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Son getting annoyed when his clothes are in the ironing pile

210 replies

Buxton22386 · 02/08/2019 23:54

My oldest son is 21 and became very annoyed this morning because he couldn't find a pair of jeans. He was shouting his displeasure at 6.30 in the morning until I had no option to get up and find them (because it wasn't worth the complaints from the neighbours). He tells me it is a problem with the system I have for the washing. He was really rude and went out slamming the doors behind him. Its not the first time, and yes, I've told him he should leave if he is not happy about it.

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Hidingtonothing · 03/08/2019 02:08

I remember being so angry with my older brother for this when he was a teen/early 20's, the way he spoke to my DM used to disgust me. I still loathe him 25 years later and he's still an arrogant, disrespectful arsehole. Time for some tough love OP, please don't stand for being treated like that.

AmeriAnn · 03/08/2019 02:13

He'll treat his wife like this and then she'll kick him out and you'll be saddled with him forever. Tell him this.

timshelthechoice · 03/08/2019 02:39

Ameri he won't make it to the altar with a lot of women in 2019. My girls would dump a manchild like this like a hot brick.

Tojigornot · 03/08/2019 02:43

Well, he needs to do his own laundry and learn some manners.

But who irons jeans? Confused

StillCoughingandLaughing · 03/08/2019 09:53

aghast - adjective. filled with horror or shock. "she winced, aghast at his cruelty" synonyms:horrified, appalled, astounded, amazed, dismayed, thunderstruck, stunned, shocked, shell-shocked, in shock, flabbergasted, staggered, taken aback, speechless, awestruck, open-mouthed, wide-eyed;

I know exactly what it means, thanks. That’s why I find it so ridiculous that someone would use it regarding a minor argument about laundry.

user1483387154 · 03/08/2019 09:57

he needs to do his own laundry including ironing

mummmy2017 · 03/08/2019 10:03

Son,thank you for pointing out at 6 this morning that I am crap at doing your washing, since I can't bare to disappoint you again, since you have such high standards, I am bowing out on doing your washing...
Thank you once again for your constructive comments.

pikapikachu · 03/08/2019 10:43

My 18 year old started doing his own ironing at 15/16ish? Why are you doing a 21 year old's?

Isatis · 03/08/2019 10:51

I do hope that you have made it clear that all adults living in your house are responsible for their own washing from now on.

finn1020 · 03/08/2019 11:02

What a spoilt little brat, OP must want him to stay at home forever as no twenty something female would want to be in a relationship with a rude man child.

fedup21 · 03/08/2019 11:05

You are supposed to iron jeans? Sorry, prob missed the point of the thread there!

Does he have additional needs?

Smelborp · 03/08/2019 11:07

He will be a crap husband expecting everyone else to wait on him and shouting in the morning until he wakes people to solve his problems. That’s quite abusive. Don’t just moan OP. This needs action.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 03/08/2019 11:14

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Tighnabruaich · 03/08/2019 11:14

This has got to be a joke, surely?

Beaverdam · 03/08/2019 11:28

Chuck him out. Give him up months notice to pack his stuff and find a place. You are not doing him any favours by doing his laundry. Sooner or later he will find a partner and move out...do you want hom to be a useless husband to her and incapable of looking after himself? He is 21 and a grown man. Its time for him to get out.

fleshmarketclose · 03/08/2019 11:29

Well I'd thank him for pointing out the faults in your system and congratulate him on being able to set up a more worthy system for his own laundry and then I'd dump the lot on his bed both dirty and clean in a heap and tell him to get on with it. Then I'd tell him that any other dissatisfaction with your methods will also be treated the same way so he needs to keep his mouth shut and finally I'd tell him he has a week to find somewhere to live if he ever treats you so disrepectfully again.

WishingILivedOnAnIsland · 03/08/2019 11:35

Fuck me. I can't wait to see all the posts on here from his future girlfriends and wives about what a sexist, entitled, nasty man he is.

OP, shut this down before he goes our into the world.

Never do a stitch of laundry for him again, and tell him he'll be pulling his weight with housework and speaking with respect- or heading out the door!

BrokenWing · 03/08/2019 11:36

The laundry isn't the issue, tell him if he speaks to you like that ever again he is out. And mean it.

GreenTulips · 03/08/2019 11:38

I don’t iron jeans!!

Did you jump up, find them and iron them?

Did you?

Hercules12 · 03/08/2019 11:43

Ds naturally started cooking for himself at 15 as well as doing his own laundry. Dd is 15 and foloowed his lead of her own accord. You need to look at what you're doing for him as I bet you do a lot more than just his laundry. You've done him no favours but no reason to continue now.

LagunaBubbles · 03/08/2019 11:44

Does he normally talk to like dirt?

Aprillygirl · 03/08/2019 11:59

Tell your moody son (and I have one of those, so I do sympathise) the problem is system overload resulting in a breakdown of it's operating system (you) and the only remedy is for the complainant (him) to take over control.

stucknoue · 03/08/2019 12:01

My DD's got their own laundry basket for their 16 birthdays. Nip out and buy him one today and teach him how to operate the iron pronto

Skittlenommer · 03/08/2019 12:09

He’s 21 and you’re still doing his laundry!!!!! Jesus Christ no wonder he’s a spoilt brat!

He must have a great opinion of women having been waited on hand and foot! Good luck to anyone he has a relationship with in the future, they’re going to need it!!

Queenioqueenio · 03/08/2019 12:26

By throwing a tantrum, he’s actually done you a favour. You can refuse to do any of his laundry or ironing from now on, completely guilt free due to his terrible attitude.

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