To think my friend was incredibly unfair?

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I look after a friend's 2 primary school DC's when they've finished school, every Monday. They often have swimming lessons so I take them to that, whilst I have a short swim with my DS and then get ready to get them.

They are on a small break from it so we did a fun swim instead. Their mum asked me to take them to Pizza Express for dinner. The one she was thinking of is no longer there so I took them to Pizza Hut style place instead.

My own DS was asleep and wasn't having anything. We got a huge pizza with bottomless drinks for all of us. The kids had an ice cream each. This all came to £16 so a fairly good deal. Loads of pizza was left over so I packed it up for the kids.

When we got to their house I handed over the change (the mum had given me £40 for their food). The receipt for it all was coincidentally in there to.

I've just received a text from friend saying ''Hi, was your drink at the pizza place paid for by you? Just wondered as the money was for [NAME REMOVED] and [NAME REMOVED]. The pizza was obviously huge so not bothered at that being shared! "

In truth I didn't pay for my own drunk, no. It was £2.70. Yet I don't charge if I've ever picked something up for the boys quickly. I don't charge for petrol going to and from their school or swimming.

Was I really being that cheeky or is she rude?

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She’s blocked you! Wow. Cheeky cheeky.

Sorry op - it hurts when things like that happen. You were a good friend to her - she wasn’t to you

Hope you enjoy your swimming with your DH on Monday

oh well, the trash took itself out OP. She has shot herself in the foot for being such a tightarse cow that couldnt even buy a coke for the woman that takes her kids out week after week for fuck all

Wow.

So once she could no longer take advantage of your good nature, she blocked you? And taking young children swimming isn't 'easy': there's wet clothes, towels and chlorinated, tangly hair to deal with, then you were making sure they were fed, transported ... all gratis. While they carried on with their job making money for themselves and not paying for help with their children. And then begrudged you a soft drink whilst doing it all.

Wow.

She was never your friend. CF by the sounds of it.

I'm so sorry op. What a horrible friend to have just blocked you like that. All over 2.70?! I would have wanted you to have a drink whilst looking after my children. She is rude, tight and childish.

I hope your "friend" is on Mumsnet and sees what people think of her.

it's Her loss OP.. certainly not yours... 🌺

That's really sad. Glad you found out what she's like and maybe you can spend time with other people now.

Ergh she is horrible. You are not. You have dodged a bullet there a real friend would never treat you like this. Chin up love. At least no more running round after ungrateful people. X

I bet tomorrow she will text you in the morning all bright and breezy.

I would have passive aggressively apologised for assuming getting myself a drink was okay given the bill was only £16 then I would have asked for her bank details to send it over the £2.70

I would have passive aggressively apologised for assuming getting myself a drink was okay given the bill was only £16 then I would have asked for her bank details to send it over the £2.70

I wouldn’t, because passive aggression is horrible behaviour.

I think OP did exactly the right thing - we’ll done OP

I'd just reply, "No, it was paid for from the money you gave me". Do not give any further explanation. You don't owe her one.

Wow, so she never even replied?!

She probably never replied because she was so embarrassed and thought she'd save face by hiding. What a twat.

Oh well you’ve got your Monday’s back and free now. You’re a better person than me for agreeing that arrangement in the first place
What a silly bint losing such an advantageous arrangement over £2.70

I actually feel a bit lonely, so a tad disappointed it has come to this But I know I can't be taken for a mug anymore.

I suppose I've just found it a bit tricky. All work colleagues are significantly older than me with grown up children. And I haven't really made any friends, beyond a few from DS's play sessions. One of them stole from me after I invited her over for a lunch date. The remote wasn't working on her telly. Mine vanished. I bought a new one. Next thing I know she's got my one when I had lunch at hers, the silly woman didn't realise it had a very specific mark from where DH had dropped it once

Oh OP, it's so sad to read your last message. I know how you feel, it's hard to find how to make friends sometimes but that's no reason to allow yourself to be treated badly.
Are there any clubs or night classes you might be interested locally? Find people with similar interests and will be easier to start conversations with someone and lead on from there?
Sometimes you need to put yourself first and cut out people who bring negativity to your life

Oh I'm sorry but you have to be careful that people want you for the right reasons.

I hope you stole the remote back OP!

Sorry to hear you've had some bad luck, there are nice people like you out there, you just need to find each other

Oh OP that's awful. What horrible people.

Sorry to read your update OP, but you're better off with very little friend than ungrateful and horrible friends like the two you mentioned. The nerve of some people, I was already a bit at her telling you to take her kids out for dinner and where you were to take them as well but to then chastise you for buying yourself a drink while doing all that for her children? I'm actually embarrassed for her. Talk about cutting off you nose to "sprite"your face

@NotSorry okay maybe PA was the wrong adjective. I only meant light and breezy sarcasm.