To think my friend was incredibly unfair?

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I look after a friend's 2 primary school DC's when they've finished school, every Monday. They often have swimming lessons so I take them to that, whilst I have a short swim with my DS and then get ready to get them.

They are on a small break from it so we did a fun swim instead. Their mum asked me to take them to Pizza Express for dinner. The one she was thinking of is no longer there so I took them to Pizza Hut style place instead.

My own DS was asleep and wasn't having anything. We got a huge pizza with bottomless drinks for all of us. The kids had an ice cream each. This all came to £16 so a fairly good deal. Loads of pizza was left over so I packed it up for the kids.

When we got to their house I handed over the change (the mum had given me £40 for their food). The receipt for it all was coincidentally in there to.

I've just received a text from friend saying ''Hi, was your drink at the pizza place paid for by you? Just wondered as the money was for [NAME REMOVED] and [NAME REMOVED]. The pizza was obviously huge so not bothered at that being shared! "

In truth I didn't pay for my own drunk, no. It was £2.70. Yet I don't charge if I've ever picked something up for the boys quickly. I don't charge for petrol going to and from their school or swimming.

Was I really being that cheeky or is she rude?

[Edited by MNHQ to remove RL names]

Just to clarify, those aren't the real names of her boys!

Damn!

I thought I knew who she was.

(not really)

Think everyone agrees she's a cheeky cow op!

I actually can't believe she text you .
I mean the favour your doing she should of said when she gave you the money oh and get you and your dd a drink too . Yeah I'd be tempted to say oh I didn't realise sorry shall I start invoicing you for petrol to swimming and my time looking after your dc say £10 p/hr
Actually you owe me say 2 hours a week x £10 p/hr plus 45p a mile for petrol say it's 2 miles there and back x 48 weeks term time so just shy of a £1000 a year . I think the £2.70 will be forgotten what a cf .

Ergh I hate tight people like this. Its ridiculous and the height of cheek. Horrible really then shes not prepared to even buy you a cheap drink for all that you have done. She should feel ashamed of herself.

10quidnis insulting for 2 kids and the fact shes begugging of £2.40 for ma drink.

What a cheeky bitch!!! £2.70!!! I'm speechless! Have you replied yet?

She is a cheeky cow! £2.50 per week that doesn’t even cover the costs of you swimming 🤣 how embarrassing for her. I would absolutely shame her over this op.
“Sorry you feel the need to split hairs over a £2.70 drink. Especially when I’ve saved you £x in after school club/childminding fees. I’m appalled at your stinginess. Here’s the £2.70, arrange your own childcare from now on, I hope it was worth it!”

I’m really sorry this has happened to you, you obviously felt you had a good friendship and wanted to help out. It can feel really shit when stuff like this happens, it’s so disappointing she’s acted this way.
Do you want to go continue your friendship? If so I’d just be really honest and say you didn’t think it was a big deal since you were doing her the favour, tell her how it’s made you feel and point out that helping her out has put you out of pocket.

If it has shown you a new side of her to you and you no longer want to continue the friendship and arrangement I think some of the other posters have given some brilliant ideas.

Finally, you should really kind, and like a good mate and deserve to be treated well in return.

I'd bring the 2.70 around to her in the smallest coins available and hand it to her and tell her your plans for mondays have now changed and you have other commitments. You're doing alot for her to begrudge you a lousy drink.

Wow. Just wow!

Would you have been going to pizza express if she hadn’t asked you to?

Idontlike has it all worked out and makes a great point. What a mean woman.

You must stop. You are doing her a massive favour and she is taking advantage.

A tenner a month, you are saving her more than that every day you pick them up. I know you're supposed to be the bigger person but such a petty thing like that would really wind be up I'd have to stop the pick ups.

What a bitch

What are you going to do?

Shes not a friend. Shes using you. Be my friend instead you sound like a really nice person. I'll buy you a wine. X

CF
Have you texted her back OP?

What a cheeky bitch! I would also pay her the £2.70 and call an immediate end to her piss-taking.

She thinks you're her employee if that text is anything to go by. What a nerve she has and I'd be busy every Monday from now on.
Love the suggestion of posting her £2.70.

Cheeky bloody fucker!!

"yeah sure. I'll just tot up my petrol money (parking?) cost of my swimming entry and all the snacks and other things for the kids I've paid for - minus the £10 you give me and obviously the money for my drink too. I keep forgetting to do it but your message has reminded me!

By the way, Mondays are going to be tricky for me going forward now, I'm afraid I can't help out anymore, sorry."

Done. Don't be a mug anymore OP.

Omg CF that's terrible

I have text that I will no longer be taking the boys swimming. And I hope she can find something else because I am away next Monday. I have said I feel really sad that its come to this.

I'm shocked at her audacity. biggest CF yet!

You need to unleash the hounds of hell in your reply to that message!

Please tell her from the whole of Mumsnet to fuck off. What the hell!!

'Wow! Just wow. You pay me a tenner to look after your kids and go through the faff of taking them swimming, I never charge you petrol, I never charge you for little bits and bobs I pick up for your kids, I wouldn't have been been in the pizza place if you hadn't asked me to take them and you have the nerve to nitpick over a £2.70 drink?! Thanks for the favour, actually, it made me realise how much you are ripping the piss out of me and taking advantage of me. You need to make other arrangements for childcare. I'm out. Goodbye.'

FUCK ever looking after her kids again. CF