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Can't believe I'm even posting this. Christmas dinner highchair'gate'

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Nobhobs · 29/11/2019 11:49

Spending Christmas with DH, DS and the in laws. We're weaning DS so mentioned in passing bringing his high chair so he can sit with us during Christmas dinner (if he's not napping or anything like that) he's very alert and active and gets arsey if not being entertained. He loves being in his high chair and round the table and it's his first Christmas so we're a bit excited (yes I know he worn remember it)

MIL has said we can't bring his highchair, as her other sons baby will only be 8 weeks old and can't sit in one and we can't leave out one of the babies on Christmas Day. I laughed thinking it was a bad joke, but no, deadly serious.

We sort of ignored and thought we'd deal with it on the day, but had a text from 8 week olds mum saying that MIL had told her we were going to try and leave her child out and that she's not happy about it. Her baby will be the only one not in the Christmas dinner photos if we bring our highchair Hmm I said well obviously baby can be held up in the photos if that's what's upsetting you, DS is at the age where he doesn't just nap constantly and wants to be involved and entertained and it's nothing to do with leaving her child out.

It's totally ridiculous and DH is now saying just to leave the highchair at home to avoid drama. I've never had any issues with the in laws before and I'm mind blown by how stupid this is. Or am I BU? Is this a thing?! If one babies on the floor they all have to be?? Hmm

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BlueJava · 01/12/2019 17:04

That's ridiculous. I'd either stay at home and have Christmas just as a family or go and not take the chair but say to DH beforehand: "ok no chair but he stays on your lap all through xmas lunch". He has to agree otherwise thenchair comes. He will soon understand how stupis it is.

MerchantOfVenom · 01/12/2019 17:05

I just don't think there's any harm in MNHQ being a bit mindful of the type of content they choose to share on FB where it's shared with people who aren't necessarily MN users and it could just pop up in your newsfeed.

Why would it 'pop up in someone's news feed'?

They'd have to follow Mumsnet on Facebook for that to happen, and they're probably only following MN on FB because they're on MN.

I get alerted to some threads I've missed that way.

MerchantOfVenom · 01/12/2019 17:05

@Frankola @BlueJava

The thread is over 800 posts long. The OP has updated. She's not going.

marymungoandminge · 01/12/2019 17:08

How is your child going to eat? What will they eat and where will they sit to eat it?

They will eat sitting in their high chair at the table at the other grannies house.

FFS - what is wrong with people today? Were you not even vaguely curious about what the other 800 posters might have said.

MerchantOfVenom · 01/12/2019 17:13

Were you not even vaguely curious about what the other 800 posters might have said.


Clearly not - we're way too dull.

But their wisdom is way too important for us to miss out on.

coconuttelegraph · 01/12/2019 17:53

But their wisdom is way too important for us to miss out on

It's not about their wisdom, although surprisingly all possible suggestions have already been covered, it's about the fact that the situation is now resolved.

At least highlight the OP's posts to keep up

CodenameVillanelle · 01/12/2019 18:10

How did the conversation go? We want details! I want to know how batshit they are or if they realised how stupid they were being

billybagpuss · 01/12/2019 18:12

Poor op has ended up in the sun and the mn fb page, I very much doubt she’ll be back with further updates.

CodenameVillanelle · 01/12/2019 18:13

Lazy arsed so-called 'journalists'

Northernsoulgirl45 · 01/12/2019 18:25

Apologies I did browse the last page I had open including an op where a decision hadn't been reached but it must have not refreshed it.

marymungoandminge · 01/12/2019 18:39

@MerchantOfVenom I'm glad it's not just me.

At least this isn't a zombie thread Grin

Lweji · 01/12/2019 18:55

I do hope the MIL and SIL see this in the Sun. Grin

FelicisNox · 01/12/2019 21:29


Everyone else are being precious twats.

Tell them: no high chair, no you and you won't be standing for this unnecessary drama going forward.

Can you not go to your parents or enjoy Christmas at home?

BumbleBeee69 · 01/12/2019 22:17

Oh my GAWD....

Read the THREAD people.....

CheeseCakeSunflowers · 01/12/2019 22:22

and don't forget to cancel the cheque.

Penguin34 · 01/12/2019 22:26

Can you bring the high chair and set it next to the sofas where you and your Dh will be eating your dinner!

Wakingupnow · 01/12/2019 23:01

Could "go to your parents for Christmas" be the new "cancel the cheque"Grin

And I agree the Sun are horrible fuckers Angry for many other reasons

Wakingupnow · 01/12/2019 23:01

Cross post @CheeseCakeSunflowers

Nanny0gg · 02/12/2019 10:08

So, OP, Have you told your in-laws you're not going?

What was their reaction?

MumW · 02/12/2019 11:15

OMG, I thought I'd heard it all with your first post but your later update takes it to a whole other level.

I was going to say that If your MIL/SIL think there's no need for one baby to be at the table when they can both play nicely on the floor is a sensible solution then, MIL must be starting dementia and SIL has got a nasty shock coming when her PFB gets a bit bigger.

What was your SIL going to do when your DS decides that hitting baby with a hammer (make sure Santa brings one Wink) is a good game and what are her plans should baby need a feed in the middle of the meal - presumably baby will have to cry as DS will be left out if she reaches for a bottle/whips her breast out)

However, I see you've made the sensible decision to go to your parents. Hope your MIL will be gutted not to be part of DGS's first Xmas but you really do have a DH problem that needs to be firmly nipped in the bud. He needs to accept that pushing the DGCs under onto the carpet when they are in the way is not something to put up with, you are a family of 3 and as such all 3 of your needs must be catered for.

AryaStarkWolf · 02/12/2019 15:06

Good choice OP, have you told the in laws yet? If so what was their reaction?

SleepwalkingThroughLife · 02/12/2019 15:15

I remember the cancel the cheque thread but what was the result? Did she, in fact, cancel it? Or did she just ignore the whole situation like I would have done because I'm too british?

Wonkybanana · 02/12/2019 16:39

Sleepwalking the cheque had already been cashed. But posters didn't read the thread so over about 1,000 posts, most of them simply said cancel it.

AryaStarkWolf · 02/12/2019 17:11

what was the cheque for?

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 02/12/2019 17:28

AryaStarkWolf - you can read the thread in Mumsnet Classics, the link is below. To avoid the countless cancel the cheque posts, I'd search for all posts by PuzzledandPissedOff for the OP's updates.

Cancel the cheque

There is also a link to the DM article about it somewhere near the end of the thread.

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