Who should pay?!

[Boatymcboatofftheboat]

The specifics of this are incredibly outing so changing a few of the details (hopefully it still makes sense! Please bear with me):

My friend has a boat she can no longer afford. I am interested in her boat, but not 100% sure I need one at this time. We had an agreement before lockdown that I would have 100% ownership of the boat for a trial period of 2 months (all of April and May). I would pay costs totalling 350£ a month for this period. In exchange I would have 100% use of the boat and my friend would not use it at all. Because of lockdown I am not able to use the boat, but I agreed to pay before this and a deal is a deal/I value my friendship so have paid for April and planned to pay for May. However my friend has mentioned several times that she has been using the boat during April.

DH thinks I would be crazy to pay for May as agreed since I have not used it and actually friend is using it which breaks our agreement/essentially means I am paying for her to use her own boat.

I am in two minds as I value her a friend and don’t want to be petty, and lockdown is not her fault obviously - but equally I’ve paid one month and I am rankled she has been using it.

YABU - pay for May as agreed
YANBU - you paid for one month already and that’s enough/don’t be a mug

do not pay may

its a horse, you are paying its livery and she gets a livery holidy?!

god no!!

@Boatymcboatofftheboat

The way some DHs feel about their cycling on here, I wouldn't be surprised :P

Not that it helps but I thought it was a caravan. Panda sounds much more fun and cuddly (although maybe dangerous too unless its a robot/cuddly toy)

I’d like a caravan...

Maybe a houseboat- that has costs and you can pull it with a spavined old nag

@Boatymcboatofftheboat: has your friend come back since she agreed? Has she been trying to guilt trip you into taking pandahorse more/split the costs?

@Jokie

She has gone pretty silent on me. I feel like this is not the last I hear about it/she is quite pissed off or upset. Let’s see.

@LannieDuck

Point taken!

@PerkyPomPoms

😆😆 house boats give me the willies

If it had been a bicycle there would have been lots of talk about having an 'outing hobby'..

@Windyatthebeach

😆

In the beginning I was thinking you should pay. But given all the information you presented, I would definitely not pay. Especially since she has done all the riding plus she does not want to sell the horse. Even the suggestion that she might not want to sell it should invalidate the agreement, from my point of view.

That cheeky mare can keep her cheeky mare, and pay for her damned cheeky mare.

I’m amazed she’s unhappy with you op (can’t tag you?) surely she must see how cheeky she is?! This would actually change my feeling about her as a friend at all. And a horse you can’t insure? Do not go there

It's not that horsey people are brilliantly deductive, we just see horses everywhere and think everything pertains to them. We just got lucky this time...