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Original poster

Prison officer neighbour having different people visit her house

215 replies

allinboxes · 20/04/2020 15:36

Hello, Advice please, but she is doing my head in.

I have already reported this neighbour to the police last Monday as she has had her family round, her boyfriend who doesn't live with her and now for the last week her friend is round her house everyday using the her gym in the garage. shes not hiding anything either its in full view of other people walking past and other neighbours.

Do I report her again to the police?

OP posts:
aupresdemonarbre · 20/04/2020 15:37

What would you achieve by reporting her?

myusernamewastakenbyme · 20/04/2020 15:37

Mind your own business !!!

ilovedjerrymore · 20/04/2020 15:38

Hmm is this what we have become...

Original poster
allinboxes · 20/04/2020 15:39

Shes a key worker ffs

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Newjobnewstart · 20/04/2020 15:39

🙄 its none of your business

Buster72 · 20/04/2020 15:40

Police have no power to enter private dwellings or tell people not to have visitors.

Don't know what her employment has to do with it.

ilovedjerrymore · 20/04/2020 15:41

Are you just sitting at your window constantly???

Honestly a naked marching band could walk down my street and I wouldn’t know...because I don’t have myself perched by the window or run to it every time there is a slight noise of a person or a car door! Grin

FudgeBrownie2019 · 20/04/2020 15:41

YABU.

I hate that we're suddenly watching one another in this way. OP, take up crochet or cross stitch, please, for the sake of your own sanity.

picklemewalnuts · 20/04/2020 15:43

For all you know, the friend using the gym and the boyfriend work in close contact with her anyway. Or they could sanitise the gym equipment between visits. They could have had CV already, and so feel able to move more freely than the rest of us.

Lockdown will work if the majority of people observe it.
Sooner or later most of us need to get it.

Original poster
allinboxes · 20/04/2020 15:43

shes going to work and having people come to her house when she isn't at work that do not live with her. The prison she works at has a high infection rate.

Are you all doing the same?!

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TheQueef · 20/04/2020 15:44

It's shit but you've reported her.
Do something else to take your mind off.

picklemewalnuts · 20/04/2020 15:44

I'm staying in. Totally. One of my children goes out to work. The rest of us stay home. I still don't get to tell everyone else what to do.

TheGreatWave · 20/04/2020 15:45

Presumably the police have dealt with it, nothing more can be done.

blueandsad · 20/04/2020 15:45

Ha , Ha ( William Golding could write a dystopian novel about ) ......only on Mumsnet .... what is it about this ?

Original poster
allinboxes · 20/04/2020 15:45

Yes i am sat at my large window in chair for reasons I don't have to share with any of you.

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Tomoveornotomove2 · 20/04/2020 15:48

Report her, she’s part of the problem.

TheQueef · 20/04/2020 15:48

Well you invited us to discuss it by starting a thread, if you don't want anyone to comment you should have kept it to yourself maybe.

Greenkit · 20/04/2020 15:48

Jesus, leave her alone

How do you know it's not a friend from work, who is using the gym.

What do you think the police will do?
We have become a nation of nosey busy bodies.

🙄🙄

NeighbourPooNameChange · 20/04/2020 15:48

Yes think you are being unreasonable OP. Also you’re awfully cagey for someone who’s so up in your neighbour’s business

Dieu · 20/04/2020 15:49

My dad is a prison officer, and he's really bad at keeping self-isolated Blush Loneliness is a killer for him. He's a bit of a tortured soul who genuinely finds it hard to be on his own. He is missing the grandkids like crazy, and likes to feel needed.
He's an older man, and I doubt he'll change his ways. He's not being stupid about things, and he's not inviting people up to his flat. He will go and visit his sister and her husband, and spend some time with them. To be fair, auntie M has just had a hip operation, and he likes to feel useful by taking her up some shopping. Her husband is disabled.
So things aren't always black and white. It's a really tough and undervalued job, and I wouldn't report her but am biased obviously.

vodkaredbullgirl · 20/04/2020 15:49

You have already reported her once. Did you see the police come when you reported last time? As you know everything she does.

recrudescence · 20/04/2020 15:49

I don’t think you’re wrong to be annoyed or to have reported them but you’ve done what you can. Fretting about something like this isn’t good for your mental health.

NeighbourPooNameChange · 20/04/2020 15:51

People who report stuff like that are also part of the problem. The police have said so. Stop wasting their time. Why don’t you make a notice or grass her up on Facebook if you’re so inclined?

WarmSausageTea · 20/04/2020 15:51

Well you invited us to discuss it by starting a thread, if you don't want anyone to comment you should have kept it to yourself maybe.

Quite.

Clearly you are itching to report her again, and seem to want validation from a bunch of internet randoms. But if you’re going to do it, crack on and own your actions.

Original poster
allinboxes · 20/04/2020 15:53

Its not shit I have reported her shes taking the piss and everyone visiting her is, when the majority of people are staying at home. Every person she comes into contact at work, then whoever is visiting her, it just goes on.

I don't have to justify why I can see what I am telling you about.

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