..to not want to be gushed over on this board

[saraclara]

I'm no-one's darling or sweetheart. I don't want to be called lovely or a wonderful person by people who don't know me from Adam.
I don't want to be told I'm a fantastic mother by strangers who know about 1% of who I am and what kind of mother I might be.

Why do people do this? There's the world of difference between being supportive and just throwing compliments and soppy terms of endearment around like confetti.

If I post about a problem, I'm hoping that people will consider what I've said (and actually read the OP carefully) then offer an honest opinion or advice with empathy, honesty and PLEASE no self-indulgent sentimentality.

Okay. None of this has happened to me so far, but it drives me nuts to see it on other people's threads. Almost more so than the posts that are over abrupt. It makes me think that the writers are vacuous simpering morons. And I'm pretty certain that telling someone they're a wonderful mother when it's reasonably clear that they actually aren't, is pretty unhelpful.

Oh, and I don't want random strangers kissing me either, thanks.

You ok hun? X

Maybe get irate when it happens to you.

Abrupt enough?

You need a snickers, you're not you when you're hungry

It’s the NetHun invasion

Not sure you can tell others how to respond to threads?

I'm not sure what the issue is here but you sound like a wonderful mother and a really really great person xx
You can get through this babe xx

🤣🤣🤣

It's clear you've put up this hard exterior here, but it's obvious you're a wonderful person underneath. Xx

Not sure you can tell others how to respond to threads?

I'm pretty sure I can. And I'm pretty sure they'll ignore me anyway.

It's good to rant though.

It's a good job nobody has done it to you then.

Thankfully most people manage to be kind without gushing and try to be nice to posters who need some support.

@saraclara if ranting makes you feel better sweetheart then you carry on lovely. xx

You sound lovely OP!

Sorry to read this, sweetheart.

I think you’ll find there are plenty of people who short straight from the hip on here. When a poster is clearly desperate it’s good to see kind support. I hear you, however, that ‘you’re A fantastic mum’ is generally a bit wide of the mark. 😉

Do you not realise that people’s responses are about them and not you? Take a step back OP and actually think what this whole forum is all about. People are responding to themselves and identifying OPs as themselves in order to answer.

I'll try to bear that in mind in case you post a problem, and in case I remember your username and that you don't like sentimental replies, and in case I get tempted to put a kiss in my reply for probably the first time in my life.

loserssaywhat 😂😂😂

Your bubz, your rulez, Hun. #blessed

Thankfully most people manage to be kind without gushing and try to be nice to posters who need some support

Well exactly. @LolaSmiles. And that's what I'd hope for when posting about a problem. But there's being nice and there's being vomitously sweet while offering nothing helpful at all.

I somewhat get what you’re saying...when people say “you’re a wonderful mum” when they know next to nothing about the person.

But....sometimes there are people who have no one in RL to tell them they’re doing a good job, wonderful, amazing, hard working etc.... and for some, it may be the only compliment they get. It’s each to their own really. It makes me shudder when people that don’t know me call me sweetheart, darling, lovely..... but I understand that for some people that’s the norm.

To sum it up, different strokes for different folks.

MWAH.

You are all fantastic posters xxx o xxx

...and a lot of you are making me laugh out loud! Thanks for that.
You're wonderful people

Oh sweetheart, are you stressed my darling? It sounds like you're doing so much, you're too kind my love and it sounds like you go above and beyond giving too much of your wonderful self. Have a break, have a kitkat love n hugs Coke xxxxx