Spending Christmas with DH, DS and the in laws. We're weaning DS so mentioned in passing bringing his high chair so he can sit with us during Christmas dinner (if he's not napping or anything like that) he's very alert and active and gets arsey if not being entertained. He loves being in his high chair and round the table and it's his first Christmas so we're a bit excited (yes I know he worn remember it)
MIL has said we can't bring his highchair, as her other sons baby will only be 8 weeks old and can't sit in one and we can't leave out one of the babies on Christmas Day. I laughed thinking it was a bad joke, but no, deadly serious.
We sort of ignored and thought we'd deal with it on the day, but had a text from 8 week olds mum saying that MIL had told her we were going to try and leave her child out and that she's not happy about it. Her baby will be the only one not in the Christmas dinner photos if we bring our highchair 
I said well obviously baby can be held up in the photos if that's what's upsetting you, DS is at the age where he doesn't just nap constantly and wants to be involved and entertained and it's nothing to do with leaving her child out.
It's totally ridiculous and DH is now saying just to leave the highchair at home to avoid drama. I've never had any issues with the in laws before and I'm mind blown by how stupid this is. Or am I BU? Is this a thing?! If one babies on the floor they all have to be??
AIBU?
Can't believe I'm even posting this. Christmas dinner highchair'gate'
Nobhobs · 29/11/2019 11:49
Good choice OP. Next year when you go to the in laws you can be potty training DS to win the first out of the nappy stakes. This will involve keeping the potty right next to, if not under the dining table. This is what my cousin did. Every time I removed the potty to the bathroom (Aunt's bungalow so next room) she brought it back. Now my DDs work in a pub and have occasionally been affronted by parents who sit a child on a potty in the middle of the pub. But I reckon I'd make an exception to the bathroom rule for your mil. And you can boast at how early your child is getting out of nappies, setting a target for your sil that she will never match. 
OMG, I thought I'd heard it all with your first post but your later update takes it to a whole other level.
I was going to say that If your MIL/SIL think there's no need for one baby to be at the table when they can both play nicely on the floor is a sensible solution then, MIL must be starting dementia and SIL has got a nasty shock coming when her PFB gets a bit bigger.
What was your SIL going to do when your DS decides that hitting baby with a hammer (make sure Santa brings one 
) is a good game and what are her plans should baby need a feed in the middle of the meal - presumably baby will have to cry as DS will be left out if she reaches for a bottle/whips her breast out)
However, I see you've made the sensible decision to go to your parents. Hope your MIL will be gutted not to be part of DGS's first Xmas but you really do have a DH problem that needs to be firmly nipped in the bud. He needs to accept that pushing the DGCs under onto the carpet when they are in the way is not something to put up with, you are a family of 3 and as such all 3 of your needs must be catered for.
Could "go to your parents for Christmas" be the new "cancel the cheque"
And I agree the Sun are horrible fuckers 
for many other reasons
@MerchantOfVenom I'm glad it's not just me.
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