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To think my friend was incredibly unfair?

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Refreshed · 06/03/2020 20:32

I look after a friend's 2 primary school DC's when they've finished school, every Monday. They often have swimming lessons so I take them to that, whilst I have a short swim with my DS and then get ready to get them.

They are on a small break from it so we did a fun swim instead. Their mum asked me to take them to Pizza Express for dinner. The one she was thinking of is no longer there so I took them to Pizza Hut style place instead.

My own DS was asleep and wasn't having anything. We got a huge pizza with bottomless drinks for all of us. The kids had an ice cream each. This all came to £16 so a fairly good deal. Loads of pizza was left over so I packed it up for the kids.

When we got to their house I handed over the change (the mum had given me £40 for their food). The receipt for it all was coincidentally in there to.

I've just received a text from friend saying ''Hi, was your drink at the pizza place paid for by you? Just wondered as the money was for [NAME REMOVED] and [NAME REMOVED]. The pizza was obviously huge so not bothered at that being shared! "

In truth I didn't pay for my own drunk, no. It was £2.70. Yet I don't charge if I've ever picked something up for the boys quickly. I don't charge for petrol going to and from their school or swimming.

Was I really being that cheeky or is she rude? Blush

[Edited by MNHQ to remove RL names]

OP posts:
Gadgnkk · 06/03/2020 20:39

I can’t actually believe what I just read. Tell her the arrangement no longer works for you and post her £2:70. The piss that people take is absolutely unbelievable. I would not actually speak to someone ever again if they treated me like this.

Aquamarine1029 · 06/03/2020 20:39

She is taking you for an absolute mug. Put an end to this.

letmeinthroughyourwindow · 06/03/2020 20:39

I wouldn't reply, at all, ever. When she does inevitably realise that she's shot herself in the foot and starts crawling back just tell her your Monday plans have changed and you can't pick them up from now on.

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 06/03/2020 20:40

“Yes of course I did. I only went to Pizza Hut because you wanted me to - otherwise I would have been at home where drinks cost pennies. BTW I realise that I haven’t been charging you for all the fuel I’ve used picking your kids up and taking them to swimming. By my reckoning it comes to about £3 a week. As I’ve been picking them up all year that’s 22 weeks in total so £66. Shall I send you my details so you can put it in my account or will you give me cash? Also - do you want to pay for future weeks at once or gove me the £3 each week?”

PurpleDaisies · 06/03/2020 20:40

Really rude.

arethereanyleftatall · 06/03/2020 20:40

Can you answer how much she pays you for looking after her kids, as it's completely relevant?

CanICelebrate · 06/03/2020 20:40

YADNBU. She’s a cheeky cow

Refreshed · 06/03/2020 20:40

Just to clarify, those aren't the real names of her boys!

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SaigonSaigon · 06/03/2020 20:40

I'd just start by asking her if she's joking? Because god knows I hope so? Ridiculous if not

ilovedjerrymore · 06/03/2020 20:40

Funny isn’t it @Refreshed that you suddenly have another engagement on their swim nights from now on!Grin

Thisismytimetoshine · 06/03/2020 20:41

Does she pay you, op? It’s relevant.

user1494055864 · 06/03/2020 20:41

I would honestly tell her to fuck off.

bubblesforlife · 06/03/2020 20:42

What a twat.
Did you respond yet? I think you should take some of the above recommendations.
Then she can take her own kid swimming next week.

Setacourse · 06/03/2020 20:42

Gosh I can't believe some people! I bet she is the one thinking youre the cheeky fucker! Crazy lady! Stupid lady!

Sushiroller · 06/03/2020 20:42

Insane. She is not your friend.

I'd give her the 2.70 and stop collecting her children.

TreeTopTim · 06/03/2020 20:43

What a rude and cheeky cow. I would not grudge my friend a drink if she was looking after my kids. I would actually insist on paying for it.

Luckystar20 · 06/03/2020 20:43

She is a piss taker I cant believe you take her kids to their swimming lessons how old are they?

Refreshed · 06/03/2020 20:43

She pays me £10 a month but it isn't set in stone, just a little gesture

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JayAlfredPrufrock · 06/03/2020 20:43

Does she pay you for childcare?

HollowTalk · 06/03/2020 20:43

You wouldn't have even been in the pizza place if it wasn't for the fact she told you to go there.

That would be the last time I did anything for her.

wildcherries · 06/03/2020 20:44

No way in hell would I look after her children again. Cheeky fucker. I'd tell her, too.

HollowTalk · 06/03/2020 20:44

£10 per month?! And you look after them every Monday and take them swimming?

Honestly, OP, just stop doing it.

Wynston · 06/03/2020 20:44

Does she pay you op???

TokyoSushi · 06/03/2020 20:44

£10 a month!!! Jesus Christ, what a cheeky cow!!!

TorkTorkBam · 06/03/2020 20:44

Funny isn’t it @Refreshed that you suddenly have another engagement on their swim nights from now on!

This. She sees you as staff. The low end kind of staff, who need to be kept an eye on. Fuck that.

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