That a friend shouldnt do this?

[IAmNotPatientOrPregnant]

So I probably am being unreasonable.

But basically a few days ago, I told my friend I had found the car of my dreams but I couldn't afford it at the moment. She asked me what I wanted and what colour. I told her the colour choice was for a relatively sentimental reason.

She messaged me today to tell me shes bought a new car and us picking it up this evening. The car I told her I wanted, in the same colour.

I'm probably acting spoilt and bitchy but there was a reason behind my colour choice and I absolutely love the car.

What annoys me the most is the car wasnt even at the garage, she specifically went there and asked for that car in that colour.

It's not the first time shes done it, but it's always been with little things, not a bloody car.

She knows I've been feeling down lately and this has just stopped it all off.

Ask her why she’s done it.

Call her on it.
If she scoffs and says your being silly, say no your being weird. Don’t let her brush you of.

If she asks again to come over and show you her new car you should respond with "I already know what your car looks like as it's the exact same bloody car I told you I wanted you fucking weirdo".

Yanbu at all, it's an odd and petty thing to do.

I’ve always had to wait weeks to pick up a new car. Could she have already bought it when you told her about it?

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to be upset. This was something personal to you and she’s - seemingly deliberately - trampled all over it.

Unless this had also been her secret dream that for some reason she’s never previously mentioned, her behaviour is weird. Somewhere between competitive and spiteful.

Weird

Agree, it's weird.

Use a temporary dye and a fake tattoo and show them off. Tell her they are permanent

Sit back and watch

I wouldn't be trying to be the bigger person and not let it get to me, I'd just bin her off. What sort of a complete bell end does that? No friend of mine!

Under boob tattoos are your friend. Expensive holidays to exotic countries with lots of mosquitos would be interesting. Perhaps you’d like an extension and mahoosive patio doors... or to buy your own home if you are renting.

I'm normally in the camp that would say, "och, you don't own X, Y or Z, it's a free country". But this feels targetted and too niche to be anything other than a chance to wind you up. I'd probably ignore her for a bit, yanbu.

I'm petty but I'd go round and see the car and say something like "oh it doesnt look as nice as I expected in that colour" or "ahh cool, I've been looking at x(different) car now and it's so so nice I really want one"

Hyper competitive, weird and mean.

Loving the tattoo idea!!

@stinkywizzleteets unfortunately not. My OH works at the garage and they have a huge chain do if another branch have that car they just get it taken to the garage she wants it from

I’m amazed that she managed to just walk into a garage and get them to source a specific car, in a specific colour, and she was able to go and collect it a couple of days later. I’ve always had to wait weeks for a new car.

Other than that, yeah it’s seriously strange and I’d text her “I don’t need to see your car thanks, it’s the exact same make, model and colour that I told you I wanted the other night - don’t you remember that conversation?”

I really wanna know the colour and car!

Lol at the tattoo idea. Make it Sponge Bob on your inside wrist.

That's really odd behaviour, OP. YANBU.

I've already bought my own home, hence why i cannot afford a new car :(

I'm trying to be the bigger person and planning on how to just grin and bare it when I do see her. But at the moment I feel like I'm going to lose my shit with her.

God I hate people.

weird.. yes never tell her anything real you want..

Yep. Wierd and a bit nasty too. Like she wants to take something nice from you... It's also a bit childish, like being at school and telling your friend you fancy a boy, then she goes and snogs him. Don't let her near you DH! Definitely tell her you are saving up to get something painful and permanent.

That would be it for me for rhecrriendship

All of the revenge ideas are great.

Unfortunately shes already got a few tattoos and I have none because I'm the biggest wuss!

She has been onto me about a matching tattoo, which I've always declined because.. well why would I want a matching tattoo?

Maybe this my chance to take her up on the offer and plan something horrific.

Well, she's the fool. She's just paid out a few grand in order to one up you. Idiot.

But really OP, you do need to grow a backbone, she's not a friend, and she'll just keep doing shit like this to bring you down. It doesn't matter how long you've known her, she's not good for your mental health, so you should ditch her.

Just tell her I'm seeing friends" every time she suggests coming over. If she says she wants to show you her car say it's only a car, you know what it looks like. Just be busy busy.

Did you actually show her a picture of the car you wanted or just name it?

If you just named it I'd pretend that I'd said the wrong car, so I'd see her car and then act confused "oh I thought you were getting the pink fiat that I wanted" when she points out it is the pink fiat suddenly realise it's actually a Mercedes or bmw 5 series you meant 😂