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Son getting annoyed when his clothes are in the ironing pile

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Buxton22386 · 02/08/2019 23:54

My oldest son is 21 and became very annoyed this morning because he couldn't find a pair of jeans. He was shouting his displeasure at 6.30 in the morning until I had no option to get up and find them (because it wasn't worth the complaints from the neighbours). He tells me it is a problem with the system I have for the washing. He was really rude and went out slamming the doors behind him. Its not the first time, and yes, I've told him he should leave if he is not happy about it.

OP posts:
TooTrueToBeGood · 02/08/2019 23:55

He's 21 not 12. Tell him to do his own damn laundry.

BackforGood · 02/08/2019 23:56

Not even sure what you are asking Confused

Surely if a 21 yr old wants to wear only ironed jeans, then they need to learn where the iron is?

Original poster
Buxton22386 · 02/08/2019 23:56

I have done. I just needed to rant about it because I am so fed up with him.

OP posts:
Simkin · 02/08/2019 23:57

I wouldn't be doing his washing any more. He's 21 OP.

HennyPennyHorror · 02/08/2019 23:57

Fucking hell! I pity any girl he sets up home with. You need to fix this NOW! Tell him that after this morning's performance you won't be doing any of his laundry. He can perfect his own system and do it his way.

AND DON'T DO HIS WASHING EVER AGAIN. He's hugely rude.

FrancisCrawford · 02/08/2019 23:58

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Tatiannatomasina · 02/08/2019 23:58

Tell him congratulations, he now has the pleasure of doing all his own washing and ironing.

Leeds2 · 02/08/2019 23:58

I would tell him that, as from tomorrow, all of his washing and all of his ironing, is his responsibility. Not yours. And make sure you stick to it.

Walnutwhipster · 03/08/2019 00:01

Fuck that. You shouldn't even be touching his clothes at that age, let alone ironing them and you're doing a disservice to any future partner he may have.

pigsDOfly · 03/08/2019 00:01

Probably best to let him do his own washing in future so he can develop his own, more efficient, system then.

Sounds like it's time for him to move out and take his entitled attitude with him.

BluePheasant · 03/08/2019 00:03

He needs to do it all himself from now on. Clearly what you do isn't good enough for him. That would be it for me, I would stop doing any chores for him. It sounds like he thinks you are his domestic servant.

WizzyWanta · 03/08/2019 00:03

If it's any consolation OP, my son has moaned at me for the same thing.
He does his own laundry now and actually seems to prefer having that control.
I have to say, I was reluctant at first in case he disrupted my washing routine, but it hasn't been too bad and it's helped him learn to become a bit more organised, which is amazing!

Floralhousecoat · 03/08/2019 00:04

Op, what is his father like? I ask because your son seems to be showing signs of controlling behaviour.

merlotqueen · 03/08/2019 00:06

You got what you raised, a housework shirking son.

Aquamarine1029 · 03/08/2019 00:10

I certainly hope this post is a joke. A 21 year old man can manage his own fucking laundry, ffs. You are doing him NO favours mollycoddling him like this. You are not his maid! My son was doing his own laundry by 13 because all children need to learn life skills. Stop this nonsense. Honestly, it's bloody embarrassing.

justilou1 · 03/08/2019 00:15

Why are we still raising men to be abusive dickheads like this, we ask ourselves?

UrsulaPandress · 03/08/2019 00:15

I'd have taken a pair of scissors to his jeans.

HeadintheiClouds · 03/08/2019 00:15

Why wouldn’t you hand him the iron? Causing a rumpus loud enough to have the neighbours complaining is unacceptable, regardless of the reason, tbh, that’s shocking.
Maybe it’s time he moved out.

GrapefruitIsGross · 03/08/2019 00:16

Why are you doing another adult’s laundry in the first place?

ErrolTheDragon · 03/08/2019 00:17

He tells me it is a problem with the system I have for the washing

Yup. The system where you do it for an ungrateful adult.

He doesn't have to leave, but from now on, if you've got any sense, he'll have to do his own washing and ironing.

HeddaGarbled · 03/08/2019 00:19

Ranting on here is a cop out. The rant needs to be directed at him. And yes, agree, with PPs - he doesn’t get his laundry done at all any more after that disgusting behaviour.

WellThisIsShit · 03/08/2019 00:23

So did you expect to raise a man who treats women like this?

Or is this something that’s come as a shock, against the values he’s grown up with?

Because these are two very different situations...

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 03/08/2019 00:24

Chuffing hell. The system from hereon in is very simple; he launders his own clothes.

He'd better bloody write an apology card to the neighbours too.

KUGA · 03/08/2019 00:26

WOW,I cant believe he has thrown a hissy fit you did afterall do his washing.
Personally, I would give him the iron and tell him to sort his own system as of today.
And don't back down .
Selfish beyond belief.
Enjoy having less to do.

katewhinesalot · 03/08/2019 00:27

Lucky him that he's going to get the chance prove he can be better than you.
You will make him do his own now, won't you.