Prison officer neighbour having different people visit her house

[allinboxes]

Hello, Advice please, but she is doing my head in.

I have already reported this neighbour to the police last Monday as she has had her family round, her boyfriend who doesn't live with her and now for the last week her friend is round her house everyday using the her gym in the garage. shes not hiding anything either its in full view of other people walking past and other neighbours.

Do I report her again to the police?

@Nelliana
I hate to say this but you sound a little paranoid. Comparing people conspiring to send innocents to their deaths is hardly the same as the OP, who has genuine fears for public safety and sees somebody flouting guidelines. You sure enjoy using the word snitch though

Thank you for the replies and everyone's support.

At the end of the day, I just want life to return to how it was as soon as possible, I am enraged by her actions yes and she should know better. She has really pissed me off, if you can't tell. Her actions affect everyone.

I am still in two minds to report her ass again, because if she has been spoken too she chose to ignore it. Her needs to see her family and friends and boyfriend are no greater than anyone elses right now, I would love to have my family come to visit me and get out of this bloody house.

Really I shouldn't have had to tell anyone about my personal circumstances, I have had to build up a thick skin but really think about how you respond to anyone on here, we are all having a shitty time right now.

All you hear is Nhs this Nhs that, what about carers, nurses, people in the community. You dont get to hear how many deaths there are in care homes or other places

I'm sorry you feel that, where I am in Scotland the reporting does cover care homes and Nicola Sturgeon has been very clear the official figures won't necessarily include deaths in care homes until the numbers can be verified.

Those who are calling people snitches and sticky beaks would you not report someone running a drug den next door, or starving their kids next door or punching their wife?
After all it’s none of your business is it and they may have their reasons?
And before you say it’s different as people are getting harmed it’s pretty harmful to be potentially spreading a deadly disease around....

The people using her gym equipment might be the same people she has been at work with all day, unable to practice social distancing and without any PPE provided whatsoever. If that's the case it makes no difference at all that these people are visiting. It's like being at work without getting punched, spat at, being potted, having to clear up after someones slashed their own throat....all without PPE. Mixing solely with the same group of people outside work will be no different to mixing with them in work

Comparing people conspiring to send innocents to their deaths

Another nice try but I didn't say that did I. As very few of those people would have known that is what they were actually doing at the time. I actually said the psychology behind the snitching behaviour was similar. You sure you're a teacher😂 ? Suggest you read more carefully in future rather than twisting what people say. Oh and go and research it as well. It really is very interesting 😉.

Yabu

She shouldn't be doing it and she knows it. It seems more and more people have decided the rules don't apply to them.

Don't ring her work though, she's got it shit enough as it is

@allinboxes I don’t think yabu or a snitch or any of the other lame names people are calling you.
It’s particularly egregious of her because the prisoners have no choice or agency on whether they self isolate. They can’t choose whether to self isolate or get their food delivered or if or when to take their exercise.
I’d call the prison tbh. At the very least the governors will be being very strict and vocal in emphasising the importance of social distancing and even without naming your neighbour they’ll ‘remind’ the staff that their behaviour affects others and is being noticed.

@Smileyaxolotl1 No I wouldn't.

would you not report someone running a drug den next door, or starving their kids next door or punching their wife?

Yes I would. Because I could clearly see what was going on. Whereas someone calling round to visit the neighbours, I wouldn't know. So no I wouldn't be reporting them and I wouldn't be calling their place of work to try and get them sacked either. Poor comparison.

Those who are calling people snitches and sticky beaks would you not report someone running a drug den next door, or starving their kids next door or punching their wife?
After all it’s none of your business is it and they may have their reasons?
And before you say it’s different as people are getting harmed it’s pretty harmful to be potentially spreading a deadly disease around....

I don't think people using those terms about reporting breaking social distancing rules would say the same thing about domestic abuse or drug dealing. Because the harm is more obvious.

I really hate the term 'snitch', though. Especially with regards to bullying, would you really see a child reporting bullying as a 'snitch'?

In the OP's case, I can see a legitimate concern, if COVID-19 is spreading in the prison where the neighbour works. The prisoners have no way of protecting themselves if a prison officer brings the infection into the prison, so I do think they need to be particularly careful, as do hospital key workers or care staff as well.

nelliana but you wouldn’t know for sure would you, you’d be assuming on the balance of likely probability just like the OP is.
Maybe their kid had ‘anorexia’ or maybe they were actually avid fb online sellers....

She's had her family round. She has a very high chance of being infected. This isn't so much about passing it to the prisoners but more about bringing it out and then infecting more people than she has to and spreading it to the wider community.

Crippling the NHS in the process.

Report her if you want to op but not to her employer. She deserves the police reminding her but she doesn't deserve the sack.

So no I wouldn't be reporting them and I wouldn't be calling their place of work to try and get them sacked either. Poor comparison

Its not about getting people sacked, it's about getting them to follow the guidelines. People can risk their own lives but in the process they are risking other peoples lives to.

leave your poor neighbour alone. Are you the Stasi?

nelliana but you wouldn’t know for sure would you, you’d be assuming on the balance of likely probability just like the OP is.

I wouldn't be reporting anything on some vague curtain twitching suspicion no. Obviously if I heard the neighbour screaming for help / people rocking up at all hours of the night every night, may give me cause for concern. But someone simply visiting the neighbour? That's not likely probability. That's simply a nosey authoritarian curtain twitcher.

leave your poor neighbour alone. Are you the Stasi?

The "poor" neighbour that is potentially spreading a virus that is killing people by her selfishness? That one?

Its not about getting people sacked, it's about getting them to follow the guidelines

Even though you have no idea why the neighbour has a visitor? A neighbor taking it upon themselves to ring their place of work? Really? Listen to yourself. You should be bloody ashamed.

@LagunaBubbles I agree, but this...

"Its not about getting people sacked, it's about getting them to follow the guidelines"

No. Not with this employer. She does not need reporting to the prison service

I’m
Sorry I’m going
To go against the grain and say I think it is everyone’s business and we should report people like this.

The "poor" neighbour that is potentially spreading a virus that is killing people by her selfishness? That one?

What the prison officer who puts her life at risk every day because of the high risk job she does? The one who has a visitor to her home? Yet despite no one knowing the reason why that visitor is there, she's suddenly a selfish coronavirus spreader? Gosh yes, how bloody selfish of her. 🙄

Report her.

Report her again.

And again.

And again.

Ad nauseam.

Then come back and tell us if it made you feel better.

🙄

I don't understand this busybody mentality, I really don't. I'm frankly too unobservant and too busy to give a shit about what others are doing.

Apart from the fact that if a good proportion of people did what OPs neighbour is doing we wouldn’t get this virus into any sort of a containment situation. Why is she so special she thinks she can ignore the rules that are in place for everyone’s sakes? I live alone and am missing my friends. Why don’t I pop round and visit them or invite them over ? Because right now it’s too dangerous and it’s against the law.

People in our local town were walking past a dead body today. Nobody bothered the emergency services. Plenty people still grassing their neighbours in. Funny old world. www.edinburghnews.scotsman.com/news/man-52-dies-hospital-after-falling-unwell-edinburgh-street-where-people-stepped-over-and-walked-round-his-body-2543569