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Can't believe I'm even posting this. Christmas dinner highchair'gate'

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Nobhobs · 29/11/2019 11:49

Spending Christmas with DH, DS and the in laws. We're weaning DS so mentioned in passing bringing his high chair so he can sit with us during Christmas dinner (if he's not napping or anything like that) he's very alert and active and gets arsey if not being entertained. He loves being in his high chair and round the table and it's his first Christmas so we're a bit excited (yes I know he worn remember it)

MIL has said we can't bring his highchair, as her other sons baby will only be 8 weeks old and can't sit in one and we can't leave out one of the babies on Christmas Day. I laughed thinking it was a bad joke, but no, deadly serious.

We sort of ignored and thought we'd deal with it on the day, but had a text from 8 week olds mum saying that MIL had told her we were going to try and leave her child out and that she's not happy about it. Her baby will be the only one not in the Christmas dinner photos if we bring our highchair Hmm I said well obviously baby can be held up in the photos if that's what's upsetting you, DS is at the age where he doesn't just nap constantly and wants to be involved and entertained and it's nothing to do with leaving her child out.

It's totally ridiculous and DH is now saying just to leave the highchair at home to avoid drama. I've never had any issues with the in laws before and I'm mind blown by how stupid this is. Or am I BU? Is this a thing?! If one babies on the floor they all have to be?? Hmm

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justilou1 · 30/11/2019 21:51

Awesome update!!! How did batshit MIL take it?

Sammyclaire22 · 30/11/2019 22:02

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StoneColdSaidSo · 30/11/2019 22:26

I think this is the first thread I’ve read where everyone agrees!

It’s a Christmas miracle

TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre · 30/11/2019 23:02

Didn't even know MN was on FB, let alone sharing all and sundry on there

You do realise it's the posters "sharing all sundry"!! Once you post here it's public, and anyone, anywhere can use it.

Do people think they're posting in a private forum here? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Londonmummy66 · 30/11/2019 23:07

So pleased to hear this - MIL will be seriously fucked off so should have cut the shit by next year (and I've never sworn on MN before...)

InvisibleWomenMustBeRead · 30/11/2019 23:24

Glad you're going to your mums, Op. You need to nip this sort of shit in the bud otherwise you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of grief like this, so well done! What did your DH day?

MsDogLady · 30/11/2019 23:50

HighchairGate Grin

The perfect solution—Christmas at your parents,’ where everyone will support DS’ needs being met.

Mamawingingit1234 · 30/11/2019 23:51

Please tell us how the conversation went down with the ILs

busyhonestchildcarer · 01/12/2019 08:29

I would definately stay at home.Start your own family traditions and put yourselves first.She is causing problems where there are none.

JFDI2019 · 01/12/2019 09:44

I love the indignation of posters, reacting as if this is a private message board! I clicked on this link from an MN roundup email, stating that it had already been viewed by over 96,000 people - do these posters REALLY think those 96k are all fully signed up, regular posting, active MNers?!

@Nobhobs well done, best decision made. How did your MIL take the news?

Littleidyll · 01/12/2019 12:03

Awesome OP. So glad you're not going to take that total bloody nonsense, your MIL sounds absolutely crack pot!!

FizzyGreenWater · 01/12/2019 12:27

Congratulations OP, you've probably just saved yourself 18 years of fuckwittery.

I suspect that a very taken aback MIL has just realised that she isn't going to get it her way when it comes to arrangements for your baby. Which is as it should be.

So next time there's a situation like this, she's now more likely to ask you what works for your family instead of trying to dictate.

Result: you won't grow to hate MIL. MIL will see more of her grandchild. Everyone will get on better. Nicer for your DH too.

Lweji · 01/12/2019 13:02

Well done for realising and letting us know that MN isn't a private message board. Who'd have thought?

JFDI2019 · 01/12/2019 13:12

@Lweji plenty of posters, if this thread is anything to go by.

Aaarrgghhh · 01/12/2019 13:16

I’d go to your parents or stay at home. Much nicer for you and your baby that way. Life is too short for stupidness like this. If they want to be ridiculous let them but don’t be around it.

Aaarrgghhh · 01/12/2019 13:18

Just went back and seen the update. Good choice, hope you enjoy your first Christmas as parents.

Ginfordinner · 01/12/2019 13:19

For the benefit of the posters who don't even bother to read the Op's updates

Can't believe I'm even posting this. Christmas dinner highchair'gate'
Northernsoulgirl45 · 01/12/2019 14:21

Go to your parent's op. This is crazy.

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 01/12/2019 14:36

Just caught up with this thread. Glad you’ve decided just to leave them to it Nobhobs. Hope you have a lovely first Christmas with your DS.

coconuttelegraph · 01/12/2019 14:52

13:19 For the benefit of the posters who don't even bother to read the Op's updates

14:21 Go to your parent's op. This is crazy

You couldn't make it up, RTFT people, we're 800 posts in

GinandGingerBeer · 01/12/2019 15:07

I realise it's not private....... @feelingsinister I just don't think there's any harm in MNHQ being a bit mindful of the type of content they choose to share on FB where it's shared with people who aren't necessarily MN users and it could just pop up in your newsfeed.

GaaaaarlicBread · 01/12/2019 15:40

I’ve tried to catch up but can’t seem to see if you’ve done an update since this has made the Sun ?? I saw it and thought that sounds familiar , and remembered I’d seen your OP on here . Has your MIL seen it online ??? I hope not!

I’m glad you’ve sorted it though, enjoy Christmas at your Mums xx

marymungoandminge · 01/12/2019 16:35

13:19 For the benefit of the posters who don't even bother to read the Op's updates

14:21 Go to your parent's op. This is crazy


Frankola · 01/12/2019 16:46

How is your child going to eat? What will they eat and where will they sit to eat it?

I'd text MIL and say you are no longer attending on xmas day due to the questions above!

TheHootiestOwl · 01/12/2019 16:57

For goodness sake read the thread, the OP is going to her parents now.

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