Is it rude for my partner to get up and add leftovers to the meal I just made him or am I just hormonal ??

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Hello there- I’m wondering if you could clear up a question around table manners please?
For a family evening dinner a member of the family cooks a homemade pie and a vegetable salad. It takes quite a while and care is taken to present the meal.
The person it is served to picks at the parts of the salad they like and then goes to the kitchen and brings back some leftover cold veg from the fridge and adds it to the meal. Is this bad table manners?

YABU to serve salad with pie. I'd have got up and made some chips.

"Vegetable salad"

I'm intrigued by that, please can you expand OP?

Pie doesn't go with crunchy salady texture/temp so now I'm curious!

You handed your husband a carefully presented plate of pie and salad, certain ingredients of which he doesn't care for. He does, however, remember some left over veg that will help him enjoy the meal further and also uses up leftovers. Win-win I'd say! It sounds a tiny bit controlling/naggy to get annoyed if he doesn't eat exactly what you say he should eat. Do you get cross if he wants ketchup too? My husband would have gravy over everything, it gives me the heaves but he's a grown up so if he wants to cover his food with it it's up to him. How would you feel if he made you a plate you didn't quite like and then got huffy if you wanted to add something you did like to it?

Leave the bastard!

This all sounds so formal, I imagine the OP and her partner to be sat one either end of this

The contrast between the thread title and the OP's post - brilliant!

OP, I am normally one of the first to complain when a thread gets deleted because the OP doesn't get the response they want but in this case, I'd agree it needs to go.

Why do people like you blame everything on being "hormonal" you make us women look stupid!

Who has pie and salad, veg goes with pie salad does not.

Leftovers are meant to be eaten, it was a bit of cold veg

Yabu 🙄

Were they a bit scared to heat the veg up?
Was it a quiche? That wouldn't sound so odd.

Not rude to eat leftovers but rude not to ask if anyone else would like some too.

Wtf is a veg salad?!

Pie needs warm veg (and roasties and gravy)

In my world “vegetable salad” translates to mixed veg. Did you also have gravy? Potatoes?

really wants a pie now

Salad? With pie? Good grief, OP, you’ve brought this down on your own head.

At home, with family, perfectly fine and preferable to the leftovers going to waste.

🤨 how much care could it possibly take to present pie and salad on a plate?
Anyway, YABVU.

So if your partner has taken the bits he likes, does that mean you’ve put stuff on his plate he doesn’t like, it so, why put them on there?

He’s in his own home, can’t he eat as he wants? Strange.

What's a vegetable salad? Is it a salad with...cabbage and things? Or just a normal salad?

@EnidPrunehat
I’m doing the same 🙄
This hormonal excuses does my tits in!!! Stop being the little silly woman ffs 🤬

Was it a quiche or a proper pie? And what is a vegetable salad?

Not remotely rude. And it’s pointless to try to anonymize who is who when you’ve said in the title....

This ^

I agree with what everyone has said.
You've served stuff that (you presumably knows?) he doesn't like, he hasn't moaned or expected you to do anything about it, but remembered there was stuff he did like going to waste in the fridge, so complimented his meal with some extra things he does like.

Win win

Why do people like you blame everything on being "hormonal" you make us women look stupid!

Hear, hear P1nk, the way hormonal is used as a get out of jail free card on here and IRL it is no wonder women are rarely taken seriously.

For God’s sake, own your own emotions! Don’t claim they’re down to ‘hormones’!

I don’t see a problem with this, it’s a family meal, in his own home, he can eat what he likes. Did he ask you to cook the special pie which takes time and effort to make? If he didn’t, then you cooked it because you wanted to and he’s eating it. No problem whatsoever.
Was it a nice pie btw? Maybe it was too small?

I think you are being unreasonable because this was a family meal, where everyone knows each other and feels comfortable with their companions. Not a lot different to what you might do at home.

Just as a side note pie with salad is wrong wrong wrong!!. Chips or Mash with veg or beans or gravy any combination of them is fine.

What if it's cheese pie though? Salad is more acceptable then.