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To think my friend was incredibly unfair?

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Refreshed · 06/03/2020 20:32

I look after a friend's 2 primary school DC's when they've finished school, every Monday. They often have swimming lessons so I take them to that, whilst I have a short swim with my DS and then get ready to get them.

They are on a small break from it so we did a fun swim instead. Their mum asked me to take them to Pizza Express for dinner. The one she was thinking of is no longer there so I took them to Pizza Hut style place instead.

My own DS was asleep and wasn't having anything. We got a huge pizza with bottomless drinks for all of us. The kids had an ice cream each. This all came to £16 so a fairly good deal. Loads of pizza was left over so I packed it up for the kids.

When we got to their house I handed over the change (the mum had given me £40 for their food). The receipt for it all was coincidentally in there to.

I've just received a text from friend saying ''Hi, was your drink at the pizza place paid for by you? Just wondered as the money was for [NAME REMOVED] and [NAME REMOVED]. The pizza was obviously huge so not bothered at that being shared! "

In truth I didn't pay for my own drunk, no. It was £2.70. Yet I don't charge if I've ever picked something up for the boys quickly. I don't charge for petrol going to and from their school or swimming.

Was I really being that cheeky or is she rude? Blush

[Edited by MNHQ to remove RL names]

OP posts:
drippingwet · 06/03/2020 20:33

She is so rude!

Thisismytimetoshine · 06/03/2020 20:34

Are you paid for looking after them?

Thisismytimetoshine · 06/03/2020 20:34

Still rude as fuck...

AMomHasNoName · 06/03/2020 20:35

Wow very cheeky and rude of her!

Bridecilla · 06/03/2020 20:35

Wow! Are you doing free childcare?

"Yes, my drink was included. I was just about to add up what you owe me for petrol etc so I'll knock the £2.70 off that"

TorkTorkBam · 06/03/2020 20:35

Text back, "I didn't realise we were doing it that way but am fine to do so if you like. The bill for the petrol money comes to £Y. Take the £2.70 off it."

Lllot5 · 06/03/2020 20:35

Rude. Guess she’ll be looking after her kids from now on.

MairzyDoats · 06/03/2020 20:35

Do you get paid for looking after the children? Even if you do, I'd have no problem at all paying for your drink! She's a cheeky cow.

StealthPolarBear · 06/03/2020 20:35

Well you'll need to start charging for fuel now. In fact it could offset it this time.

Coffeeisnecessary · 06/03/2020 20:35

Incredibly rude!!

WeShouldBeFriends · 06/03/2020 20:35

I don't think I could even muster a response to that. Flabbergasted. I'd stop the arrangement with immediate effect.

Aquamarine1029 · 06/03/2020 20:36

What an insufferable arsehole. I wouldn't be watching her children anymore, I assure you.

sonjadog · 06/03/2020 20:36

She is nitpicking. I would mention all the things that you have bought for the boys and the petrol and say that you think it offsets the 2.70, but if she wants, you can start itemizing everything. That should make her rethink her attitude pretty sharpish.

HelloDulling · 06/03/2020 20:36

Wow. Who’s going to pick her kids up on Mondays now?

TheLarkDescending · 06/03/2020 20:36

Does she pay you for looking after the boys? A bit tight either way, but very rude if you look after them for free.

Also, you might want to get your post amended if those are the boys’ real names.

DICarter1 · 06/03/2020 20:36

Are you paid to look after her kids? Cheeky cow though. Asking you about a £2.70 drink. I’d be minded not to look after them anymore if that’s her attitude. 100% cheeky fucker!

MrsDesireeCarthorse · 06/03/2020 20:36

Just ask her if she wants the £2.70 back or to start paying you for petrol.

Dontunderestimateme · 06/03/2020 20:37

So you look after her DC's for free every week, and she is begrudging you £2.70 for a drink, wow! YANBU!

spacepoppers · 06/03/2020 20:37

Wowsers. That is extremely stingy and mean of her, I would be well pissed off with a text like that. Exactly as @TorkTorkBam suggests, that would word for word be my reply also.

Whynotnowbaby · 06/03/2020 20:38

Agree with TorktorkBarn, add up the petrol and send that text. If she’s not paying you then I’m not sure why you would commit to something like this at all.

Mamato2gorgeousboys · 06/03/2020 20:38

Very rude. I’d tell her to find alternative childcare or bill her for petrol and other expenses. Cheeky cow.

TokyoSushi · 06/03/2020 20:38

Wow. What @TorkTorkBam said is perfect. Text that!

Refreshed · 06/03/2020 20:38

I don't charge for petrol, no. Because in fairness my DS goes for a swim with me during their lesson so he gets something out of it. We live next to their school

OP posts:
viques · 06/03/2020 20:38

Are those the kids real names OP, quite an unusual combination if they are so I would ask for MN to redact them.

flumposie · 06/03/2020 20:38

She is a CF. Point out what you have saved her in paying for childcare etc. Rude.