Aibu to feel crap my husband and kids haven't got me anything for christmas

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I found out for definate today, I had suspected anyway, that my kids and my husband haven't bothered getting me anything for Christmas.
I feel really hurt. I've been trying to instil in the kids that Christmas is about giving and making the people you love smile. But my husband told me this morning they couldn't think what to get me for Christmas so he's just going to give me money 😒
The kids are only 7 and 5 so i am more miffed at my husband. Just seems crap I've put all this effort into making Christmas special and making them all smile and they couldn't give a toss about me 😔
Sorry will stop whining now.

Red crayons 😂😂
It's most defo not all about me, I am upset as the kids are upset. I've given them something to wrap for me. They are lovely thoughtful kids and would of loved a wee day out with there dad. I like the sending them out with money with grandma. Mum would love that!!
Thanks all you have made me feel better.
You never know he just text and said he was nipping by a shop on his way home so he might do the right thing yet. My face prob told him all he needed to know this morning when he told me about the money thing.

Yes he is still getting his present. It is from the kids.

Woman facilitates for everyone's needs, gets nothing in return. Happy Christmas.

Xmas is about kids, stop being so needy. Just focus on your children enjoying their day and presents, it isn't all about you.

But this isn’t really about Christmas. It’s about how her DH sees and value her. He doesn’t see her as a loving partner that deserves a nice gift or a caring parent who might appreciate something from her children of that the children might like to give something to her.
He just sees her as nothing more than the cleaner who you give a Christmas bonus to.

I would be asking him why you mean so little to him.

Xmas is about kids

No, it's not. Xmas is about everyone. It's about being happy and making those around you happy. Everyone, not just children.

If they are only buying as they feel pressured to the whole process is surely rendered meaningless ..

Oh my God- I feel outraged & upset on your behalf!! He should have taken the kids shopping & guided them into choosing something or even making something- even smellies & chocolates if he really genuine couldn't think of anything else! What an utter prick!! He's not teaching them about giving at all - he's teaching them laziness & how to be thoughtless. I'd be raging at him & tell him to bloody sort it - he's got time- the shops are still open!! Dickhead.

He’s a dick. The kids need help and you should get a present. My ex husband is like this.... hence the ex!

Except he’s not actually giving you money is he? Because that’s also your money in the first place. He’s basically saved you a trip to the cash point. Incredibly lazy and uncaring.

Xmas is about kids, stop being so needy. Just focus on your children enjoying their day and presents, it isn't all about you.. Absolute rubbish. And very unfair.

OP I hope he’s realised how selfish he’s been and pulls his socks up. If he doesn’t, then things need to change before next year.

YANBU at all. It’s bloody laziness. And even going to the shop on his way home from work is missing the point (and coping out of the harder bit of it) because he’s supposed to be teaching the kids not just getting them something to wrap up for appearances.

I too would be furious. Not at the lack of gifts particularly but at the lack of thought and care. There is absolutely no need for it at all, it's very hurtful.

I don't believe for a minute that anyone would be happy on Christmas morning watching their family open their gifts without at least having a small token to open themselves, unless it has been discussed and agreed upon well in advance.

Personally I give DH and DSs help with what I'd like - mostly by dropping a URL on DH's whatsapp (usually a book)! However, as we're away this year we decided to have a no present rule. I think it's really about whether they are caring and loving rather than unwrapping a present or two. We've scaled back on "stuff" so I'm fine with it
Great for you but not so great for Op that feels underappreciated and not valued.
I do think your DH should have, at the very minimum, taken the kids to Boots or similar and say to kids what do you think mummy would like.
Even better would know what things you like and take them to a specialist place whether its' a sports, book, fashion, or whatever shop. I personally think the other parent should do the same do kids learn to appreciate both parents and to be thoughtful.

Some men are a bit crap at buying gifts
Stop the bill shit.
Many men have been allowed to be rubbish at buying gifts. If it was someone they hugely wanted to impress they would be on it!

Auto correct doesnt like swearing!! Meant ' bullshit!!'

It's incredibly selfish of your DH, and I would be very upset if it were me. It just says "couldn't be bothered,"

I must be in the minority as I tell my DH not to buy anything for me; I'd much rather choose things I want, than get random stuff - I know I am v picky and I hate getting clutter or things I won't really use.

Also I have loads of free time at the moment to shop/choose gifts and I enjoy it, my DH is not too bothered about giving or receiving gifts - he is good at showing his love for his family in plenty of other ways, so it doesn't bother me.

It is not too late. He needs to sort this out now, take the kids, get them to choose things and wrap them and give them to you tomorrow. And yes, he needs to get you something too. Doesn't need to be big or super-special, but something. Shops are still open.

I would feel the same OP, that is ceap. I have been in your position before and it does hurt

He's an arse.

Oh and don't ask him to get you one. Just tell him that he doesn't have to get one for you if he doesn't want to but obviously you will note the fact that he didn't bother.

No one ever gets me anything either. So I buy stuff for myself.

Your husband is a dick