To think my friend was incredibly unfair?

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I look after a friend's 2 primary school DC's when they've finished school, every Monday. They often have swimming lessons so I take them to that, whilst I have a short swim with my DS and then get ready to get them.

They are on a small break from it so we did a fun swim instead. Their mum asked me to take them to Pizza Express for dinner. The one she was thinking of is no longer there so I took them to Pizza Hut style place instead.

My own DS was asleep and wasn't having anything. We got a huge pizza with bottomless drinks for all of us. The kids had an ice cream each. This all came to £16 so a fairly good deal. Loads of pizza was left over so I packed it up for the kids.

When we got to their house I handed over the change (the mum had given me £40 for their food). The receipt for it all was coincidentally in there to.

I've just received a text from friend saying ''Hi, was your drink at the pizza place paid for by you? Just wondered as the money was for [NAME REMOVED] and [NAME REMOVED]. The pizza was obviously huge so not bothered at that being shared! "

In truth I didn't pay for my own drunk, no. It was £2.70. Yet I don't charge if I've ever picked something up for the boys quickly. I don't charge for petrol going to and from their school or swimming.

Was I really being that cheeky or is she rude?

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I would reply...

"No I didn't pay for my own drink. Send me your back details and I'll transfer the £2.70 to you now. I'm not available to mind the children any more, with immediate effect. Have a lovely weekend and I'll see you around".

She's a CF.

The voting is showing 102% - surely some mistake?!

I'm genuinely horrified. Tell her to fuck off and sort her own children out from now on.

I wouldn't ask for payment for having the kids. I would tell her you're never going to do anything for her again.

OP, is this your sister, rather than a friend? It just seems odd you'd do so much for a friend.

I’d put an end to the arrangement without a second thought, she’s being incredibly unfair to you.

That's no friend!

I think I'd send her a text asking for her bank details so you can refund her the £2.70 and also wish her good luck in finding childcare for £10 a month as you're handing in your notice.

Yes, do this OP.

Dear friend
Oh I didn’t realise. I’ll give it to you next time I see you- just to let you know that won’t be next week as I can no longer provide childcare.
Thanks

Some people are just mentally ignorant when it comes to money.

Just say yeah here's the money for the drink, I'll have a fiver from you for petrol thanks.

Jesus wept how low can she go?!

Have you replied?

You need to consider do you want the arrangement to carry on and do you care if you stay friends.

You need nicer friends OP!

Has £40 for a weekday tea out for 2 kids- quibbles over 2.70 of that on a drink for you. Clearly she isn't skint- perhaps that's because of all the free childcare she's been having?

I would be furious! £10 a month, as a childminder I would charge £6 per hour per child with a minimum fee of £15 for after school care per child. If oatrnts ever ask me to take children somewhere they would give money for all the children to ge treated the same and they would be mortified if I didn’t also have something. Must would just hand in some money for a treat for everyone during holidays. You need to end the arrangement immediately. That’s ridiculous. I would reply “ of course I had a drink I was only there because you asked me to take the children. I’m really quite offended and thus arrangement doesn’t suit me anymore so that will be the last time I have the children.” I would be very clear why your ending the arrangement

It's back to 100% now. I think even the very voting system itself is telling you YANBU!

Invoice her for all the free childcare obviously..

Agree with @WickedlyPetite pay her the £2.70 and put an end to this. Can't believe the cheek of some people

Sorry for typos *parents

Op have you messaged her back?

I think I'd send her a text asking for her bank details so you can refund her the £2.70 and also wish her good luck in finding childcare for £10 a month as you're handing in your notice.
This op , come on. You know this isn’t acceptable.

Just send her a message saying that this arrangement obviously isn't working. You don't want to have to start charging her for every penny you spend on the boys - petrol, snacks etc. You're not that petty.

What an absolute cf shame u are now fully booked on Mondays with immediate effect...

Don’t offer money for the drink she is very rude

This is outrageous behaviour from her! I would stop helping her out immediately.

Repay her the £2.70 and stop the favour.
And honestly don't go back on it, how rude of her.

Even if she was paying you the going rate to nit pick about a drink is mean.