain ffs.

It was instinct for her. Don't put her job at risk.