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Son getting annoyed when his clothes are in the ironing pile

210 replies

Buxton22386 · 02/08/2019 23:54

My oldest son is 21 and became very annoyed this morning because he couldn't find a pair of jeans. He was shouting his displeasure at 6.30 in the morning until I had no option to get up and find them (because it wasn't worth the complaints from the neighbours). He tells me it is a problem with the system I have for the washing. He was really rude and went out slamming the doors behind him. Its not the first time, and yes, I've told him he should leave if he is not happy about it.

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 04/08/2019 00:15

I’m enjoying the competitive ‘my DS was 5 when he started washing, ironing and darning his own socks’. I’m waiting for the poster whose baby was ironing their own nappies before they came off the tit.

WaxOnFeckOff · 04/08/2019 00:18

I’m enjoying the competitive ‘my DS was 5 when he started washing, ironing and darning his own socks’. I’m waiting for the poster whose baby was ironing their own nappies before they came off the tit

So you think it's okay that a 21 year old either can't, or doesn't do his own laundry?

I am definitely overindulgent with my DC, however not teaching them to do stuff for themselves is doing them a disservice, not a favour.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 04/08/2019 00:27

Where did I say it was okay? It can’t be that hard to read four lines of text.

WaxOnFeckOff · 04/08/2019 00:58

Well you are the one slagging off posters pointing out that these things should be learned at a younger age - I may have missed people who actually said that their 5 year olds were doing their own ironing but I think that was an exaggeration for "comic" effect.

I can read perfectly well thanks, I can also analyse text and yet still manage to teach my DSs manners and how to look after themselves and many many other things.

SummerBreezemakesmefeelfine · 04/08/2019 01:00

My DS went off to uni at 18. We packed loads of tins and stuff for him, because he had never cooked. Within a few months he got sick of eating rubbish and simply learned to cook proper food. Same with ironing, some of his clothes he might wear without ironing as many young people do, but would not be seen on a night out or go to work in the city with an outfit which wasn't ironed.

DD lived at home for much longer and was spoilt, but now she has her own home she can manage to do everything quite effortlessly. Her housemate wanted to get a cleaner and she stood her ground and refused to pay for this when they can easily do it between them on alternate weeks. The place is spotless. I am now wondering why we let them off so lightly when they lived at home with us.

Isatis · 04/08/2019 01:39

OP, I hope by now you've had another discussion with your son and made it clear that from now on his laundry is solely his responsibility.

StitchingMoss · 04/08/2019 01:46

I’m loving some of these responses - my kids aren’t quite there yet but will definitely be taking on board tips from you guys on how early they can start doing their own laundry! Can’t wait!!

MammaBot211 · 04/08/2019 01:54

Yep my unborn GC can already iron and wash up! 😝

mussolini9 · 04/08/2019 02:15

Yep my unborn GC can already iron and wash up!

Oh stop boasting @MammaBot211. My DOG can do that, & he's a whizz at office admin too. I'm dictating this to him right now.

PerkyPomPoms · 04/08/2019 02:43

He sounds a right lout. I’d stop doing his washing - let him develop his own, better, system.

scarbados · 04/08/2019 02:55

The only problem with your laundry and ironing system is that he isn't doing his own laundry and ironing. Tell him to fuck off.

EL8888 · 04/08/2019 03:41

I would say this is a troll post but l fear it’s real. If he doesn’t like you system then he needs to do his own washing and ironing. Is he always so rude and high maintenance?

Topseyt · 04/08/2019 03:52

My children could do their own laundry, wash up/load or unload the dishwasher etc. before they were even born! How's that for great parenting?Grin

latexsalesman · 04/08/2019 06:05

Honestly, I'd tell him it's time to move out and give a deadline. It's not just about the laundry, his obvious lack of respect for you is glaring.

QueenBeee · 04/08/2019 06:12

Why are you posting when you know the answer - but seem unable to carry it out presumably it's easier to skivvy than to stand up to ill mannered son

Beautiful3 · 04/08/2019 06:23

I would wash but not iron his stuff. Leave it in separate pile on his bed for him to iron.

ISpeakJive · 04/08/2019 06:30

It's mother's like you that manage to turn their sons into demanding, egotistical arseholes.

speakout · 04/08/2019 06:34

YABU for having an ironing pile.

We are a family of 5 (including a 21 yo son ) and I do all the laundry.
Works for me.

ivykaty44 · 04/08/2019 06:38

He tells me it is a problem with the system I have for the washing.

Best he sorts out the system for his own washing & ironing then.

transformandriseup · 04/08/2019 06:43

I won’t boast about doing the washing/ironing when I was 5 because I didn’t. My dad still did it until I left home, but only because he preferred to do it all in one go and not having it lying around. I paid my parents rent though and wouldn’t never have dreamed of complaining.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 04/08/2019 07:03

I'm afraid you get what you set up here - why on earth is he unable to look through a pile of clothes by himself? Why is he unable to do his own laundry? and why on earth did you let him get away with criticising your "system"??

I'm the same as the majority of posters on here - he'd be doing his own from now on. You've done him no favours here, he sound like an entitled yob with no manners who thinks it's ok to get you out of bed at 6:30am by SHOUTING so you don't disturb the neighbours! never heard the like - he'd have the riot act read to him in my house.

Rude, entitled, yobbish behaviour. Time he pulled his own weight, or fucked off elsewhere.

longwayoff · 04/08/2019 07:19

Phoooey. I ensured that my embryos were genetically engineered to make them self supporting from birth.

lawnmowingsucks · 04/08/2019 07:21

@Buxton22386 you might want to rant but you're setting your DS up to be a useless misogynistic husband in the future. Well done Hmm

Awrite · 04/08/2019 07:24

Well, he has learned that shouting leads to him getting his own way.

Agree with everyone else - stop doing his laundry. Bet you won't though.

bellinisurge · 04/08/2019 07:26

I love ironing. My dad taught me. I used to do it for beer at uni. Don't iron jeans. Or anything except work shirts and stuff that looks too wrinkly. He should fuck off and grow up.