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That a friend shouldnt do this?

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IAmNotPatientOrPregnant · 30/04/2019 19:28

So I probably am being unreasonable.

But basically a few days ago, I told my friend I had found the car of my dreams but I couldn't afford it at the moment. She asked me what I wanted and what colour. I told her the colour choice was for a relatively sentimental reason.

She messaged me today to tell me shes bought a new car and us picking it up this evening. The car I told her I wanted, in the same colour.

I'm probably acting spoilt and bitchy but there was a reason behind my colour choice and I absolutely love the car.

What annoys me the most is the car wasnt even at the garage, she specifically went there and asked for that car in that colour.

It's not the first time shes done it, but it's always been with little things, not a bloody car.

She knows I've been feeling down lately and this has just stopped it all off.

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RhiWrites · 30/04/2019 19:34

You’re going to get slated, I think.

But your friend sounds deeply competitive and weird about it. Think about it this way, it’s not her dream car. She actually bought a fucking car to one up you.

That is bonkers. Dump her as a friend.

Bestfootforward1 · 30/04/2019 19:35

Sounds bizarre. Like "Single White Female".

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 30/04/2019 19:35

But off of her to gloat about a new car when you’ve confided that you can’t afford one. But the colour thing is just plain silly, sorry.
You can’t bagsie a car colour for sentimental reasons.

Xyzzzzz · 30/04/2019 19:35

Don your hard hat but I agree with you. She sounds competitive and it seems like an unhealthy friendship.

starbrightnight · 30/04/2019 19:35

There's something wrong with your 'friend'. Dump her.

Beachbodynowayready · 30/04/2019 19:36

You need to apply a huge fake tattoo. Stand back and wait...

HarrysOwl · 30/04/2019 19:37

She's weird. Did she even mention it? Like "oh I love that car and colour too I might get it this week"?

Yeah. odd

Armadillostoes · 30/04/2019 19:41

YANBU-It would be different if the colour was just a coincidence, but this was deliberate. Someone who goes out of their way to hurt you and put you down is NOT a friend. I love the fake tattoo idea.

Tink88 · 30/04/2019 19:45

Sentimental car colour?

Dvg · 30/04/2019 19:53

I understand what its like, i had a friend who went and bought a horse that was the exact one i wanted to get, same color, same breed even the same markings..... She didn't even know how to horse ride just went and bought one that was 180 miles away and kept her in a field... It hurt very much as she had never been interested in horses btu suddenly when i was looking at buying one she bought one first.

Put me off getting one after that.

SnapesGreasyHair · 30/04/2019 19:53

So.... she went and purchased the actual car that you wanted?

Or

Went and purchased an identical one to what you wanted?

Either way absolutely bizarre and not a normal thing for anyone to do.

She sounds nasty and not someone I'd want to be friends with.

SnapesGreasyHair · 30/04/2019 19:54

@Dvg - omg!! So what happened to the poor horse?

usernameusername01 · 30/04/2019 19:55

I'd be irritated by this too but not a lot you can do.

Why is a colour sentimental?

RozHuntleysStump · 30/04/2019 19:55

Poor you. What a loon.

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IAmNotPatientOrPregnant · 30/04/2019 19:56

Sentimental is the wrong word for the colour, but there was a specific reason behind it lol.

I couldn't find the word , but competitive is exactly it.

She didnt mention it at all until she was going to get it.

Now she wants to come over and show me her new car, I've told her I'm busy.. busy in bed eating copious amount of chocolate.

I know it's silly and unreasonable but something about it has got my back up. Could be because she agreed with my reason behind the colour, I just dont get why you would go for the exact thing a friend who couldn't afford it wanted. It feels like a bit of a kick in the teeth.

I've known her since I was 4, lart of me wants to bin her off, part of me cannot do it. I need a back bone Blush

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Princessphoebe75 · 30/04/2019 19:56

She sounds odd.

HBStowe · 30/04/2019 19:57

It’s weird that she specifically asked about the colour, and that this is part of a wider pattern. On its own it’s not a big deal but she sounds generally competitive and difficult.

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IAmNotPatientOrPregnant · 30/04/2019 19:58

It's a really odd and silly reason for the colour so I'm not prepared to share my reasons as you'll all laugh and raise your eyebrows but.. reason no less!

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baubled · 30/04/2019 20:00

I think it's weird getting the same car without even taking the colour in to account.

Loopytiles · 30/04/2019 20:00

Weird and shit of her.

M4J4 · 30/04/2019 20:00

No, its not silly and unreasonable. Don't dismiss it as her insecurity, she's mean. Call her out on it.

It's not a pink Fiat 500 is it? Grin

AnnieMay100 · 30/04/2019 20:00

Random thought but could she be surprising you with it as a gift? Otherwise I think she’s being petty buying a car is one thing but getting the exact one you wanted is odd

Loopytiles · 30/04/2019 20:01

Can understand getting the same car, if for example she’s lazy about researching options. But weird on the colour, and shit to want to show off to you the car YOU wanted!

CrazyPineapple · 30/04/2019 20:02

You should go over to look at the car, tell her it's lovely, really suits her, then declare how relieved you are you decided against that colour! But then, I'm a bitch Grin

HarrysOwl · 30/04/2019 20:02

Tell her you're thinking about getting your inner labia pierced.

Please. Please do that.